Depression

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Let_Robinson_Sing wrote: »

CnM please feel free to share. We are all here to help you and listen to you if you have any problems

Yes don't be shy:)

We have all been through the mill and everyone has been great:)

Tiff_2

Hi hunnie - I'm home! :hello::D


"Get out of the way, cat coming through!"

Tiff - Tiff - Tiff - Tiff - Tiff:j

And how are my little iguanas?:D Missed every one of you.

Wow - what a week!:rolleyes: Sorry for going awol yesterday guys.:o I've been too exhausted to get online. 'Tis the start of Tiffy's writing season and the first deadline is next Friday.:eek: It's a local Festival Of Arts and I always enter. Sadly, it's frustrating too because I try to clear my mind (both inches!:D ) but it's full to overflowing.:rolleyes: So I just try and do it as soon as inspiration smacks me in the face which can happen at any old time.:rotfl:

I've had a couple of drs appts which went well - well kind of :rolleyes: - and yesterday my CPN took me into town and I bought the dress I'm going to wear for my brother's wedding in mid-May! It's on order - got it from Monsoon! Now that may not excite a lot of you guys, but I can't afford to watch their commercials, let alone shop there! Lovely stuff in there -really feminine. And they do heifer sizes too!:j

After the well-intentioned but hurtful comments about me just wearing the dress I wore at Christmas to the wedding, I decided to go all out - I want to be pretty for a day! And while I was in Monsoon, they were having a 70% off sale and I bought a jacket and a chic little (well not so little!:o ) top for a total of £35. I've scheduled a guilt attack for Monday at 10a.m.:D

I'm hoping all is well with you guys and I mean it sincerely when I say that I've been thinking of you all. I hope you'll bear with me over the next few days guys.:o Got to strike while the iron's hot as they say. You'll probably enjoy the peace and quiet.;) Huge Tiffy hugs to everyone.:A
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi gilly!:hello:
How are you angel?

gillette147 wrote: »

I have had a nervous meltdown today. Woke up at 7am, got up at 8am. Read four old exam paper and then tried reading my notes. It was just bouncing off my head. My brain has had enough of it and is rebelling. I have lost my common sense......... So I gave up. Phoned my mom, went for a drive, went to get rid of some aggression by hitting golf balls at the range. Then spend 2.5hrs on the putting green. I've got blisters I played so long. I just needed some time NOT thinking about the course.
You made a good decision hun. As I'm finding out at the moment, sometimes the worst thing you can do is make your brain take in things when it's overloaded. You didn't lose your common sense hun, it was the right decision - what would have been the point of sitting there and just getting more and more stressed? Plus you were communicating with mum and that's good that you haven't isolated yourself.;)

It's stupid not to study but I had a row with g/f yesterday and I am just all over the place. At the minute I feel the exam is unimportant. My well being seems more important. This anger, fear and pain inside me needs to be dealt with. I feel I can't cope yet at the same time I want to sort it out. I really wish I could see my counsellor now. To find a way to let go of this prison of unhappiness I've put myself in.
Gilly hun, with all that you're going through at the moment, all you're emotions are going to be heightened. Your well-being must come first hun. Is there a contact phone number angel that you can contact your counsellor on? Might have had a cancellation and be able to fit you in. I'm really sorry you're in a low spot hun.


I feel let down by the world. I hate people. I am alone in a godless world.
I don't know if I rejected the world or the world rejected me first.
Sweetheart, I can hear your cry for help. You don't hate people gilly - if you did, this board would be the last one you would post on. You wouldn't care how any of us feel or have any compassion. And yet you do hun - even though you don't feel it, you are a strong, warm and caring soul gilly and I !!!;)
The state of the world shifts all the time angel but there is one thing you're not - and that's alone. This sounds, imho, that a huge amount of stress may have kicked off your depression angel. Maybe a trip to the dr wouldn't hurt hun?

I'm calmer now....but is that an illusion I make for myself? None of it goes away. I just accept it for a while. Then it comes back as depression or a need to push people away. I am so messed up....I don't know whether I can be normal. I'm trapped in cycles of testing/pushing away/hurting myself.
Calmer is not an illusion angel. You've opened up your heart, vented, let the pain out and calm is what's left - it's healing hun, so don't doubt it. I think we can all relate to what you've described gilly - which means that you are not that messed up at all!:A In fact compared to ol' Tiff hun, you are 1000% sane!:D


I want to be a nice person but I'm not really. I do the right thing but I resent it. But I don't know how to ask for what I want. I wait for someone to come into my life who will know what I want and give it me - because they love me. But no-one does. My g/f doesn't understand me. Not even near. I get advice I don't want and when I try to explain - it is too foreign to her to comprehend.
I can truly empathise with this last paragraph hun. Imho gilly, you are a really good person - you prove it on here time and time again hun.:T We all want that someone - we just have to wait for them angel, if they're not already here. When we're at our lowest, that's when we want that special someone the most.:o

Gilly hun, we've all got parts of us that we'd like to change. It isn't just you. When we're really low gilly, we can't see the positive points that others see in us every day. But they are there hun. I think that what you've written here is what we all want, how we all feel, but it's important to remember that the illness might be causing this.
When you're this low angel, don't make any decisions - wait till the storm has passed.

I'm sorry about your upset with your g/f angel. If you haven't been there you can't fully understand - heck, it confuses the hell out of us! Even we get confused by it all! But what can help us, is to know that no matter what we're going through, that person loves us still, hun. And you have to let them in to love you. Who wouldn't want unconditional love?

I obviously don't know your relationship gilly, and I wouldn't presume to preach.;)
Have you told her everything hun? -Not that you have to. Have you though about linking up to the MIND site and getting info for friends and loved ones of someone who is depresses or has another mental ill health problem? Sometimes, seeing it in black and white, in an 'official' form, can make all the difference in helping someone to understand what we're going through.

I hope you don't mind gilly but I just thought a couple of links here from MIND may help you or someone else.
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+cope+with+exam+stress.htm

Quote passage from MIND -
" What can friends or relatives do to help?"
The very nature of depression, which brings a sense of hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness, can prevent someone who's depressed from seeking help. They often withdraw from friends and relatives around them, rather than asking for help or support. However, this is a time when they need your help and support most. Perhaps the most important thing that you can do is to encourage your friend or relative to seek appropriate treatment.
Try not to blame them for being depressed, or tell them to "pull themselves together". They are probably already blaming themselves, and criticism is likely to make them feel even more depressed. Praise is much more effective than criticism. You can reassure them that it is possible to do something to improve their situation, but you need to do so in a caring and sympathetic way.
People who are depressed need someone who cares for them. You can show that you care by listening, sympathetically, by being affectionate, by appreciating the person, or simply by spending time with them. You can help by encouraging them to talk about how they are feeling and getting them to work out what they can do, or what they need to change, in order to deal with their depression.
If the person you are supporting is severely depressed, you may be faced with some hard decisions about how much to do on their behalf. If, for example, they are not looking after their physical needs, should you take over and do the shopping, cooking and cleaning for them, if you are able to? Or should you try and encourage them to do it? There are no easy answers to this situation. It will help if you can find someone with whom you can discuss these and other issues.
Supporting a friend or relative who is depressed can be an opportunity to build a closer and more satisfying relationship. However, it can also be hard work and frustrating, at times. Unless you pay attention to your own needs, it can make you feel depressed, too. Try and share the responsibility with as many people as possible, and find people to whom you can express your frustrations. There may be a local support group of others in your situation. You could also talk to your GP or another healthcare professional about getting help for yourself and your family. (See Useful organisations and How to cope as a carer.)

Don't know if that helps at all hun, but if not, it's probably helped you to sleep!;)

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh! Just a badger rant people xxx
I'll be far better at 4pm tomorrow
Badger rants are just as important as any other kinds angel!;) I hope 4pm was kind to you and that you'll feel a little better from the stress easing. Apologies to you and the rest of the gang hun for the length of this.:o :rolleyes:
Thinking of you badgie!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi saz!:hello:
How's you angel? Sounds like they're keeping you very busy at work hun being mid-launch - either that or you've locked yourself in again!:rolleyes: :rotfl:





Ok, ok, I'll let you have half today and all of tomorrow off - but no blue smarties for you!:p

Yeah and another thing guys - didn't I tell you sazzy'd be a size 2 and a half?! She denied it but then posted her pretty photo! Hah - BUSTED!!!:D

Anyway angel, I hope you're ok and I'm sending Tiff hugs by courier ok? Oh, the things I go through for you sazzery!:rolleyes:



Ok hun - catch up with you soon. Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Just posting a couple of shorties before I end up breaking t'internet!:rolleyes:

rosie - you go from strength to strength hun - you are seriously over-talented! When you're on TV, can I get your autograph please? You're a real inspiration rosie.:T Try and take some you time hun - you deserve it.;) Will try and pm this weekend.

ethel - I'm so glad that things have finally got moving in your favour angel! It sounds like you've finally got what help you need.:T You deserve it hun - try and catch some rest while you can.

