Breast feeding cover ups

tiamai_d

I used the double vest top (one up, one down) and cardi. Then I used the summer shawl just to wrap round the baby and come up like a little wall. I found that anything coming from over the shoulder got in the way as it took along time to get her to latch and then I had to watch and make sure she stayed on.

But then I also fed in a toilet so breastfeeders hate me more than the tutters.

They are her boobs and what she chooses to do with them are her choice

MrsE_2

gillypkk wrote: »

i HATED the idea of putting something over my baby while feeding! how would you like someone shoving a blanket or whatever over your head while you were eating? eyecontact while feeding a baby is the earliest form of communication and bonding between mother and babay and putting something over the baby while he/she feeds to me is horrible.

i just used the 2 vest tops one up one down. dorothy perkins do them 2 for £9 i think it was so not alot of expense at all or even cheaper in primark.

she needs to be aware baby may not like it and she will be missing out on the bonding experience while out and about.

They are designed so that the mother & baby can still see each other, but people walking past or sitting with them cannot see the mothers breasts.

Frankly I've found yours & another posters response hostile & unnecessary, like I said there are enough people who give BF mums grief with other mums - shame on you both:mad:

FatVonD

I just wore loose tops that I could pull up and even though I breast fed for years I could never, EVER do it in front of either of my parents (strangers no problem but parents, no!)

pebbles88

Hi,

I don't have children, but if I am able to then I really want to breastfeed if I can, but I would be very shy doing it in public, I have no issues with seeing anyone else do it at all.

MrsE does your daughter have any friends that have/ are bf'ing that she could borrow a cover up from them to see how she & lo get on with it?
Rather than buy something that possibly won't work for them both?

MrsE_2

pebbles88 wrote: »

Hi,

I don't have children, but if I am able to then I really want to breastfeed if I can, but I would be very shy doing it in public, I have no issues with seeing anyone else do it at all.

MrsE does your daughter have any friends that have/ are bf'ing that she could borrow a cover up from them to see how she & lo get on with it?
Rather than buy something that possibly won't work for them both?

She doesn't no:(

I did say to her about ebay at least she can trial them at cheaper prices - but there are so many brands she is confused which to go for.

gratefulforhelp_2

pigpen wrote: »

I never did.. the first I bf I fed her on the beach and on the bus and in the middle of a shopping centre all in the first few weeks.. and had anyone else had an opinion they would have been told mine!

Just because I have more than 2 children doesnt mean that I never did things for the first time once... I didnt wake up one morning with a house full.. I would think 15 years experience of breastfeeding and trying to keep myself covered up for WARMTH would be beneficial..

Not everyone is as forthright as us though;)

chunkychocky wrote: »

If you have big boobs then no amount of layering and shawls makes it subtle.

I feel your pain! It seems to require more hands!

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

I live in Madrid and go out and about a lot (to parks etc) and always use a bebe-au-lait nursing cover.

You lucky thing, best veggie restaurant I have been to was L'Estragon at La Latina.

sorry off topic:o

LolaLemon

MrsE wrote: »

She doesn't no:(

I did say to her about ebay at least she can trial them at cheaper prices - but there are so many brands she is confused which to go for.

Call the maternity ward , hv, gps and librarys and ask if they know of any breastfeeding groups going, even ones in neighbouring towns that she could maybe attend even once... the help u get from them are priceless, before I became a peer support helper, I attended the group, the breastfeeding counsellor was, to be nice about it, rubbish.(I had loads of problems and she was not helpful at all Grr) anyways, it was the other parents who attended that helped, and still got help whilst I was still going and feeding when my son was nearly 3.
we tried out each others slings, cover ups, talked contraception, sanitary stuff (most are now converts to mooncups due to these groups haha.... )
In the first few weeks, feeding can be a bit exposed, but that does change as the baby gets more confident at getting a good feed, and mum is more confident abt a good latch.

To start with when going out, go to shops with changing rooms, they can't refuse u , and legally any shop has to provide a feeding mother somewhere private place to feed.

(One restaurant told me to fed in the toilets, as that's where everyone else went, I asked her to bring her dinner in with her to eat whilst she keep me company, she soon offered me use of the office, and I informed her that it was illegal etc... thankfully, my food was already out on my table lol.)

minimoneysaver

I purchased a lovely black silky poncho from Monsoon and used it loads after baby was born. It doubled up as a blanket if she or I was chilly, covered me to save blushes too!

gillypkk

MrsE wrote: »

They are designed so that the mother & baby can still see each other, but people walking past or sitting with them cannot see the mothers breasts.

Frankly I've found yours & another posters response hostile & unnecessary, like I said there are enough people who give BF mums grief with other mums - shame on you both:mad:

i was not hostile and i dont think my opinion was unnecessary. i was simply giving my view, experience and opinion. dont like people giving opinions dont ask for them!

frankly i find you rude so shame on you! there really is no need to be so nasty towards people trying to help!

tiamai_d

gillypkk wrote: »

i was not hostile and i dont think my opinion was unnecessary. i was simply giving my view, experience and opinion. dont like people giving opinions dont ask for them!

frankly i find you rude so shame on you! there really is no need to be so nasty towards people trying to help!

You were a bit.

I wouldn't like someone wiping my butt with wet wipes or a bit of damp fleece then smearing some cream on my bits but I'm sure lots of babies go through it on a daily basis.

Babies are different to us, things that seem unthinkable to us are tolerated by them. And also, did you realise that you don't make eye contact in the dark? Thats a good few feeds through the night where you're missing out on that important bonding time yet lots of babies don't seem to be that bothered by it.

But I'm very sure you know all that already and have an excellent reason as to why that wasn't what you meant and I'm so horrid. :cool: