Horrible neighbours. Just need to vent!

maninthestreet

Why is it, that all these 'problem' families live their lives in their front garden???

Cyril

Gandalfthegrey wrote: »

I could sypathise if OP said this family were threatining people, vandalising property, taking drugs, etc, but playing a radio during the day and talking loudly on the phone hardly makes them low life, vile, scum as the OP stated.
I really do not like snobs.

So its only snobs then that like peace and quiet.

You might feel differently if they were your neighbours.

red_devil

maninthestreet wrote: »

Why is it, that all these 'problem' families live their lives in their front garden???

its not all year round.

crayola

Gandalfthegrey wrote: »

Yes, you dosound like a snob, sorry!

At least I admit to it! I see it as a personal failing and I'm not proud (and my earlier comments should make it obvious how conflicted I am over this and how that is getting to me) but when I've spent years working my butt off to spend a small fortune on my first house, I think I have some right to feel a bit upset that I am having to put up with this day in day out. Maybe I will have to move, and I do accept that, but do you really think I have no right to be upset?

The thing is, it IS selfish behaviour, even if we lay aside the fact that I am one of a set of people you hate - that being one that was taught to believe that using your street as a playground for children AND adults (and they do have a back garden, before you ask) is not really appropriate on an otherwise quiet, residential road.

delain

Cyril wrote: »

So its only snobs then that like peace and quiet.

You might feel differently if they were your neighbours.

If they were my neighbours I would have introduced myself to them soon after they moved in, as I try to do with everyone!

I have 4 children myself and I know we can be noisy (although not music) and I say to all new neighbours that we can be noisy and if we're disturbing them to please let me know because I probably haven't realised it is annoying people, and I will sort it out.

I live in an area that is mostly owner/occupiers, and all I've ever heard from the neighbours is that the children bring a bit of life to the place and they'd rather hear kids playing than have them stuck indoors.

But they aren't snobs

crayola

Cyril wrote: »

So its only snobs then that like peace and quiet.

You might feel differently if they were your neighbours.

Thanks Cyril. You are spot on there - until I was in this situation I would have been joining in the accusations of snobbery. It is very easy to judge when you're not in this situation yourself!

crayola

delain wrote: »

I live in an area that is mostly owner/occupiers, and all I've ever heard from the neighbours is that the children bring a bit of life to the place and they'd rather hear kids playing than have them stuck indoors.

It's mostly the adults that bother me, tbh. The father shouting and yelling down the phone (usually arguing) in particular. Although I have seen the younger kids nearly get knocked down on the road on two occasions - they are irresponsible parents as well as they do not always supervise the younger kids. That seems to be the nine-year-old's job.

delain

crayola wrote: »

It's mostly the adults that bother me, tbh. The father shouting and yelling down the phone (usually arguing) in particular. Although I have seen the younger kids nearly get knocked down on the road on two occasions - they are irresponsible parents as well as they do not always supervise the younger kids. That seems to be the nine-year-old's job.

In that case you need to contact social services and inform them that a 9 year old is expected to look after younger siblings, because that just isn't on. Even if my almost 9 year old was responsible and mature (she isn't in the least) I wouldn't expect her to look after her siblings.

crayola

delain wrote: »

In that case you need to contact social services and inform them that a 9 year old is expected to look after younger siblings, because that just isn't on. Even if my almost 9 year old was responsible and mature (she isn't in the least) I wouldn't expect her to look after her siblings.

Really? I have to say it did concern me enormously too, but last time I raised that (specific) incident with a group of people I was told that it was normal behaviour or just a 'different parenting style to what I was used to'

...and accused of being a snob.

tonycottee

delain wrote: »

I live in an area that is mostly owner/occupiers, and all I've ever heard from the neighbours is that the children bring a bit of life to the place and they'd rather hear kids playing than have them stuck indoors.

But they aren't snobs

But what you hear from them and what they say about you might be two completely different things.