Depression

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Bunnie1982 wrote:

Had too much negative news lately to take on board and with lack of support from my husband I am feeling so down and anxious again.

He has promised for weeks to take care of the finances and that has not happened.

We had serious problems with the car which are now sorted.

Now we have received 2 months notice from our landlord because he is selling the property - we have not got any money at all to be able to put down on another property and I am really upset and my husband is just so apathetic about it.

Sitting here crying me eyes out and he is in bed snoring his head off

Oh hun,

Don't know what to say. Thinking of you

geminilady

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Had too much negative news lately to take on board and with lack of support from my husband I am feeling so down and anxious again.

He has promised for weeks to take care of the finances and that has not happened.

We had serious problems with the car which are now sorted.

Now we have received 2 months notice from our landlord because he is selling the property - we have not got any money at all to be able to put down on another property and I am really upset and my husband is just so apathetic about it.

Sitting here crying me eyes out and he is in bed snoring his head off

Hi Bunny,Well your hubby may be in bed snoring but you are never alone on here.Sorry you are fealing so bad ((((HUG))))Problems with finances can make us feal very down and the news about your property must feal like the last straw,but at least you have two months to find somewhere else.As you have no money to put down on another property councel accomadation is the obvious answer.I would go and see my local councel as soon as possible and explain the situation to them.

Bunnie1982

Thanks geminilady, that is an option but like with all councils there is a waiting list. We would probably fall quite low in the list as we both work full time and should "in theory" be able to afford a rented property. Whereas in reality this is not the case. Sorry feel very despondent about councils as I used to work for one

geminilady

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Thanks geminilady, that is an option but like with all councils there is a waiting list. We would probably fall quite low in the list as we both work full time and should "in theory" be able to afford a rented property. Whereas in reality this is not the case. Sorry feel very despondent about councils as I used to work for one

Well if you used to work for the council you will know more about it than me but i thought they had a duty to house people who are going to be homeless?If not is there a relative that could lend you the deposit for a private place or even put you up until you can get the deposit?.It must be hard knowing your husband is asleep when you are sat up crying.I would be tempted to go give him a shake lol.

Tiff_2

Good morning my little geckos!:wave:
How's everyone? Breakfast hugs for all!
Going to try and go into town today. Silly I know, but it's the same day and place as last week when I fainted and I'm feeling jittery.:o
Plus I've GOT to go as my DS will be 17 (if he makes it that far!:D ) on St.Valentine's Day and so there needs to be some gift buying. My stretch marks will be 17 too, but do I get a present?!!!:rolleyes:
I have to do it today because I've got my little op tomorrow and then I'll be under house arrest recovering!:rolleyes:
And I've got so many jobs to do around the house, as well as some writing, (which still hasn't been done!:D ) Mum's still ill and DS is doing his first public performances at Stratford-upon-Avon College tomorrow and Friday night and I can't go.
I know, I know - break it down into little pieces!:rolleyes:
Whatever gets done, gets done and whatever doesn't, doesn't - there problem solved!:D
Wishing you all a wonderful Wednesday!:T
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

G'morning everyone

Can't stop.. am already late!

Just want to leave huggs for bunnie.. will you not get enough back from your deposit to the current landlord to put on a new place or is that a stupid question? I've no idea how these things work

Megahuggs for Tiffy... hope all goes well for you the next few days.. i'll try n get back and post again later, hope I don't miss you

lots of love to eveyone

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tiff_2

Hi bunnie hun!
Oh angel, my heart goes out to you. I'm sorry you've had such a rough time. It's hard when your the problem solver and you hit a low spot and there's no-one to take over the reins.
There's the possiblity that the new landlords may want to rent angel, though I know it's a long shot. Ok angel, lets break it up.

First hun, get a written notice from your landlord - you'll need it to prove your situation. This is very important. You can't do much council-wise without it and you have to have written notice of his intentions before you can be evicted.
Bunnie, what kind of tenancy do you have? This can affect how much time by law that a landlord has to give you.

Re. Finances - and Housing - It's CAB time hun!;) They can work out a financial statement with you, negotiate a payment plan on your behalf with creditors and help sort out a budget for you. Take all your bills, bank statements, landlord's letter etc. with you bunnie.
You should also ask them about the housing situation. They are used to tussling with housing departments. They've seen it all before at CAB hun and they're lovely people. Their assistance should help to take the pressure off you bunnie. CAB is a really great charity.:A

Re. Housing - Even though you both have incomes angel, you would still qualify to apply for a council house. Yes there is usually a long waiting list BUT in cases such as yours, if you haven't found somewhere else by then, you'd qualify as being as an emergency and go towards the top of the list.
You need to go to your local council offices and get an application form NOW. That way the council will be in the know and up to speed should you need them. They'll want to contact your landlord to verify everything etc and look at your finances so by getting all that done in advance, you'll have the answers to their questions.
Now don't misunderstand me, they're not just going to throw a set of keys at you hun - you may have to persevere and keep chasing them. But the sooner you're on the waiting list the better, because you'll be accruing points angel. Something will come up somehow hun so dry your eyes - you won't be left to sleep on the streets bunnie.

Another option may be to contact your local council and get the details and criteria of any housing associations in your area. They're more expensive than a council house but a lot cheaper than most private landlords. They do tend to have strict qualifying rules and some will only consider you if your council refers you, which is more than possible if the council agree you're about to become homeless.

I hope this helps a little bunnie - it's always good to have a plan angel - it relieves the stress and anxiety.;) Maybe DH doesn't know what to do regarding the finances hun? I don't know. Sometimes when we feel we're in too deep, it's easier to bury our heads in the sand.
And don't forget to check back in with your gp if it's all getting too much again! Depression can get worse at times of high stress and so it may be worth checking in for an appt hun. Anyway angel - good luck and keep us posted.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys - me again!:wave:
Forgot a couple of things.:rolleyes:

Hi blinky! - Good luck with meeting r's mum tonight angel! :T Just enjoy yourself - I'm sure it'll all go well hun.

Hi miro! - I've not forgotten about you angel - will reply to you as soon as I can. I'm proud of you hun - hang in there.By the way, those blue smarties you found? Placebos!!!:D

Hi ethel! - Thanks for your kind thoughts sweetie.;) :A Take care and I'll try and stop in later.

Hi Sazzy! - Had a brainwave (well, a ripple!:rolleyes: ) and thought I'd check for some loose change for the wedding hat fund. Now where can you always find some change?

That's right - in armchairs and sofas! Found 73p!! What are we up to now hun?
Er, Saz - I don't suppose you could help pull me out could you - kinda stuck and I think miro's looking for our blue smartie stash?!:eek: :rolleyes: :rotfl:
Huge hugs and love to all.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

Morning lovlies :hello: Bit busy today. Got a meeting in 30 mins, then home this afternoon to let a builder in to replaster my ceilings... assuming he turns up this time LOL. Will post later today when I get a chance, and will also recalculate our hat fund Tiffy!!

Big hugs to each and every one of you, especially our Bunnie.

Much love,
Sazzyxxx

CarolnMalky

Morning all,

Hugs to bunnie, I dont know what to say except we are all here for you hun.

Enjoy your shopping trip Tiff, let us know how you get on.

Good luck for tonight Blinky-Im sure it will all go well.

Hiya Ethel, GL, Saz and all others:wave:

C xx