Neighbour Problems!!

JingleJangle

mumto2loves wrote: »

your neighbour isn't allowed to keep the ball, if you wanted to you could call the police, this happend to someone where i live

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1293374/Woman-held-hours-refusing-children-ball-teach-lesson.html


i think its unreasonable to ask you to not play in your own garden, tell her its her choice, you put the net up to stop the ball going over or you don't and she may be asked ocasionally to throw the ball back over.




we've got a tiny garden and my 4 year old son used to love to stand and TRY and kick it over the wall then stand and shout for our next door neighbour to "throw the ball back please" in the end I told my son if the ball went over he had to wait until they noticed it before he could have it back (ie he had to stop playing with it for a couple of hours or more!) luckily my neighbour had the opinion that it was the next stage on from a baby dropping a toy and getting someone to pick it up for fun over and over again.:o

That would have annoyed the hell out of me if I had been your neighbour.

tyllwyd

I think it is unreasonable to expect a young boy not to kick a football around in his garden, but equally it is a pain if balls keep coming over - if a net is not enough, how about putting up trellis? Or growing up a tall hedge?

SuzieSue

I feel sorry for the old woman too if she can't sit in her garden for fear of being hit by a ball.

You son needs to be more considerate. If there is any chance of him kicking it in to her garden he shouldn't play there.

How would you like it if your son was a toddler playing in your garden and some teenage boys kept kicking the ball in to your garden or if your elderly mother couldn't sit in your garden for the same reason?

SuzieSue

tyllwyd wrote: »

I think it is unreasonable to expect a young boy not to kick a football around in his garden,

Why? Most people's gardens are too small for football except for a toddler.

pimento

We have a large garden and our son was never allowed to play football because it damages the lawn.

Take him to the park.

RobertoMoir

Sometimes both 'sides' need to bend their necks a little and compromise.

It's perfectly reasonable for your son to play football in your garden.
It's equally reasonable for your next door neighbour to not want to be bothered by balls coming over the fence.

So you put the net back up - tell her that the world is full of compromises and that you're going against her wishes on the net in order that you can both get what you want in other respects - and tell your son to be a bit more careful.

Yorkie1

Just a thought. Bats tend to fly more in the twilight. Perhaps the net could go up during football time and come back down before bat time.

jascrawf

I think your son should be allowed to play football in your own back garden, it's only right he has that freedom. Saying that, I do understand how it can be a nuisance to neighbours. My neighbour has a large back garden and her son kicks his collection of footballs over frequently. As soon as I step out into the garden, he persistently asks me to find it and throw it back, which I don't mind doing, but if I'm busy it can be a little annoying trying to find it with the vast amount of hedges, trees and the sheer size of my garden. I also have a dog who loves playing with and chewing balls. I tried the tactic of telling him I couldn't find it but he wouldn't stop nagging so I had to be honest and tell him my dog had chewed it - the tears were a plenty but it hasn't stopped him kicking it over.

What you could do is purchase a football that is attached to an elastic cord. If you Google "Euro Trainer Football Set" the first shopping result is for kidz-zone.com. I hope that helps and good luck with the situation.

FOX_HOUND

Our local football club in the Welsh league successfully prosecuted a nearby homeowner for refusing to return footballs.

Wobblydeb

I'm voting for the "trellis" option. It doesn't look out of place, it doesn't block the light and I'm pretty certain the bats should be able to navigate it