Horrible neighbours. Just need to vent!

delain

crayola wrote: »

Really? I have to say it did concern me enormously too, but last time I raised that (specific) incident with a group of people I was told that it was normal behaviour or just a 'different parenting style to what I was used to'

...and accused of being a snob.

No that isn't right in any way shape or form. If I let my 9 year old out with her siblings and she was expected to 'look after' them I'd be expecting a visit within the week. How many younger siblings are they and what age?

ETA: No, I don't know what th neighbours say about me when I'm not there, but I do know I have done all I can to make sure problems don't arise by letting them all know that I do try to be quiet (should add I don't drink and I think people drinking in charge of children is awful) and by telling them that I am approachable if there is a problem, and I will resolve whatever is bothering them. That is me doing my best to be a considerate neighbour. Can't do much more, can I?

lynnemcf

You cant do anything about them, you can only do something about you. If they choose to sit in the front garden then you can choose to sit in the back garden. If the noise from the street bothers your sleep then move to a bedroom at the back of the house. I've lived in the same situation as you and I made changes to my life to make things better for me.

Gandalfthegrey

I'm afraid different people have different points of views and instead of expecting the whole world to agree with everything you write why not take on board other opinions? maybe if you looked at your situation more lightheartedly you wont be so angry. What's the point of giving them dirty looks and sitting in your flat getting all worked up? Just get on with your life I say!
Anyway that's it i'm off as I can see where this thread is going. Bub bye!

crayola

Gandalfthegrey wrote: »

I'm afraid different people have different points of views and instead of expecting the whole world to agree with everything you write why not take on board other opinions? maybe if you looked at your situation more lightheartedly you wont be so angry. What's the point of giving them dirty looks and sitting in your flat getting all worked up? Just get on with your life I say!

It's a pity you've gone - I thought we were having a constructive discussion here and I don't recall disagreeing with you, only stating that I'm not alone in getting worked up by things you say are trivial. But you seem to have misjudged me completely and want to pigeon-hole me as a small-minded snob because you don't like the idea that it's not as clear cut as you like to think!

FWIW I agree with everything you're saying, I just don't find it THAT EASY to do what you are suggesting. If I would, of course I'd chill out and let it wash over me. I attempt this every day. I know that is the RIGHT thing to do. But you seem to be suggesting I'm not allowed to admit to struggling with that.

Curious to know which way you thought this was going but I guess I'll never find out. Oh well.

crayola

lynnemcf wrote: »

You cant do anything about them, you can only do something about you. If they choose to sit in the front garden then you can choose to sit in the back garden. If the noise from the street bothers your sleep then move to a bedroom at the back of the house. I've lived in the same situation as you and I made changes to my life to make things better for me.

But my study is at the front! I have a bathroom at the back.

I suppose I could work on the loo...:eek:

delain

crayola wrote: »

But my study is at the front! I have a bathroom at the back.

I suppose I could work on the loo...:eek:

That's efficiency :rotfl:not a minute wasted

Sorry I'll shut up now.

red_devil

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I can't believe that a dentist wouldn't respond to a reasonable request to turn the radio down. Professionals tend to be mindful of rocking the boat!

There are problems everywhere where there are people. What about all the fence and boundary disputes and trees and walls? They dont exist either in private roads i guess:)

buying your own home is no guarantee everything will run smoothly.

mizzbiz

We have a back yard only and have a similar problem with our ignorant next door neighbours. They obviously don't like that we (a young couple with baby on the way) bought the house very cheaply to renovate and are extremely rude to us or blank us in the street.

The husband does, however, seem to spend a lot of time up his ladders [STRIKE]peering over our yard[/STRIKE] sanding his lintels etc and making us feel uncomfortable sitting out in the summer sun in our own yard. Also has the radio blasting with chav pop music every single time the sun is out and he belts out odd lines at the top of his voice, which is chalkboard-scrapingly annoying.

We know that generally they are more bothered by our presence and potential plans for the house than we are by them. AT the end of the day, we are doing up then either renting out or selling on, and that is our revenge (evil laugh).

Overall, we don't let them get to us. We even have an endearing nickname for the husband (Thrush) and we just take the mickey out of them for their small-brained, common ways and expressions. Gives us a bit of fun too.

So I can see, OP, how it might peeve you, it really peeves us. But we get round it by having a bit of our own fun. Not possible in your case but there might be a way you can think of even just to take the edge off so you can have a giggle.

Oh, the best one. We spent £200 on a skipfor all the building rubble. Without asking us, Thrush duimped some of his rubbish in it. WHen they came to collect the skip, we kindly replaced his rubbish outside of his garage door and the skip was hauled away. WOuldn't have minded if they had asked. Now who do you think had the last laugh there :rotfl:

sciencegeek

i feel for you crayola

i have suffered problem neighbours myself and its no fun at all.

One suggestion you might consider is a set of noise cancelling headphones for when you are working at home. they are not cheap but im told they are fantastic at cutting out unwanted noise and just might make your life a bit more pleasant.

good luck!

RENEGADE_2

maninthestreet wrote: »

Why is it, that all these 'problem' families live their lives in their front garden???

The OP explained this one sufficiently: "look at me, impressed?".

Some people - chiefly benefit scroungers (those who are lazy and not in real need) - don't know how to live any other way. They aspire to draw attention to themselves through their embarrassing daily activity as it's their substitute for achievement in life.