Real life MMD: Should my son pay for the t-shirt?

Marisco

fekq wrote: »

so why shouldn't he pay for it? this doesn't sound like an organised, pre-planned game of rugby, but lads messing around in the park.

possibly your son just rugby tackled this lad in fun, not as part of a game, not realising that his friend was wearing a new top?

if so, the decent thing would be for your son (NOT you) to cough up out of his pocket money - will teach him to respect other people's property (something my stepson has yet to learn to do)

If this is the case, then the lad should have said "sorry I cannot, if I ripped/messed this up, my mam would kill me"!!!! Otherwise if he must have expensive gear, then buy a proper rugby shirt, they are virtually indestructible - if they are good enough for the England/Wales/Scotland/Ireland teams, they are good enough for a kid!!!

esp1

I think you have to establish the facts.

Assuming this was actually a game of rugby, not just a friendly 'chuck around' in the park, you should not pay for this shirt. If the other boy knowingly played a contact sport in his 'pricey' shirt, then it is his fault that the shirt got ripped. If this is the case, you should NOT offer any part payment as a 'goodwill' gesture - this would be like admitting that your son is in some way culpable.

If, on the other hand, it was just a friendly ball game in the park, I would suggest that you speak to the other kids present to establish whether your son was being rougher than everyone else when the shirt got ruined. If the boys were just having some fun in the park and your son was rough, then your son should be paying at least half - all of the price if he was spoiling the fun by behaving stupidly and recklessly.

I think it is a bit strange to accuse this boy of wearing a 'pricey' shirt to play in, when this was only a £25 shirt - we're not talking a £100 designer label here, we're talking a normal priced garment, so I don't think the other kid can be accused of being particularly irresponsible (my son's school rugby shirts cost £38!). The fact that you say that your son was playing with a 'few friends' also suggests to me that your son has not been entirely honest about this being a rugby game. Speak to the other kids present and find out who is telling the truth - certainly, your son's story is full of holes and does not ring entirely true

Gillsx

Was going to say the same as practically everyone else has so don't need to repeat it. Tell the silly boy to take a hike (and take up football)! :0)

redroselass

I agree totally this is just tough luck. The boys parents should know better as well.

ripongrammargirl

Are these so called dilemmas actually real? Are these people for real??? I can't believe what people will actually try to con out of others! If I had claimed compensation for all the accidents I have had; all the so called friends/ colleagues that have been horrible to me and back stabbed me over the years; and all the bad service I have encountered with every day dealings etc etc then I would be a multi millionaire. Instead I live on incapacity benefit (thanks to an osteopath who disabled me for life and got away with it) which all goes to pay my debts-not a penny goes to me and I stay away from all the idiots in this life that cause grief to me and so many others. Life is a lot simpler.
This is no friend of this lad. He is a nasty, low down money grabber who needs to be told to get a life, leave this lad alone and stop being so spoiled and pathetic. If he persists in texting/ demanding the cash then I would just put it straight in the hands of the police or a solicitor as harrassment.
I can't stand this horrible compensation culture, especially for something so petty. Nobody died, did they?
This compo lad needs to lose the attitude and the victim needs to lose the "friend". I am sick of these "dilemmas". Let's have some real dilemmas such as mine-how does one live on incapacity benefits, pay huge debts and still live???? Yes, I am angry and with good reason. :mad: Incredible.

joannie

Absolutely not, do :jnot pay for the shirt!!!

phillarmes

Not in this lifetime

********_15

Firstly I agree with everyone that you son should not pay for the shirt rugby is a tough contact sport.

Secondly I suggest you tell the other boys mother to visit the consumer rights section of this website, if the other boys rugby shirt cannot handle the rough and tumble of a rugby game it's not fit for purpose and she should seek a refund.

bogwart

Absolutely not. If he's going to burst into tears after playing rugby and damaging his clothes then let him stick to playing with his dollies instead. Why on earth should your son be expected to pay for another boy's accidents? It's just adding to the "blame" culture and assuming that whatever misfortune befalls a person, it is the fault of someone else. This is not, in my opinion, the way in which friends behave.

Krissy306

His friends trying to rip him off no he shouldn't pay for it, and don't let him either x