Not inviting children to wedding. help!

skintmumof2

I have just been to a wedding and i was on my own as my oh was an usher and i have 2 kids. They played up merry hell in the church, i couldnt hear any of the vows, my daughter chucked her barbie doll up the aisle. There were babies crying blah blah,
But after everyone said how well behaved they well?!?
The bride and groom had a baby themselves so they invited everyones children.
I would of enjoyed myself more without them, but then i wouldnt of gone without them so a bit of a contradiction!
During photos they were bored and hungry (i took a box of buscuits with me lol)
If you dont want children say so. If you do have children have something for them to play during photos etc so they dont get bored and play up.
By the time reception came round i was ready for a drink and a dance!

Torry_Quine

skintmumof2 wrote: »

I have just been to a wedding and i was on my own as my oh was an usher and i have 2 kids. They played up merry hell in the church, i couldnt hear any of the vows, my daughter chucked her barbie doll up the aisle. There were babies crying blah blah,
But after everyone said how well behaved they well?!?
The bride and groom had a baby themselves so they invited everyones children.
I would of enjoyed myself more without them, but then i wouldnt of gone without them so a bit of a contradiction!
During photos they were bored and hungry (i took a box of buscuits with me lol)
If you dont want children say so. If you do have children have something for them to play during photos etc so they dont get bored and play up.
By the time reception came round i was ready for a drink and a dance!

I don't see why the couple getting married should have something for children to do to prevent boredom surely that is the parents' responsibility.

POPPYOSCAR

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I don't see why the couple getting married should have something for children to do to prevent boredom surely that is the parents' responsibility.

Yes, but I think it is a good idea.

When a friend of mine got married she hired two ladies to do face painting and crafty type things with the kids and they took them off to another room so the speeches could be made in peace - it worked really well.

ellay864

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes, but I think it is a good idea.

When a friend of mine got married she hired two ladies to do face painting and crafty type things with the kids and they took them off to another room so the speeches could be made in peace - it worked really well.

Which is why some people don't invite children...they may not have the funds/resources to have the kids entertained but want the wedding to proceed without the disturbance. At my first wedding we had several children there. Now I'm a mum and have chosen to have no kids there for my second wedding. My own kids are 16 and 19 - if they were younger I might have felt differently but the point is that I have no young kids of my own, no young bridesmaids (I had 4 last time) and am relishing a beautiful undisturbed small ceremony. My brother will take their baby out if he's restless, the only other child will be a 12 year old whose family will be travelling 400 miles to the wedding. It's the toddler age I want to avoid as a ceremony is no fun for them and that's inevitably when they'll get restless, plus we have limited numbers and I would rather my friends were there, than children of friends.
I can understand why a parent would want their child with them, but the purpose of the day is to celebrate the marriage of 2 people, not to have a chance to see your little darling looking cute in their best dress and having fun dancing at a party.