children, cross-stitch and chocolate. Chickywiggles debt-free diary

chickywiggle

I have finally flipped with DS1 (4yrs old and been fully toilet trained for over a year).

For the last month (at least) he has been soiling his pants (and I'm not just talking skid marks) at least once a day if not twice. It doesn't matter if he is at home, school or childminders. It's driving us and them MAD!!

I have tried time outs and reward charts and nothing seems to make any difference.

I've given him a 'naughty' PNP video from Santa telling him if he doesn't stop it he'll get no presents.

I'm taking away his video game privalidges for a week today ( as he LOVES his game on the PS3) and hoping that'll work.

Any other ideas????

Flat_Eric

chickywiggle wrote: »

I have finally flipped with DS1 (4yrs old and been fully toilet trained for over a year).

For the last month (at least) he has been soiling his pants (and I'm not just talking skid marks) at least once a day if not twice. It doesn't matter if he is at home, school or childminders. It's driving us and them MAD!!

I have tried time outs and reward charts and nothing seems to make any difference.

I've given him a 'naughty' PNP video from Santa telling him if he doesn't stop it he'll get no presents.

I'm taking away his video game privalidges for a week today ( as he LOVES his game on the PS3) and hoping that'll work.

Any other ideas????

Tricky one. I'm not the best one to comment as I don't have children and its a long time since my wee brother was small but I didn't want to read and run. I suppose it depends on whether he is doing it because he is too busy to find time to go to the toilet - too engrossed in his game play or whether this whole toilet business is suddenly become a bit of a fascination and he finds it funny?

chickywiggle

i think the last one FE so hopefully if i take the think he enjoys away he might stop it.

thanks.

Flat_Eric

chickywiggle wrote: »

i think the last one FE so hopefully if i take the think he enjoys away he might stop it.

thanks.

another idea might be - I was going to buy you such and such a toy but I couldn't as I had to buy more washing powder to wash your dirty pants ..... thats a shame isn't it....

chickywiggle

i've sorta tried that in the "no i can't play xxx cause i've justspend 10 minutes cleaning you up".
he has a tantrum, says sorry tells me he'll never do it again............

........................then repeats the next day.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Hi,

How about making him hand wash the dirty underpants in the sink when he does it? I know there are hygiene implications but he might think differently if he has to stop what he was doing and clear up after himself?

PLMBL Xx

chickywiggle

thanks, not sure how I feel about that one. have you tried it? did it work??

chickywiggle

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr I need a vent........................

I had my 1 night out a year tonight (wooop).. Had a lovely time but due to hunger decided to come home.

Asked hubby if he wanted anything picking up.................no but i could eat the leftover pizza. (so he had bought HIMSELF 2 probably 3 pizzas for tea from the takeaway + chips = £10+)
AND he had bought himseld beer = ?? (£10 again???)

I spent a grand total of £8.50 (and only had 1 drink bought for me) then came home to reheated takeaway as I couldn't justify buying myself a hot takeaway when he'd already spent our money on it.

It's not like he's been at work all day he's been at home so could SOO easily cook his own tea (I did tell DS1 he could have chips as I get them for a treat on a Friday then cook myself something at home) but NOOOO I was having a night out therfore he can get himself treats in............. he goes to the f*ing pub EVERY MONDAY (without fail) and spend £40 a week doing so.


I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo cross. Wish I could get back on the tram and go straight back into town and I would if I had anyones number to ask them which pub they'd moved onto.

and he wonders why I am in such a bad mood.....he ordered me to go to our room as I was just sniping at him. the other option...............I can sit downstairs while he plays COD on PS3 - ohhhh tough choice!!!

chickywiggle

baby steps till Jan 1st................ No spends for December. thread linky

I'm aiming for at least 10 N-S-D's. I am not counting normal Bills, or posting items, so a spend day is a day I physically use the debit/ credit card, real money or paypal to BUY something. Online shopping will normally be counted on the day it is placed (in the case of Tesco shop it will be the day before delivery as this is last day it can be changed).

December 1st - food shopping
2nd - winter boots/ christmas cards/ new blind for bedroom
3rd - food shopping/ thermal socks for me/ postage for new boots/ work trousers/ new scarf and gloves
4th - milk (for work)/ work christmas buffet money/ work birthday collection/ tesco delivery saver (6 month)
5th - christmas pressies/ christmas cards
6th - bread rolls, 1pk crisps and 3 gingerbread men (approx £3)
7th - socks, calender, tesco shoppingbreaskfast roll.
8th - :j:j NSD :j:j :T £5 refunded for missing ebay order:T
9th - £3 donation. Earnt £10 amazon voucher, £3 of tesco shop refunded
10th - christmas pressies/ paper, new whiteboard, stitchy threads/ aida, :T Earnt a £10 leisure voucher and £5 amazon voucher :T
11th - :j:j NSD :j:j
12th - christmas books for kids - £4.50 (B1G1HP), TV guide, choc orange pressie, minifig for DS1. John Lewis order (wrapping paper) delivered.
13th - :j:j NSD :j:j :T £3 paypal - survey earnings:T
14th - chips for tea, tesco order
15th - drinks in cafe, christmas cake, stocking fillers. :T £10 from sales, £2 capital bonds vouchers :T
16th - - :j:j NSD :j:j
17th - pressies, toiletries, grocery bits i forgot on shop.
18th - card holder/ blu tack
19th- pub tea
20th - - :j:j NSD :j:j
21st - brekkie sandwich, christmas cookies for kids. tesco weekly shop
22nd - - :j:j NSD :j:j
23rd - - :j:j NSD :j:j
24th - few bits of food shopping
25th - - :j:j NSD :j:j
26th - ermm **cough cough** lets pretend today didn't exist
27th - or today
28th - 1 book bought with amazon vouchers :money: so technically free. Tesco shop.
29th - £10 ps3 eye wall mount , WW subscription
30th - - :j:j NSD :j:j sold a kids desk so £5 earnt :j, £17.99 refunded for faulty (?) amazon item
31st - - :j:j NSD :j:j

*Louise*

Good luck with that challenge. :T It's not something I could manage, especially in December