Just how bad can parents get?

Sally_A

patchwork_cat wrote: »

One thing that concerns me more is the people who wrap a baby up in this weather, I feel so sorry for the baby in a snow suit in September!

Another thing I failed at......daughter had a fuscia/turquoise snow suit type dungaree outfit, which she loved and used to put on the the middle of summer (with a bright red jumper underneath :eek:), I was so full of praise that she'd dressed herself (we are talking between 18m and 2yo at this stage), I never had the heart to make her change, but used to take spare summer clothes for her to nursery and explain the situation ( ie. don't blame me, she dressed herself ).

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

DD hated shoes, socks, rain covers on the buggy and being told what to do. Not much different now.

She threw a strop when collecting the eldest from school in the snow, having repeatedly removed her shoes and socks in the shops, throwing them as far as she could.

She got pushed the quarter mile through the snow to home with blue toes.


She never took her shoes and socks off again without permission.

dawn_rose

some kids refuse to wear items such as socks (all of mine have gone through the lob it out the pram faze with socks and shoes) sun hats and winter hats (again out the pram) and gloves in winter and would rather sit there with blue hands trying to get the cosytoes off. Thank god for snow suits in winter is all i can say and tights. Mittens have also been known to go on a string thru coat lol.

hngrymummy

I hate to think what people must think of me. I've often been seen wrapped up in hat, gloves, coat etc and pushing my small baby wearing short-sleeved vest, and trousers. No socks. At first glance I look like a terrible mother wrapped up warm but letting my child freeze. The truth is something rather different.

On 2 occasions I had dreadful mastitis and was on my way to the Dr with a temperature of around 39 degrees. I was shivering violently despite my layers, but my baby is a hot baby and was toasty warm in his vest and trousers.

The rest of the time it is because I suffer from Raynauds, so a slight breeze, a small drop in temperature, or even rain on my face and hands can cause my extremities to go numb and very painful. My toasty little baby is often very happy in a vest and trousers while I wrap myself up.

But to be honest, I don't care what people think, as there's not much I can do. I know I get looks, but I tend to ignore them. It's probably not a bad thing that people care enough about children to be bothered by it. I would rather that than people ignore a baby in distress.

polejunkie

I used to have to safety pin my babies socks to his trousers otherwise they would be half a mile down the road before I realised they went, as for shoes? Forget it, in winter it was a pair of tights and suede moccasins again safety pinned to his trousers. Sometimes he managed to undo the nappy pin holding them on so he could have a munch on his foot.

Gloves were a big no no too and hats were just there to chew on.

As soon as my eldest could touch the rain cover it was pulled and pulled until it ripped.

Sometimes you cant always get kids to see the logic in why they need them

wendydarling

Only in reference to the OP and no other post on this thread but I have just had a little giggle to myself! Where do you live OP? It could have been me you saw this morning, although my child is 2 so a bit older than your estimate! So in order to defend the parent that you saw, whether it was me or someone entirely different, this is my take on the events.
I went out this morning with my rain jacket on and hood up, wearing a child carrier on my back containing my LO, my 2 year old loves getting wet and refuses to wear a rain jacket at the moment, I am more than happy to oblige, it is warm, the rain won't do her a bit of harm, she isn't going to dissolve! I didn't particularly fancy getting wet today (some days I do) and so wore my rain jacket. Simple story, no harm came to my child and I wouldn't imagine any harm came to the child you saw, at least the child was getting some fresh air!

pinkshoes

lol I guess I'm a lousy mum then, as I took DS (8 months) out out in the rain today with no socks, and in just a vest!!

Yes, other babies did have coats and hats on, but I have such a warm little boy, so he didn't need wrapping up. It is August, after all, and it doesn't have to be cold outside when it's raining!

DevilsAdvocate1

My youngest was another hot baby. I am also a hot person, so perhaps he takes after me. I only wear a coat maybe 2 or 3 days a year. If I ever do wear a coat when picking up my children from school several people will comment "Cor, it must be cold if you're wearing a coat!"

When my youngest was a baby, if he was too hot he would cry. So we were often seen in town in just t-shirt and jeans even though it was cold. J. would be really happy and smiling. I used to see people give me the judgemental look, but I was confident that what I was doing was right because he would be crying as soon as I put a coat or blanket on him.

Parents know their babies best, and I wasn't going to make him uncomfortable just so he was wearing what other people think he should. He is 6 now and still hates being hot. This weather is a nightmare for him.

maryjane01

Don't be too quick to judge. Sometimes it is best to walk home quickly than stop 15 times to put socks on that keep getting pulled off (never mind shoes, pre walker clarks cost near to £25, the first time they get pulled off they stay off, if I manage to catch them, once I didn't!). Too hot for snowsuits with built in feet today, definitely not cold enough that I would worry about any child getting frostbite or hypothermia.

looby75

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

He is 6 now and still hates being hot. This weather is a nightmare for him.

my son (10) is exactly the same. He over heats very quickly, just a couple of hours in the direct sun is enough to give him mild heat stroke if he isn't wearing a cap, very cool clothing and drinking lots of water. If he gets ill and gets a temperature its a nightmare to bring down.

He used to get recurrent tonsillitis and ear infections and one christmas eve I had to take him to the emergency out of hours clinic at the hospital, he had a raging temp so obviously I didn't wrap him up, I just put a blanket round him while getting out of the car and carrying him the 10M to the clinic.

Almost the second I walked through the door a woman in the waiting room started mouthing out about how it was no wonder he was ill blah blah blah. I logged him in at reception and the receptionist/nurse made a point of commenting loudly how sensible I was for not smothering him because it would do his temp no good :rotfl: