Depression

Horasio

Big hugs to Bunnie - sorry to hear things haven't been good.

Horasio

I know there are people with far worse problems than I have but I am having this problem I can't shake off. It is really getting to me.

We are trying to sell the house and looking around at what is around. We have events this month to celebrate.

I realise it is stressful buying and selling houses. It is nice to have nice events to celebrate.

I am trying to keep happy and I can get myself happy easily enough but I can't do anything about the forces and people around me chipping away at it. I won't list them as it is very boring.

To be honest I only feel happy when I don't have to mix with people and life just leaves me alone!

It is like I have to get happy and cope with the others sh*t on top. I can't cope with it - I have limits! I am not that strong.

I want to be happy and others to be happy. If they are not, I would want them to talk to me about it at an appropriate time, rather than just drag me down when I am trying to keep my head above water. I am happy to listen to people but I can't take them being a/holes because they are too scared to open up.

I realise nothing is perfect but it is relentless.

My OH brings me down just before we go out or have a viewing. I am getting to the stage I am scared to get happy.

Then if we do make it out, other people or things have a go at us.

Or a million things go wrong just to keep us bored. I will scream if someone says, that is life - it doesn't help and makes me feel even more pssed off. For 10 years it has been never ending and there has been some major stuff in that time. I feel cursed.

I just want to be happy and not have a million things attack it:(

queensway_boy

BIG HUgs to all

CarolnMalky

CCStar...have you been to your gp and spoke to them? tried counselling? I had a nervous breakdown almost 2 years ago now, and I know how you feel...sometimes I just want to go under the duvet and tell everyone to beat it! One of my friends told me that God doesn't give us things we can't cope with...it always makes me stop and think when I feel like this.

We are all here for each other...keep talking to us and if anyone wants to PM me I'm here!

QB thanks for the hugs hun xxxx

learning_to_drive

Stil have some of ex's stuff, I think about her all the time at work and stuff, i wa convinced she was the girl i was to marry and have kids with. Shes back home on fri for weekend, wants to see me to give stuff back. I said id rather post it cos i still have feelings for her, and would make things a lot harder if i was to see her whilst i have these feelings.

Its hard, so so hard.

CarolnMalky

LTD...maybe easier on you to tell her you are busy this weekend, could you post it to her, or leave it somewhere(maybe with a friend?)

Horasio

CarolnMalky wrote:

CCStar...have you been to your gp and spoke to them? tried counselling? I had a nervous breakdown almost 2 years ago now, and I know how you feel...sometimes I just want to go under the duvet and tell everyone to beat it! One of my friends told me that God doesn't give us things we can't cope with...it always makes me stop and think when I feel like this.

We are all here for each other...keep talking to us and if anyone wants to PM me I'm here!

QB thanks for the hugs hun xxxx

Yes done all that, even trained in counselling so know all the ways to deal with it.

It does help to talk about it tho', otherwise it builds up like a pressure cooker.

I am good at what I do but feel the world just wants to pick up on my weaknesses rather than strengths.

CarolnMalky

CCStar wrote:

Yes done all that, even trained in counselling so know all the ways to deal with it.

It does help to talk about it tho', otherwise it builds up like a pressure cooker.

I am good at what I do but feel the world just wants to pick up on my weaknesses rather than strengths.

I find that I concentrate on my faults and flaws rather than saying "hey im really good at x, y and z" The thing about human nature is it loves faults...you just have to watch the news to see that! Drives me mad...we try so hard to be positive and get through the day.

Dont bother yourself with what you think others are saying/thinking about you!
C xx

Horasio

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Had too much negative news lately to take on board and with lack of support from my husband I am feeling so down and anxious again.

He has promised for weeks to take care of the finances and that has not happened.

We had serious problems with the car which are now sorted.

Now we have received 2 months notice from our landlord because he is selling the property - we have not got any money at all to be able to put down on another property and I am really upset and my husband is just so apathetic about it.

Sitting here crying me eyes out and he is in bed snoring his head off

Lack of support from a husband or partner is underestimated. The people you feel you should trust are letting you down.

Can I ask why you need to him to sort anything out - he clearly isn't and I know you would be more than capable without his negative forces bringing you down.

We too have been evicted from a property that has had a landlord wanting to sell. You will get your deposit back and you may have to keep renting just now.

You need to detox your life, and get back on track. I know you can do it!

Horasio

CarolnMalky wrote:

I find that I concentrate on my faults and flaws rather than saying "hey im really good at x, y and z" The thing about human nature is it loves faults...you just have to watch the news to see that! Drives me mad...we try so hard to be positive and get through the day.

Dont bother yourself with what you think others are saying/thinking about you!
C xx

Oh blimey, the news, full of depressing stuff. I try to limit seeing it to once a week. I usually have the end bit on for the weather.

Very good advice thank you.

I was in Glasgow last night btw and had a great time:)