Real life MMD: Should my son pay for the t-shirt?

Former_MSE_Penelope Former MSE Posts: 536 Forumite
edited 2 August 2011 at 4:37PM in MoneySaving polls
Money Moral Dilemma: Should my son pay for the t-shirt?ment?

My teenage son was playing rugby with a few friends in the local park, when he tackled his friend and ripped his newish t-shirt! This lad has texted and phoned my son numerous times, asking him to pay full price (£25) for this top. This wasn't done maliciously, and was part of the game - the other boy should have thought twice before wearing his pricey top. If this happened the other way round, I would have said to my son "tough".
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  • euterpe13
    euterpe13 Forumite Posts: 55 Forumite
    Absolutely not - if my son had come home with a ripped shirt after playing rugby, I would have said "more silly you to wear it", patched it up & got on with real life problems. Trouble is, the boy harassing your son is a product of the " complaint & compensation" culture. If things do not sort themselves out, suggest you quietly contact the other boy's mother.
    FATBALLZ Forumite Posts: 5,146 Forumite
    Agree with the above. Stuff gets ruined playing sports, so more fool you if you wear your best clobber while you're doing it.
  • emidee
    emidee Forumite Posts: 71
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    No - the friend shouldn't have played a contact sport whilst wearing something expensive. Your son shouldn't pay.
  • Greenfly_3
    Greenfly_3 Forumite Posts: 33 Forumite
    I think we are all in agreement. You and your son should not pay for the T-Shirt. No brainer really.
  • jamespir
    jamespir Forumite Posts: 21,456 Forumite
    no he should not pay but he could chip a bit in as a a goodwill gesture
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  • reluctantworkingmum
    reluctantworkingmum Forumite Posts: 126 Forumite
    stupid child for wearing his best shirt for a rough, hands on game! if he wanted to prance around in the latest 'label' he should've stuck to football!
    (now THAT will get a few going!)
  • allan2006
    allan2006 Forumite Posts: 264
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    depends how much of a mate he is, and if its worth chipping in to keep the peace so to speak.

    No way should he pay for it all though, max 50%. Even at worse case they are equally to blame, him for wearing an expensive top to play rugby and your son for accidentally damaging.
  • nat21luv
    nat21luv Forumite Posts: 3,434
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    Goodwill gesture; Buy him a sewing kit. :D
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  • jenniewb
    jenniewb Forumite Posts: 12,832
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    What a joke! I'd want to personally tell the kid "no, you live, you learn, don't wear precious things to a rugby game!" I'd assume if he is old enough to dress himself, he is old enough to realise how rough a rugby game is and that new and pretty clothes wont stay that way for long if involved in a game!

    Had it been two girls going out to the shops and one had ruined the others dress by tearing at it in a rugby tackle, then there may be some case for compensation but not in a game of rugby for goodness sake and not in this case at all!

    Its called life, its a learning experience and you start the day your born. I'd tell the kid to either stop trying to pull a fast one or simply "thats life, live with it!" If the son is more concerned about wanting to save face or worried he may lose a friend then this kid was no friend to begin with and is unlikely to remain so if its a relationship based soley on the cost of a shirt.
  • PrinceGaz
    PrinceGaz Forumite Posts: 139 Forumite
    Absolutely not. Rugby is a sport where you should expect physical contact, so you should dress for it in very durable clothing (the sort which can take a good yank from behind without any damage-- the top would mainly transfer the force directly to the wearer). I had to wear a rugby-top at school for all PE lessons (regardless of whether it was rugby or something less contact involved like tennis), and you'd be mad to play rugby in anything less given all the scrums and tackles involved in the game.

    This guy's "friend" made a silly mistake in probably wanting to look stylish rather than dress appropriately, and for him to nag about wanting the damage paid for only makes that seem more obvious.
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