Depression

Bunnie1982

EthelBloggs wrote:

geez... you think they'd do it as a goodwill gesture given the mess they're putting you in.. could you dig your heels n stay put as sitting tenants?

We could, but it wouldn't do us any favours in terms of a reference.

gillette147

EthelBloggs wrote:

hiya gilly

congrats on the new baby for starters Sometimes I think big events like that can highlight what we see as shortcomings in our own lives/selves somehow, even tho that's completely irrational.. it's like.. we can't fully go with the moment and enjoy it because everything else in our lives isn't just right.

Re the g/f... how old is her son? speaking from experience.. kids are experts at emotional blackmail and making you feel guilty for even breathing! Could be that he played the old.. but you're always away at the weekend.. we never do anything.. blah blah blah.. and that plays havoc with relationships.. I know cos I've been there!! It takes a strong man to get involved with someone with kids from a previous relationship.. cos quite often there is a battle of wills which can make life hell and if she's like me.. she'll try not to let you know about it in case it scares you off.

Try to keep the barrier down if you can hun.. she can't be bored with you.. I doubt that that's even possible!

Take care n massive huggs!!

Ethel xxxxxxx

I never know what people think of me.
I am funny (y'know, i'm not stupid) but I never know if it's what people like about me or it's what people don't like about me.

I can imagine it becomes irritating if it's too much. But if I stop being funny I worry it just becomes boring.

I dunno....

learning_to_drive

Gilly the depressed mind sadly makes us think of the worst possible outcomes for all the situations, im sure that you are not boring and she isnt bored of you!

Had a 14 hour sleep, so now up at 4;45, gotta be aware being on nights of having more sleep this afternoon at some stage, god its starting to depress me a bit being on nights if im honest, there cant be long left for me there, should have heard from natwest last week but didnt, so hopefully i should hear from them today perhaps. I have a telephone interview with HBOS tomorrow for their call centre, its the last thing i want to do, but its stopgap till September when I go to uni, so I have to be patient and disciplined!

The thing with nights is the boredom when i wake up at mad hours, such as now, no one else is up, its very antisocial, Ive got another couple of jobs to look at later on today. I dont say im depressed with it all because its a very strong word! But it does get me down, but it was a stopgap, ironically i text a lass i text on nights (she has a baby so shes up at 3 am) 6 weeks ago saying i would be out within 6 weeks. I am now entering my 6th week of my personal deadline so.....

Happily ive got a bit of pain at the back of my mouth, think its my wisdom teeth coming through aches, like a real dull ache.

Hope everyone is ok,

learning_to_drive

Additionally, i've now sold my car so i have to rely on my dad to give me a lift to work, my plan is to probably return home via train so he doesn't have to get up. As I said, I sold my car purely because I thought I would have had a job by now in a city centre so I would use public transport. I want to be independant but its hard, i dont know, its a small problem, and im only working till september when i get a part time role in another retailer and begin Uni, after all my recent troubles im just desperate to get out and start my life! As tiff says im like a firecracker all over the place. Im pleased I have plans in place for the future, but im acutely aware that i need to begin earning money and setting up a budget for proper costs. All requires time, when im on nights my days are written off effectively as im too zombified.

Tiff_2

Hi karrie!
Sorry hun - I just did a huge post directly to your individual thread on the Health board - I'll see if I can shift it.
Glad you're here hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

learning_to_drive

Morning tiffster! :hello:

Tiff_2

Hi karrie - here you go hun.:rolleyes:

Today, 5:57 AM Tiff


Hi karrie!:wave: Hi guys!:wave:
I'm sorry you're feeling so low hun. Just in case you or any other posters don't know, there is a really friendly depression thread running on the health board. I know they make everyone welcome. Just a thought.;)

Depression is an awful thing. I think it's great that you've posted hun. :T You may already know that there are different kinds of depression and that it affects people in different ways. Angel, when we lash out verbally at our loved ones in anger, it's usually because there's a lot of fear there inside you. It's no wonder that you are so down hun after the experiences you've had. Your barriers come up to protect you, even when there's no threat if you've been abused or if there's been trauma. And if it's any help angel, a lot of us know exactly how you feel.;)

We can't give medical advice on the threads but we can help each other in other ways. You seem to have very low self-esteem hun and you are being too hard on yourself. I'd say that it is time to go and see your gp angel to get the help and support you deserve. Make sure you tell the gp that this depression started in childhood, long before your PND. And yes, you can ask for counselling.

The dr will be able to refer you for an assessment and they are the gateway to all kinds of help. Assessments are a good thing because they show the whole picture. And if you do go on a waiting list angel, you can be moved up if you're in more need than others. I'd wait to see what's offered hun before I go privately - also you don't want any treatments to clash which they could do if you see different people.

Ten years is a long time karrie - I'm sure like everything else, there have been developments in the field of counselling. Sometimes it really helps to have that 3rd party perspective on what's happening angel.

