Depression

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

yeah.. she's a bit better now, painkillers kicking in.. she's ate a whole tub of icecream and can tolerate a bit of light so hopefully she's on the mend now.. I still wanna kill her tho, lol

Don't blame ya!:) Gotta crash hun, work tomorrow...:rolleyes: Hope you get some sleep, I'll catch you tomorrow.

Sazbomberxxx

EthelBloggs

na night.. have a good sleep

I can't cos of having to do these eye drops every fekkin hour!!!! :mad:

lol xxxxxxxxxxxxx

rose07

TIFF





and for you and the rest of the gang



thinking of yas

just going through a bad time meself atm

just had some very upsetting news too

shame no one about lol

take care all

sweet dreams, hope you can sleep

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

stenny_2

rose07 wrote:

TIFF





and for you and the rest of the gang



thinking of yas

just going through a bad time meself atm

just had some very upsetting news too

shame no one about lol

take care all

sweet dreams, hope you can sleep

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Big Huggzzzzz Rose.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you hun xxx, thinking of u. xxx

stenny_2

Hi CC

Was u around in Falkirk today by any chance?
How is the house sale going?

:A

Tiff_2

Hi sooz!:hello:
How are you today hun?

SoozieSoo wrote:

Hi everyone,
I have been on Cipralex for about a week. It has been rough, with headaches and feeling very low. The doctor says this is to be expected for the first few weeks, but I have to stick with it and try and hold it together.
Ads can have a few side effects hun and as dr said, try and sit it out. It's ironic that something that's supposed to help us can make us feel carpy for a few weeks. This is because it's working with your body's chemistry and getting slowly into your system hun. Which is no consolation at all, is it?!:o If it becomes too much physically hun, back to the dr and see what they say.

I have a husband and a child, and am a SAHM. My husband was ok for the first day or so, but now he is losing patience will me. I am finding it hard to do the most basic of things and at the moment I am just managing to keep up with the laundry, shopping and feeding everyone.
It can be hard for others to understand hun. Let's face it, we ask a lot of them when usually we can't understand it ourselves!;) We get frustrated that this is happening to us abd he may feel the same hun.

Are there any family or friends around that could help out in any way angel? If not, could you go and stay with someone for a couple of weeks holiday/respite?
If your child is 5 or under, contact Homestart in your area. It is a charity that helps out struggling mums practically.
Another idea is to call your local volunteers service to see what else might be on offer in your area.
If your child is 5 or more, then hopefully the return to school may ease the pressure a little.
Also angel, it might be worth talking to either Social Services (adult and/or children's) or your Health Worker, to see what they can offer.
If none of this helps, please go back to your gp hun and show him your post. They also might know of a local service.

My house looks like a bomb has hit it. This makes me worse as I have the need to control my environment and untidiness makes me anxious. My husband did not get up until 2 today. He also forgets to mention he had an extra shift at work and left me alone with this untidy house and a child to look after. He said that his work must come first and he can’t hold my hand for the next few weeks.
Sooz, I can understand how you feel hun - I can't relax sometimes, so I just get on and do it and actually sometimes, it's like a therapy. You can't help being ill angel. You have to help yourself by letting go of worrying about unnecessary things. You need to rest and relax hun. As hard as it is hun, let it go - housework is not important. No-one judges you sooz - you are poorly and you need to break it all down into small steps to manage it.

What might also help to do this, is to actually draw up a little timetable for doing jobs. Make sure you schedule in some relaxation time - that's important.;) It doesn't matter if you don't vacuum for a day or two. When we're very depressed, everything feels like it's on top of us sooz - try and remember that this is possibly part of your ill health hun and don't be so hard on yourself. This timetable can also help to keep you a little active, which is a good thing, even though it doesn't feel like it angel. You'll ease some of the confusing pressure, and the low self esteem too hopefully. There's no magic wand is there hun? But there are little ways to help yourself - and one of the most important is to make sure you're looking after yourself properly.

OH is also probably feeling a little scared with not knowing what to do. He should support you hun, but not knowing the situation in depth, I can't really say. It is probably quite unlikely that he can be with you for these 'weeks' until the meds kick in completely hun. You would be under a lot of financial pressure then, which won't help how you feel.

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but it seems that you're scared hun. This is so completely natural! You might be feeling the need for someone to look after you, or help out. or even just be with you right now. There's a lot of changes going on angel so this again is 'normal'.
Try not to think about the meds taking 'weeks' sooz - weeks can be 2, 4, 6, 8, 12, whatever. Looking at such a big picture is scary hun so don't do it.;)

I really feel like stopping the medication. I feel so low and I have no support from anyone. My husband simply does not understand. He thinks I am on the pills now and should be “better”. I know in a few weeks things may look up and the house will have to wait until then. It just makes me so sad that my husband cannot be there for me...
You should NEVER stop taking any medication without your gp's supervision hun - it could make you feel a lot worse. Right now, try and see that there's a lot going on for you hun and you are stressed, and that's not a good place to be when making decisions. Besides, the ad is already starting to work in your body - would you really want to have to start all over again hun?

If you contact or visit either your gp's surgery, there are usually leaflets available to explain different illnesses, including depression. If you can't do that hun, get on t'internet :rolleyes: and look up MIND who have a whole range of free printable factsheets on many things, but also includes one for family and friends of someone who is depressed. Maybe long-term, you may consider going to Relate either with, or without, OH.

Above all hun, well done for posting how you're feeling.:T None of what you've said is in any way abnormal. I know the fantastic guys on here will continue to support you angel. It can help to know that what you're feeling isn't unusual. We're here if you need us hun - keep posting and know that you're not being judged in any way. Hope this has helped a little hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Hope everyone made it through the night.;)
I just want to say thank you again for all you did for me yesterday. It really helped me look at things differently - thank you all.:A

Very tired Tiff so just got time for a quickie...(shut up!:rolleyes: )...

saz - good luck with counselling tonight angel - hoping all goes well for you. I'll be thinking about you. Take care hun.

ethel - sorry to hear about DD angel. Hope she's better soon hun. Have a good day.

ethel & stenny - I'm getting more and more worried about you two!:rolleyes:
I've seen him taking you to Ikea!!!:eek:



First it's a wardrobe - now a bed?!:D
Is it because you got rice pudding on your old one?
Now if you'd only got some chickens like beer said...:rotfl:
Hugs to the stenny-meister too!

Going to go now guys - have been up since 3a.m.!
Have a great day everyone - be safe.;)
Huge Tiffy hugs to all.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

Morning everyone :hello: Got a guy here seeing to me water works....... :rotfl:

Hope you're feeling a bit better today Tiff and thanks for the good wishes re counselling.

Love to you all. Have a good day,
Sazzyxxxx

SoozieSoo

Thank you for your kind words, especially Tiff for taking the time to write such a wonderful reply.

Feeling a little better today. It is back to school, so I think that has helped. I have managed to do a little housework so the house is not so bad now.

I feel so weak as I have so little on my plate and yet I can't cope. What about those womne with 3, 4 children and a full time job? I have one child, no job and yet I still can't cope! That is why I have not told anyone, except for my husband as they would think I am having a laugh. I told my mum a few weeks ago that I was feeling stressed and she just laughed and I said I did not know what stress was and that I was a lady of leisure.

I am going to take this one day at a time.

MimiJane

SoozieSoo wrote:

Thank you for your kind words, especially Tiff for taking the time to write such a wonderful reply.

Feeling a little better today. It is back to school, so I think that has helped. I have managed to do a little housework so the house is not so bad now.

I feel so weak as I have so little on my plate and yet I can't cope. What about those womne with 3, 4 children and a full time job? I have one child, no job and yet I still can't cope! That is why I have not told anyone, except for my husband as they would think I am having a laugh. I told my mum a few weeks ago that I was feeling stressed and she just laughed and I said I did not know what stress was and that I was a lady of leisure.

I am going to take this one day at a time.

I remember when my OH was told by a friend some time ago it was "all in his mind". We sometimes look back on that comment and have a chuckle ... it certainly is and not much to do with what you have to cope with a lot of the time! Other people have made comments to him like "what have you got to worry about, you've got money in the bank haven't you?". We may be lucky enough to have inherited a bit of money (really helped as he's been out of work for years), but it makes no difference to his depression ... just look at all the celebs. who suffer is my comeback comment.

It can be so difficult for others to understand when you get stressed and depressed and we have to bear with them as they'll never "get it" unless they suffer themselves or live with it ... so frustrating.:rolleyes:

We don't have kids and life's been b****y awful at times ... I greatly admire anyone who can bring up a child when they suffer from stress/depression. You're doing a grand job hun ... be proud and don't let others who don't understand get you down. Just take it one day at a time like you are doing and we're all here for you when you need us xx