The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

MrsMoo2U

Morning all. Bitsy sorry to hear about your anxiety attacks. Must be quite distressing. I think that the hugs (whilst will be meant for you now) may have been meant for Thrifty in relation to Tenmah and EE due to the discussion they were having about dealing with some very difficult situations with members of their family and it got mixed up somewhere along the line. You do deserve some hugs now though so take them with pleasure

Triciaxx

Bitsy : You are right to get it out on here. You know we are ready to support you in anyway we can and only wish we could do more than the virtual bit. ((hugs))

MG : I forgot you were doing the no knead method. Look forward to seeing how it goes. I just realised that this blog might have the answers and it does.

Hugs to all who need them. I'm off to throw together a salad for lunch and then we're off to Aldeburgh. :j:j

Souk08

Hugs for all you wonderful ladies who deal with so much a daily basis. You are ALL amazing.

Well I have a day off today and next week is really busy with a work trip to London, a second interview down South and seeing a friend who's up from London tomorrow so Im going to do some sorting and organising today, as well as pop to the gym and take some time out. May need to declutter a bit more soon if the move to the other city happens but I dont have loads of 'stuff' anyway. Im too tidy and fussy for that!!! Also need to look at money stuff as Im off on hols a week on Tuesday and have made a c!ck up of my budget this month.

Wet here so its nice to be indoors with a bit of telly and tidying. Enjoy your Sundays all XXX

Karmacat

Tricia, thanks for that link - within a few minutes I ended up at this blog http://www.arthurdevany.com/ as well, its a link on jugalbandi, about fitness and nutrition in relation to our evolutionary history - I'm finding evolutionary psychology making more and more sense to me in my work, so its brilliant to look at it in relation to my body.

**must go to sainsbo tho **

Thanks!

Marru

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Hi All

Thanks for the comments so far - interesting that it a form of grief as sometimes I do feel that I am grieving for a life we never had - I do wonder what our life would be like if he did not have depression.
When I met DH I never knew he had depression - he says he told me but I don't think he did - not that it should have made any difference but there again it might have.



Luckily DH has always worked except for periods of severe depression which last about 5 months and happen every 3 - 4 years.

DH does tell me though that if he were not married to me he would not work as he feels that his life would somehow be better if he could stay in bed all day.If we have arguments he threatens to quit work as he knows that it winds me up.

I am not sure him being married to me is a good thing as sometimes/most of the time I push him to do things that he would not normally do such as workng and answering the telephone/making calls.

Honestly if he was not with me I think he would have killed himself a long time ago - it is a hard thing for me to say but I do honestly believe it and have come to terms with it.

Firstly all those not nice things he says to you is not him, it is the illness. One part of him knows what he is doing and that is making it worse for him. That is why he wants you to read those books to understand this and I guess his way of apologising.

Perhaps it does seem to him that he would be better being in bed all the time but that is not the case. I took week off as sick leave last March and spent all the time stitching and being stuck into the house (apart from school runs) and I got most definitely worse. I was spooked by everything and getting out of the house was getting harder and harder. For me being in a routine is definitely better even than [STRIKE]most[/STRIKE] some of the days I end up pretty exhausted.

About acupuncture, I read that there were two groups suffering from depression. One group was given just general acupuncture and one group specific for their illness. The second group was making better recovery. So if you OH gets treatment it would be good to talk this through with the acupuncturist.

BF is here and have promised to take us out for lunch. Also I am going to put him into book room sorting duty while I am putting up a wardrobe and sorting out my clothes. One more week at work and then we are off for holiday :j a proper foreign one :j

Eta: Willow HERE is interesting link for you

Bitsy_Beans

cherisong wrote: »

Morning all. Bitsy sorry to hear about your anxiety attacks. Must be quite distressing. I think that the hugs (whilst will be meant for you now) may have been meant for Thrifty in relation to Tenmah and EE due to the discussion they were having about dealing with some very difficult situations with members of their family and it got mixed up somewhere along the line. You do deserve some hugs now though so take them with pleasure

LOL I did think that at the time.....was a bit confused but didn't like to say outright

Anyway moving on from my drama I have been food shopping. I have purchased some houmous to try. this is a BIG DEAL for me as I hardly ever try new foods, especially stuff like pulses etc as I am not a big fan. So here's to me pushing the boat out and getting out of my comfort zone food wise :rotfl:

Can I just give Marru a :T:T for a) sorting out her wardrobe/clothes situation and b) for getting the BF stuck in on those books.