You "can't move on" hun because there are issues that haven't been fully dealt with, or maybe other issues have happened since then. It can all add up.

You say you take tablets when you're really bad - angel, anti-depressants (ads) should never be stopped and started. They don't get chance to work properly hun. Your gp will be able to advise you on meds and make any alterations if necessary. Why not print off a copy of your post and show it to your doctor, just in case you forget to say things?

I don't think it's a case of asking for more tablets karrie, you'll need a new assessment first. It may be more than depression and you may need more counselling angel, but the dr needs to make an accurate diagnosis. I think you should let the dr know everything and then they can make an informed decision and you can work on any options together.

Depression - any mental ill health - can be the loneliest illness. I'm sure everyone around you tells you how nice you are, but we just can't seem to see it for ourselves. If you can hun, instead of dreading the night out, try and turn it around and say to yourself, 'I'm going to enjoy myself - I deserve a night out.' Then plan every detail of what makes you feel better and use it when the day comes. Try and look at some relaxation methods too hun. I didn't believe in it, until I tried one that worked for me.;)

You don't come across as feeling sorry for yourself hun. But you know what? You are entitled to! There's no shame in that karrie. You've been through a lot and you're obviously a survivor hun! :T No-one can tell you if depression will go away for you karrie - only your dr can advise on that.
But, if it doesn't go, then you'll have a lot of help and support in learning how to manage your life. No-one stays completely down forever hun - nothing ever stays the same! - you'd still be able to have fun and have a good life.

What's important is that you look after yourself angel. Be kind to yourself. Take it all a step at a time. Try not to over-think things karrie. Stress makes it all worse so by making a plan to get things started by seeing your gp now, it should hopefully give you some peace of mind. Don't delay it hun, because you'll just be delaying your recovery.

Hopefully, this action will lead to improvements in all the areas of your life, including your relationship, because they'll look at you as a whole person and not just a case. You'd be amazed at just how many people really can relate to how you feel hun. Get as much support as you can karrie. Feel free to come over to the Depression thread any time - there's a pool of good info, resource ideas and support there, and we're all non-judgemental.;)
Keep us posted angel and let us know how you get on. Sorry for the long post.:rolleyes: I hope it was some help. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx


xxx

Tiff_2

Quote:
Originally Posted by Tiff

I thought saz would be up by now with her cup of tea!:D
Tiff xxx

Sazbo wrote:

I'm having it now:D:D

Sxx

I'm sorry?????:eek: :rotfl:
Good luck today hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi l-t-d!:hello:
How's you angel? Are you feeling better?
You're doing really well hun - proud of you.
Much Love,
Tiff zzz (have to change it for night workers!:D )

Tiff_2

...tiff-tiff-tiff-tiff-tiff-tiff-tiff...
Good morning guys!:hello:
Hopefully just about back to my usual self.;) How are you all today?
Sorry I left the thread so quickly yesterday, but the board was driving me nuts!:rolleyes: I couldn't post a reply & the thanks buttons didn't work - I was losing the will to live!;) The computer heard a lot of very unTiff-like words!:rolleyes:



saz - good luck with counselling hun.:T Have a great day angel.

ethel - don't start any trouble with the visitors! Take care hun.

bunnie - hang in there angel - Tiff's on the case :rolleyes: - I'm going off into the
Tiff files hun - will get back to you tonight sweetheart. I
need to know what kind of tenancy you have hun. Did you put
down one or two months money as a deposit? There is hope hun -
we'll sort it ok? I'm a fairly good Tiffster in this field.;)
Stay the *fluff* away from those doorstep lenders bunnie - you'll
end up in a worse mess! - there are better options - don't do it!
Talk to you later angel.

cm - how are you feeling angel? Sorry about your cold hun - stay warm and
look after yourself properly.

gilly - how are you angel? I'll post a proper reply to your posts later hun.
I'm thinking of you gilly - you're our favourite badger and don't you
forget it hunnie!

blinky - good luck with the psychiatrist today hun - just don't make him cry
this time ok?;) Seriously blinky - hope you had a good weekend
and take care.

pumpkin - how are you hun? Just wanted you to know we're here for you
angel.:T

rose - glad to hear things are going well hun.:T Don't tell me - you're
pregnant! Am I close?:rolleyes: Take care hun.


ATTENTION PLEASE.....
We seem to be missing a few regular people from the roll call guys.
If anybody sees a stenny or a miro or an elona or a qb or a glad while they're out, do not approach them directly, but please instead, point them in the direction of the hugs factory.:rolleyes: They may well be going through hug withdrawal.:o Seriously though guys, I hope you're all well. Missing you.

to the rest of the family - sorry I can't stop to say hi to everyone.:o I'm thinking of you all and wishing you a good Monday. Look after yourselves and take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx