Real life MMD: Should my son pay for the t-shirt?

alfielibby

Whilst I agree that no way should the OPs son pay for damage caused to a friends' t-shirt during a game of rugby (irrespective of whether it was a pre-arranged game or spur-of-the-moment one), why do so many people on this thread assume that the lad with the damaged t-shirt is a vain little poseur?

Just because someone's not dressed top-to-toe from Primark doesn't make them a bad person; he may have actually saved up for the t-shirt or received it as a gift!

JayD

No way!
It is an accepted risk when playing such a rough game that players aswell as their kit can get damaged.
If he fell in an oily, muddy, pooey, or whatever puddle and the top got so badly stained that it would not wash out - who would he turn to for payment of a replacement top then? The pitch groundsmen? The pitch owner? The club coach?

The stupid boy should not have worn anything that he was not willing to risk getting spoilt in some way.

sick2death

Glad to hear of youngsters playing rugby, a sport far too often overlooked in this country. Part and parcel of the game I'm afraid, more fool him for wearing a top he didnt want ruined whilst playing a heavy contact sport.

As a rugby player myself, I'd consider myself lucky coming home with a ripped shirt, as opposed to another injury/body deformity

happyinflorida

whosforachat wrote: »

Why would you pay happyinflorida? I do not understand.

To answer you - if my son had ripped someone's expensive top - and to me this is expensive but if I could easily afford to pay for it then I would as possibly this kid has worn out a top he should not have worn out - but I know that teenage boys don't think first - we don't know the full circumstances of why this boy was wearing it - and if this person can easily afford it and it's no skin off their nose whatsoever, you know if they've got loads of spare income etc then I'd happily pay but in the way I said - give it to the mum so she knows what has happened and if she needs the money she'll be very grateful, not all of us can afford to replace t'shirts that are ripped.

whosforachat

alfielibby wrote: »

why do so many people on this thread assume that the lad with the damaged t-shirt is a vain little poseur?

Just because someone's not dressed top-to-toe from Primark doesn't make them a bad person; he may have actually saved up for the t-shirt or received it as a gift!

If he saved up for it then surely he is a "vain little poseur". If it was a present, and he is not a "vain little poseur" then why is he insisting on full replacement cost?

No-one is suggesting dressing "top-to-toe in Primark" but ostentatious displays of wealth are clearly socially divisive.

Squire_Fulwood

You could ask him what he charges for a broken jaw. I am not proposing a threat here but young men who go to play in rugby games know there is a degree of risk. Torn T shirts means he got away lightly if you look at the faces of many players on the TV.

Can you imagine a world where every player in any sport charged if you smudged their lipstick. It is arrant nonsense to enter into a sport such as rugby and expect other people to pay when your coiffure is rearranged.