Just how bad can parents get?

janninew

madnessandmayhem wrote: »

I dont think it is always a good idea to take things on 'face value'. Ok, a baby with no socks/shoes on in deep snow and a baby in a basket on a bike, then perhaps those parents need to think a little more about their babies, but for he others there could be many reasons-the baby in the trolley seat-perhaps he had the type of car seat that stays in the car, so had to o in that trolley seat-most people have the carrier types, but some have the bigger type of rear facing seat, or the parents with their baby in the cold aisle may have just not thouht to take a blanket in the shop with them-unfortunatley they (as are we) are only human and whilst (most) people do the very best for their children, and i'm sure they will remember for next time-i'm sure you all remember what it was like when you had young babies and children??
An example of jumping to conclusions-my 4 year old son was crying, screaming and stamping his foot, and I was tryin to comfort him and calm him down-some old busy body came over and said to me 'he's a bit old to be havin tantrums-you'll only make it worse by fussing him' my reply??? 'actually i'm comforting him as he tripped going up the steps and bashed his shin' it hurt him that much he was stomping his foot (and now has a whacking bruise :cool:) i'm sure it did look like he was having a tantrum and i'm sure that is the conclusion that people jumped to-not always right is it??
And if the weather is like it is where I live (tipping down with rain but soooo hot and muggy) then the baby may have overheated if it had a rain jacket/cover.

I agree things can't always be taken at face value. But for me personally if I'm taking a baby out in the unpredictable British weather I would have taken the rain cover - just in case. Going shopping with a newborn, I would always take a blanket. Just seems common sense to me, nobody wants a uncomfortable, screaming newborn baby on their weekly shopping trip, shopping is stressful enough!

CheeseCat

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

with your common sense? long gone sweetie pie, long gone.:rotfl:

And your ability to read properly, presumably

madnessandmayhem

janninew wrote: »

I agree things can't always be taken at face value. But for me personally if I'm taking a baby out in the unpredictable British weather I would have taken the rain cover - just in case. Going shopping with a newborn, I would always take a blanket. Just seems common sense to me, nobody wants a uncomfortable, screaming newborn baby on their weekly shopping trip, shopping is stressful enough!

And i'm the same (probably not always when I has ds 1 and was still 'learning the ropes' ) in fact I usually look as though i'm moving house, i just think being a parent is hard enough without feeling that you are being judged for forgetting the raincover or because your child keeps taking their socks/hat/gloves (delete as applicable lol) off!

clearingout

Last winter, my then 18 month old refused point blank to have his coat fastened up, wear a hat or gloves and it was touch and go as to whether or not I could get shoes on him in the mornings. As I had other children who needed to be in school, it was frankly easier to let him have his way and go cold so that the others were where they needed to be.

It is now summer and he's 2 next week. He is currently running around outside with wellies and a bobble hat on.

looby75

clearingout wrote: »

Last winter, my then 18 month old refused point blank to have his coat fastened up, wear a hat or gloves and it was touch and go as to whether or not I could get shoes on him in the mornings. As I had other children who needed to be in school, it was frankly easier to let him have his way and go cold so that the others were where they needed to be.

It is now summer and he's 2 next week. He is currently running around outside with wellies and a bobble hat on.

if your son had been a girl I would have been asking if you are my sister, my niece was like that last winter too lol I've just been on the phone to my sister and while we were talking my niece was dragging her wellies out of the cupboard so she could go and play in the garden, she loves her wellies more than any other of her shoes and wears them as much as possible.:rotfl:

Spendless

When DS was a few months old (his birthday is early march), I took him in his pushchair to meet my friend collecting her kids from school. One of her friends spoke to me, gave me her opinion that he wasn't warmly enough dressed, and then felt into his baby-gro to check his heat (onto his stomach). She discovered what I already knew, that he was a really hot baby and was appropriately dressed. She withdrew her hand with an 'ooh, isn't he warm' :rotfl:

BTW - he's now 11 and we have exactly the same problem, I got a phone call from his holiday playscheme this week (run by a football team) to ask me to pick him up early as he'd been sick due to over-heating.

clearingout

looby75 wrote: »

if your son had been a girl I would have been asking if you are my sister, my niece was like that last winter too lol I've just been on the phone to my sister and while we were talking my niece was dragging her wellies out of the cupboard so she could go and play in the garden, she loves her wellies more than any other of her shoes and wears them as much as possible.:rotfl:

LOL! I have a hat, glove and scarf box and a shoe box. They are all responsible for putting on what they need or bringing to me what they need and I put it on them. The older ones are aware of what is reasonable given the time of year or where we are going (shoes for school, trainers at the weekend). I tell them to get a hat - the older two get summer ones, little one puts on a woolly one. Who am I to argue? He's done as he was told, bless him.

It was a dreadful winter, as we all know. I'm sure he was cold for the time we were outside. But he never complained that I could tell. Just enjoyed being around other children on the school run.

Far too many people ready to judge how we bring up our children, just because it's not how they would do it. Same people would probably judge me for insisting on a screaming toddler wearing a hat when he obviously didn't want to!

Saturnalia

The kid being rained on was better off than the baby I saw on the tube yesterday that was wrapped in a puffa jacket and fleece blanket. The poor thing was purple in the face and looked barely conscious. The women sitting next to the baby's mum did manage to get her to unwrap the blanket, unzip the coat and give the baby some milk. :mad:

FBaby

How horrible to make such quick judgment... Maybe that girl spent the night at her mum unexpectedly, and as it was so nice yesterday, she didn't have warm clothes and rain cover. Maybe she woke up this morning and her baby had a fever. Called the doctor who told her she could see her baby in 10 minutes.... she was running in the rain for her appointment with baby, hoping that she is ok....

Pathetic to jump to conclusion knowing nothing of the circumstances...

Luciferswench

My children went out in shorts/skirts t-shirts and wellies this morning in the rain well the youngest two anyways it was really warm too warm for coats however my eldest 12 with aspergers was dressed for snow so we looked an odd bunch walking into the village this morning.
Sometimes people put too much effort into judging, maybe the baby had no rain protection simply because it was too warm and mum had nothing light enough to stop baby overheating whilst she was out and about. Its very warm up here even though we've had lots of rain its just not wintercoat weather out there.