Dustykitten

Bitsy I so need to get out of my comfort food zone too! FYI often people who survive disasters are the ones who have a plan eg how to get out of the house if there is a fire. If we fly as soon as we are on the plane I plan our escape route and insist on talking the family through it - who will go with who and which way etc; it helps me to cope and gives us the best chance. Getting the balance between being prepared and being paranoid is the tricky bit.

I've done a weeks food plan and shop - I need to introduce some more meals and cheaper meals as the bills are too high at the moment. I need to go over our finances as too often I am saying next month we won't have this expense but there is always another expense the following month - shoes and trainers will be a big one this month plus other BTS stuff. Last month was car insurance and holiday payment. This month I shall try to monitor where the money is going - as most things go on a credit card (paid off each month) it should be easy to see and go back and take a look too.

For now though dust busting and moth hunting in our bedroom.

Kittikins

HUGS to all who need them, this thread is such an inspiration and eye-opener, and I love the way we all communicate openly and in such a varied way about all kinds of topics under the sun xx

I suffer from the black dog myself and when I'm feeling like "me" I can see how difficult and distressing it must be for those who love me when I'm not well; but when I'm in a bad place, all I want to do is curl up and block out the world and fight against everything! I had an interesting chat with OH this morning about it: he lives with an aggressive, incurable illness and consequently has been offered tablets at various times after his diagnosis many years ago, but is one of the most cheerful and positive people you could ever meet. I said that I sometimes used to feel guilty that I am "just" me and can't cope with life, especially when I know people like him and my mother who has a different incurable illness, but that now I've accepted and am more open about the fact I am occasionally ILL rather than stupid/silly/whatever I used to call myself, that's why I am happy to keep on taking the medicine as it's what works for me. I'm so relieved that OH, unlike previous partners, doesn't feel insulted that he can't "cure" me or that our relationship isn't "enough" to make me want to wean myself off the medication, as he understands what helps me and is sensible.

Gawd, that was a bit long-winded and it probably doesn't make much sense....so apologies it its waffly, but I guess I just want to say thank you x

Marru

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Can I just give Marru a :T:T for a) sorting out her wardrobe/clothes situation and b) for getting the BF stuck in on those books.

Ummm - no, it didn't happen. We got up late, had breakfast late, then had to do food shopping, then very late lunch which was more like tea. Only now back, I am shattered and he has to go soon. Oh well - another time.

I have now food for more than 24 hours, have put all DD's clothes away and I have managed to assemble chair I got to sit on while I do my stitching (should be more back friendly). Will clean the cat litter tray as soon as dogs are gone so that they are not in the way. And that is it, day finished. Off to make coffee, I have only had decaf in the house for last week so can't wait to get a proper cuppa...

Memory_Girl

The Secret Garden is on Channel 5 - and I didn't know it was going to be on when I did my Secret Garden post on the blog.

http://itcanbesimpler.com/2011/07/our-secret-garden/

Serendipitydoodah

Hope you all had a great day - we got kidnapped, keel-hauled, made to walk the plank, did knot tying (I won :j all those years in the West End flying sets in on ropes) waddled in our wellies through the ankle deep Scottish sunshine!!!! to a marquee in the middle of a field ............ still raining - to a most fabulous concert for kids all abut Pirates.


The kids were fabulous - the parents a bit grumpy. So I joined in and did all the singing and the actions with DS2 who know thinks his mummy is the most talented mummy on the planet. Even got a mention from the stage :rotfl:

DS2 is totally shattered now but has been bathed and fed - so if he falls asleep on the floor don't go blaming me

Just had the most fabulous yellow split pea dal, rice, egg and broccoli for dinner - but I think I have done my sums wrong as each plate is coming out at 17p - so will have to check back. Mind you if the price is right we may be having this for dinner EVERY week :rotfl:

TTFN

MG

PS Where did I put the hot water bottle?