Son going on 18-30s holiday. I'm terrified !!!

cyclingyorkie

Bennifred wrote: »

Although sex has been mentioned, nobody has said the obvious - make sure he takes condoms with him (buy them for him if necessary) and chant "No sex without a condom" at him at regular intervals.:)

Edit: Great minds, jamespir!

my son (19) goes to Spain tomorrow - just him and a mate and I'm terrified! Am sending him with condoms - the conversation was great fun!:o But I reminded him of the risks of unprotected sex... and told him I am too young to be a grandparent.

I also told him I would do up his room whilst he was away - BUT I'm not flying out to Spain to sort him out....

honeypop

I have such fond memories of the only 18-30s holiday I went on... I was 24, the group of girls I was with got chatting to a group of lads by the pool of our hotel, I clicked with one so much that we were inseperable for the last 2 days I was there, constantly talking and laughing (nothing else!). We kept in touch afterwards, and even though we lived nearly 300 miles apart we carried on seeing each other and now 7 years later we are married and have 2 sons.

We thank Club 18-30's for bringing us together!

Doesn't help anyone feel better about their kids going on one of these holidays, but thought I'd share my nice story.

YORKSHIRELASS

I have got a few years yet before my kids are 18 but I can imagine those feelings! I guess on an 18-30 holiday it is slightly less risky than him jetting off abroad without anyone to help out if there is a problem.

I remember my first holiday alone with 4 other girls - to Blackpool! Thank goodness my poor Mum had no idea what we were up to.

Oh and I am going away on holiday soon with my husband and two nearly teenage kids. Even though I am 40 Mum would still like me to ring or text her to let her know I have arrived safely!!!

Savvy_Sue

DS2 is not long back from a couple of week's inter-railing with 2 mates.

Day 1: email to ask me to check balance on credit card (joint one with me.)

Day 3: "It's all gone a bit wrong. We've lost Fred. And my passport."

Fortunately Fred (not his real name) was reunited with the other two the next day, couldn't see what the problems was and why they hadn't assumed he'd do what he'd done.

And the passport was solved with lots of money for an emergency travel document.

However, my advice would be to make sure that ONE set of parents has contact numbers for all the others, not a panic-prone set, but a laid back and relaxed set.

Because DS2 hadn't done this, and didn't know Fred's parents phone number, and I was THAT close to going round to their house to see if they'd heard from him. Fortunately they worked out that he probably was OK.

Oh, and absolute Top Tip, make sure he and his mates have enabled their phones for roaming! DS2 and his mates hadn't. Hence the problem. They thought there was no signal in Belgium, and then none in Germany ... :rotfl:

RichGold

LilacPixie wrote: »

ack he will be fine. Where is he off too? My advice as a seasoned, aka old, 18-30/2wenteys participant is take it easy on the first night, avoid the shots as you enter the bar they are lethal and enjoy yourself safely

As someone who has lived in resort and DJ'ed for bars on 2wenties/Freestyle (and other) bar crawls there are lots of things to avoid in my opinion. And the OP's son would maybe have been better booking a normal holiday to the same resort, cheaper and less hassle, (just my view) but if you must go on these holidays....

1. Take condoms and use them.
2. Don't get involved in the "stitch-ups" or drinking games, they can make you seriously ill. (forfeits such as eating dog-food from the tin)
3. Wear sunscreen
4. Don't let the reps entice/bully you into going on all the excursions. They will try to get you to buy tickets at the welcome meeting for booze-cruises, bar-crawls and all manner of other crap. In my experience you'll have just as much fun if you do one of these and make your own way around on the other nights as you would if you do all of them, and it works out far cheaper. Remember that the reps are only there to sell you stuff.

Chunky-monkey_4

honeypop wrote: »

I have such fond memories of the only 18-30s holiday I went on... I was 24, the group of girls I was with got chatting to a group of lads by the pool of our hotel, I clicked with one so much that we were inseperable for the last 2 days I was there, constantly talking and laughing (nothing else!). We kept in touch afterwards, and even though we lived nearly 300 miles apart we carried on seeing each other and now 7 years later we are married and have 2 sons.

We thank Club 18-30's for bringing us together!

Doesn't help anyone feel better about their kids going on one of these holidays, but thought I'd share my nice story.

Oh what a lovely story. My friend did the same when she went to Magaluf. They are also still together with 2 children.

Chunky-monkey_4

Well we have had the sex talk. I even offered to pick him some condoms up today whilst I was out shopping. He said "no thanks I'm sorted in that department" he also said " I'm not stupid mum" ok we will leave that there then.

Good advice about them all having the numbers of each others parents, I will be suggesting that, for safety reasons of course ;-)

I'm actually feeling alright about it today and feeling his excitement. We've all been there and I can certainly remember my first holiday, great days !!

Think I need to start giving this kid a break and let him live and enjoy these exciting years.
Might be a different story by Thursday though haha :-)

scheming_gypsy

LilacPixie wrote: »

ack he will be fine. Where is he off too? My advice as a seasoned, aka old, 18-30/2wenteys participant is take it easy on the first night, avoid the shots as you enter the bar they are lethal and enjoy yourself safely

i wouldn't say that to be honest; as they're free they're usually 2% alcohol and 98% fruit juice, although people do like to claim they're 100% leftovers.

scheming_gypsy

Chunky-monkey wrote: »

Well we have had the sex talk. I even offered to pick him some condoms up today whilst I was out shopping. He said "no thanks I'm sorted in that department" he also said " I'm not stupid mum" ok we will leave that there then.

Good advice about them all having the numbers of each others parents, I will be suggesting that, for safety reasons of course ;-)

I'm actually feeling alright about it today and feeling his excitement. We've all been there and I can certainly remember my first holiday, great days !!

Think I need to start giving this kid a break and let him live and enjoy these exciting years.
Might be a different story by Thursday though haha :-)

just remember that no matter what you tell him he'll only remember what he wants to hear so just tell him the important stuff.
always wear a condom = blah blah blah
don't drink too much = blah blah blah
be careful = blah blah blah
wear sun cream = blah blah blah

but if you tell him to go and enjoy himself, sh*g as many birds as he can but make sure you don't get the silly cow pregnant and don't go and kill yourself.... oh and text me every day so i don't worry too much....... He'll remember the important parts, mainly because you caught him off guard with the first bit.

Mrs_Arcanum

Still keep in touch with a girl I made friends with on my first 18-30's (30 + years ago). She had been left in the lurch by her mate & I was travelling solo. She is now in Australia and a tattooed grandma