to blinky, pumpkin, elona, pb, l-r-s, rbk, gilly, cm, qb, cc, miro, l-t-d, stenny, flis, beer, bunnie, nippy and apologies to those names my brain won't find atm,:rolleyes: , I'm thinking of you all and hoping you're well. Have a great weekend guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

beer2006

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Yeah it's feeling pretty empty on here today *lonely*

RBK, Rose, CC, Tiff and Ethel :grouphug: anyone else that wants it as well.
I hope you are all feeling more lovely this morning and if you are not, here is a special beer morning kiss for you :kisses3:

I've been working all hours, so I haven't had time to be worried about anything (much :rolleyes: ) and I also have been trying to read this thread, but running out of time.

Got the weekend off, apart from family visits which I could do without.
No breakdowns, no big depression here......... just the usual

Tiff, I don't know how you manage to be a tower of strength and wisdom ALL the time, but I'm glad you are.

gillette147

I have no time to readback.
I'm off to Brum (should have left 3 minutes ago!!)

Exams were mixed. I'm sure I've passed the morning one (I hope - eek).
The afternoon one was a pig. All the questions areas I was OK on didn't come up. So I waffled my arrse off - I'm boedreline and have no idea which way it could go.

The truth is that I put down on paper all I know - I showed myself as best I could - I'll forget it for 10 weeks and I'll see.

Love you all - and thank you for your support and care.

xxx

EthelBloggs

gillette147 wrote: »

I have no time to readback.
I'm off to Brum (should have left 3 minutes ago!!)

Exams were mixed. I'm sure I've passed the morning one (I hope - eek).
The afternoon one was a pig. All the questions areas I was OK on didn't come up. So I waffled my arrse off - I'm boedreline and have no idea which way it could go.

The truth is that I put down on paper all I know - I showed myself as best I could - I'll forget it for 10 weeks and I'll see.

Love you all - and thank you for your support and care.

xxx

Now relax and have a lovely weekend.. Well done on getting thru it, had I been in your shoes I would have bottled it

lots of love xxxxxxxxx

EthelBloggs

Tiff wrote: »

Hi hunnie - I'm home! :hello::D


"Get out of the way, cat coming through!"

Tiff - Tiff - Tiff - Tiff - Tiff:j

And how are my little iguanas?:D Missed every one of you.

Missed you tooo

Wow - what a week!:rolleyes: Sorry for going awol yesterday guys.:o I've been too exhausted to get online. 'Tis the start of Tiffy's writing season and the first deadline is next Friday.:eek: It's a local Festival Of Arts and I always enter. Sadly, it's frustrating too because I try to clear my mind (both inches!:D ) but it's full to overflowing.:rolleyes: So I just try and do it as soon as inspiration smacks me in the face which can happen at any old time.:rotfl:

Blimey.. we have a literary genius in our midst I always admire creativity in people, cos I have none meself and I wish I did

I've had a couple of drs appts which went well - well kind of :rolleyes: - and yesterday my CPN took me into town and I bought the dress I'm going to wear for my brother's wedding in mid-May! It's on order - got it from Monsoon! Now that may not excite a lot of you guys, but I can't afford to watch their commercials, let alone shop there! Lovely stuff in there -really feminine. And they do heifer sizes too!:j

Repeat after me, I AM NOT A HEIFFER, I AM A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND I AM PROUD OF EVERY CURVE, LUMP AND SCAR BECAUSE THEY SHOW THAT I HAVE HAD A FULL LIFE

After the well-intentioned but hurtful comments about me just wearing the dress I wore at Christmas to the wedding, I decided to go all out - I want to be pretty for a day! And while I was in Monsoon, they were having a 70% off sale and I bought a jacket and a chic little (well not so little!:o ) top for a total of £35. I've scheduled a guilt attack for Monday at 10a.m.:D

I don't understand the attitude of some people, perhaps she's afraid of you outshining her.. people are weird and reveal their insecurities in some strange ways at times

I'm hoping all is well with you guys and I mean it sincerely when I say that I've been thinking of you all. I hope you'll bear with me over the next few days guys.:o Got to strike while the iron's hot as they say. You'll probably enjoy the peace and quiet.;) Huge Tiffy hugs to everyone.:A
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

We shall miss you... but am very excited at the prospect of an author in our midst

lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sazbo

Morning my lovlies :hello: Hi ethel hun! :hello: Sat here with me cuppa. God, feel like it's the first time I've sat down this week. Work, etc. :rolleyes: Forgive me not being around much this week

Hope you've all got nice things planned for today.

Much love,
Sazbomberxxxxxxx