Horrible neighbours. Just need to vent!

Niv

I feel for you Crayola, it is a tough situation.

My neighbours kids are always throwing stuff over the fence (often rubbish - empty dog food bag recently), what can I do, is teh kid playing or trying to be annoying? I have taken the good natured approach and assumed that kids are kids and are just playing.

Noise, I get tonnes of it, shouting, arguing, door slamming, kids crying, dog barking, dog crying etc.

However all these things I tend to consider as the consequence of living next door to a young family so I let it go over me. The one thing that really bugs me is that they put some of thier rubbish outside my house on bin day. Sounds silly right? They do none of the doorstep recycling (you know, green box/black box etc) instead they over-fill their wheelie bin and then have an extrat 6 black bags and stick some of them outside my hosue and some next to the neighbour on their other side. I think they feel guilty for all thier rubbish, well guess what? you could do some recycling :-/

Niv

red_devil

crayola wrote: »

At least I admit to it! I see it as a personal failing and I'm not proud (and my earlier comments should make it obvious how conflicted I am over this and how that is getting to me) but when I've spent years working my butt off to spend a small fortune on my first house, I think I have some right to feel a bit upset that I am having to put up with this day in day out. Maybe I will have to move, and I do accept that, but do you really think I have no right to be upset?

The thing is, it IS selfish behaviour, even if we lay aside the fact that I am one of a set of people you hate - that being one that was taught to believe that using your street as a playground for children AND adults (and they do have a back garden, before you ask) is not really appropriate on an otherwise quiet, residential road.

Most people you know have problems with their neighbours be it loud music or something. We have had our fair share. Neighbours that refuse to close the shared gates leaving our property open to theft etc. Leaving you on edge all the time not knowing what was going to happen.Even when the police told them about crime prevention they werent very bothered.

Neighbours that wouldnt get a fence or even go halves. We had no fence for ages and had to put up with their tenants coming in our garden and damaging our property etc. They didnt care less they were renting out the property and were only interested in getting the rent in. We had no privacy or security etc. One of their tenants told us they would go where they liked. We had another neighbour who painted our wall without our permission. Neighbours from hell!!!!

Does that make you feel better. Maybe not. Point im making is that everyone has problems of some sort. Its a case of muddling through i am afraid. Sometimes things do blow over and as i said your problem will not be so bad when people are inside. Summer seems worse.

red_devil

maninthestreet wrote: »

It doesn't suprise me to hear they are probably on benefits.

oh so people who work are perfect neighbours are they?

VfM4meplse

You have my sympathy too.

My neighbour - who has been a good friend for years - has put his house on the market and I dread to think what might replace his lovely family.

VfM4meplse

red_devil wrote: »

oh so people who work are perfect neighbours are they?

No, but will feel they have more to lose if they have built a home for themselves through their own efforts, rather than everyone else's contribution to society.

Believe it or not, there are generations of people to whom a day's graft is an alien concept. The same group who think that life owes them and put nothing back into society.

crayola

red_devil wrote: »

Most people you know have problems with their neighbours be it loud music or something. We have had our fair share.

Does that make you feel better. Maybe not. Point im making is that everyone has problems of some sort. Its a case of muddling through i am afraid. Sometimes things do blow over and as i said your problem will not be so bad when people are inside. Summer seems worse.

Yes it honestly does - I know full well that I am over-sensitive about ANYTHING area/road/house related at the moment due to being a first time buyer I think. I've never had to think or worry about this before because (a) I could always easily move and (b) I hadn't invested anything. Now we have thrown everything into this place and taken out a £250k mortgage (and the deposit on that, ouch) I guess things seem a bit more serious.

Also, for buyers, our road is actually rather expensive (not an estate as I think some ppl have assumed) - it's not like we knew what we were in for. But if anything this proves that you never are, and you've made me remember not to blame myself for making a 'bad decision'.

Thanks for your helpful post and for not joining in the chorus of 'hang the snob'! I really do feel bad about this but sometimes it does no good to internalise feelings of annoyance...

Gandalfthegrey

I never said only snobs like peace and quiet I said YOU are a snob because of the things you wrote, besides you actually wrote that yourself in your original post that you are being a snob.
I like peace and quiet too and I can sympathise to some extent as our actual neighbours are very noisy, they play happy hardcore music at full blast at all hours, keeping my 3 yr old awake, they are registered alchoholics who sit in their front garden drinking cider all day at the expence of tax payers, and their son has gang loads of mates visiting and hanging out the street fighting. When I read your post about a few kids playing in the road and people talking loudly on the phone I thought it is hardly anything to get so angry about is it.

red_devil

VfM4meplse wrote: »

No, but will feel they have more to lose if they have built a home for themselves through their own efforts, rather than everyone else's contribution to society.

Believe it or not, there are generations of people to whom a day's graft is an alien concept. The same group who think that life owes them and put nothing back into society.

false my parents live in a nice detached private house, next door to a dentist and his wife. They had problems in the garden. The neighbours radio was too loud all day long disturbiing my parents peace in the garden.

it happens everywhere. Its a case of live and let live. If its not the radio, its the kids or their is no fence etc or disputes about walls and boundarys or parking.

Its life.

crayola

Gandalfthegrey wrote: »

When I read your post about a few kids playing in the road and people talking loudly on the phone I thought it is hardly anything to get so angry about is it.

I'd be angrier in your shoes, probably, yes. But it sounds like you're a more tolerant/better adjusted person than I am generally. I think in honesty and going on most of the replies here though, I am not alone in finding this sort of behaviour quite troubling, so I'm not beating myself up too much over it.

VfM4meplse

red_devil wrote: »

false my parents live in a nice detached private house, next door to a dentist and his wife. They had problems in the garden. The neighbours radio was too loud all day long disturbiing my parents peace in the garden.

I can't believe that a dentist wouldn't respond to a reasonable request to turn the radio down. Professionals tend to be mindful of rocking the boat!