The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

MrsMoo2U

KK - Fantastic link, Mr C is very interested in all of this so I will pass that to him.

Short-bird, what a great post, I will take a look at that link. Mr C is a hoarder. There is no way I would ever consider decluttering his things, despite how frustrating I do find not being able to put anything of mine in a single wardrobe thanks to his clothes collection back to the 80s, as it is not my stuff to get rid of. However I could look at ways to store it when it gets to be too much. Mr C Senior has decluttered some of Mr C's most precious items (photos of his son, letters and christmas cards and several expensive trinkets which he invested in) and cannot understand for the life of him why Mr C was so upset.

tellmeitsfriday

crickett1234 wrote: »

Suddenly come over all glum.

Had a conversation with LadyJ this lunch time talking about her imminent new arrival and whether she was ready for it. I started the conversation, and she was very nice in her replies, but I just came over all sad all of a sudden. As you all know, I can't have my own babies (or at least, not yet) and so I think this is what I was sad for. She can have them and I can't. S'not fair.

I then started about how I might be able to have a family, and thought of the adoption route. So, I went on line and did some digging around. I got so sad at all these poor children living in foster care and not having a family of their own and their early lives, that I got even more upset. I really don't think adoption is the right route for my husband and I, at least not at the moment, but I would give my left arm to have a baby. I feel so.... empty. Barren even. If you have children, give them a big hug, okay?

I then went onto ebay and bought a cross stitch kit I have been after for ages. And then bid on another one which looked nice! Still feeling glum though.

I can't imagine how that must feel... Hugs xxx

redsquirrel80

Thanks Kittikins, that's really interesting.

Hugs Crickett xx

Triciaxx

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Just checked the other side - and I had put the wrong link - try it with .uk added.

But the site is still there and working fine.

MG

Glad to hear it & thanks for checking.

My wallet is one of my OCD things so that was an easy one for me. I have been known to fret about spending a brand new note. :eek: I always know when I'm getting stressed, because I keep checking I've still got my wallet. :cool:

My main declutter for today is one of the frogs on my autumn list. The caravan !!!!!! drawer :eek: Come on, everyone has got one! It's the drawer that ends up with the odd screws and washers you find around the house. Rubber bands and nameless bits of plastic migrate there and breed. There were 5 half used ball point pens and 4 pen lids - none of which fitted the pens.

A little can of WD40 (which I replaced last week because I thought I'd left it at home) was skulking in a corner at the back, cosying up to what looks like a pair of miniature jump leads - for a toy car? - which I have never seen before. When I present them to DH, he will either a. say he has never seen them before and they can be thrown out or b. say he has been looking everywhere for them and is sure he put them in his toolbox!

Of course if a. is the answer, we will remember what they are and need them a week after the dustman has called.

Having chomped that frog and found it only took 10 minutes, I'm feeling a right wimp for not doing it before but ready to tackle a smaller frog which is a floor level locker which I don't think I've looked in for a year. :eek:

But first, a coffee.:D

MrsMoo2U

Sorry Crickett, we cross posted.
There is nothing that anybody can say or do to help with that sadness. Only you can learn how to cope with it in the best way for you. Whilst I have never had children (tried it didn't happen) I have never felt that immense sadness either. I console myself with believing that it wasn't meant to be. I love being an Aunty and get as much (if not more) enjoyment from that as I believe I would as a parent. I think that I would be far to overbearing and protective as a parent.

Perhaps if you talk this through with your counsellor you could work out if adoption is an option for you and your hubby. Don't forget to talk to him too and see how he feels amongst all of this.

Karmacat

Tricia, many congrats!

And crickett, lots of hugs. I don't have any children of my own, and left it too late to realise I might have coped... you're aware, you're working on it, it hurts.... positive vibes on all levels going to you.

Kittikins

(((Crickett))) and wise words Cheri and others xx

It took me 7 years to get DD and I cherish her every day, even when she's being a little ratbag.....my heart goes out to you xx

Willow78_2

Tricia, !!!!!! drawer, lol
Crickett, lots of hugs. As much as I tell myself that my health would stop me being the kind of mother I'd want to be, (even if I wasn't infertile), it doesn't stop it hurting.I have my stepchildren and step grandaughter,whos's a total angel, but it's not the same. Thinking of you xx

The_Dragon

I tried hiding some of Dr Dragon's stuff and he could reel off exactly what had gone! :eek: I am clearing my stuff out gradually and doing the water drip on stone bit with Dr Dragon and de-cluttering :rotfl:

hypno06

Another one here who was blessed both with the ability to fall pregnant when planned, and two healthy and happy children, so who can't pretend to imagine the pain any of you who can't (for whatever reason), but want to have children, have. I guess it is like grieving in a way, in which case I can relate to that immense emptiness and feeling of "what if" that presents itself so strongly at times, and all I can say is take each day as it comes - the overwhelming sadness hits us sometimes, we need to give into it, otherwise it eats away at us. Other days we are more accepting of it - that doesn't mean that whatever it is we have "lost" has gone away, just that it is not all consuming all the time, and we can carry on with our day in a more "normal" way.

xxx