upset after wedding

PinkPrincess83

Mary- I think you should forget this one photo and reread how you felt very shortly after the wedding (on the Jul 21011 thread)- you said you truly felt beautiful so please dont let one photo put a downer on how good you felt about yourself on your wedding day.

And I nosed at the photos and I honestly think you look amazing- and you most certainly dont look fat- and definately dont look very fat. And you and your husband look so happy.

Miss_Bolan

Mary, I couldn't read this and run as it made me so sad to read that this is how you feel. I had to go and have a nose at the photo's you put up on the July 2011 thread - you look beautiful!

The black and white photo of you and your partner and your son is just lovely. You and your partner look like a perfect match, and the smile on your faces on your photo 'just after signing the register' just says it all. You are beautiful, you have a lovely husband and a family. No one is humouring you, or trying to make you feel better - when people told you on your wedding day (and on this forum) that you look beautiful, it's because you do.

In situations like this, I like to refer to Baz Luhrman's wisdom:

"Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and
Recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before
You and how fabulous you really looked….You're not as fat as you
Imagine."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI

SUESMITH_2

well, i've just looked at your photos (again!) and i think exactly the same as when you posted them - which was you look amazing and so incredibly pretty! you don't look huge or wobbly in them, just attractive and radiant.

7roland8

Sorry can't find your pcis but just a few points
1 - remeber how happy you felt on the day - adn people see the whole you
2 - 16 is not enormous!
3 - other people may have taken pics too - so don't panic
4 - if these are all you have - do as others have said and just use the best ones - get someone to photoshot them a bit if you'd prefer
5 - in pics people always think THEY look awful - they always looka t themselves first - bet you weren't checking out others' bellies?
6 - I'm sure people were genuine when they were complimenting you
7 - if you really want another pic - get glammed up with hair and make-up and go into town adn get a prof. one done in your dress - either on your own or with hubby - treat it as an early Xmas gift to yourself.
DON'T LET THIS SPOIL YOUR MEMORIES OF THE DAY!

MatyMoo

Just been on a hunt to find your photo's and you are NOT FAT. The picture of you, OH and the little one is really lovely

I personally hate all photo's of me and home in on the bits of me that I don't like. Other people don't see us the same way as we do.

codemonkey

I had a look at your photos which I remember because I tried on the dress you're wearing and I thought how much better you looked in it. You didn't look fat at all. You looked natural, and radiant and like a woman on her wedding day should. You have a beautiful smile.

Having said that, give me 7 weeks and I'll be doing exactly the same thing - looking at the photos of my day and fixating on the tiniest little imperfections. H2B showed me a photo of us at a wedding a couple of weeks ago and at the time I felt great, but when I saw the photo, it was at such a bad angle, I looked like Jabba the Hutt. I was devestated.

Our photographer has said he's not even going to show us the bad photos.

Stop thinking about gastic bands, or bypasses or whatever. At size 16 (national average by the way) its dangerous and unneccessary. I suspect that even if you were a size 6 you'd still be hating what you saw in the mirror so I think maybe you'd be better placed to work on building your self-esteem and confidence.

Throw away the bad photos and try not to let it spoil how you felt on the day.

Tiara_2

I have just taken a peek at some of your pictures from the July thread. You look absolutley stunning. You have a lovely figure and you absolutely don't look overweight at all. As codemonkey says, size 16 is the national average.
You look so happy in those photos, and guests giving you compliments on your appearance were genuine and meant what they said.
Everyone has unflattering pics- even super skin celebs, magazines love unflattering pics of them. Please don't let one unflattering photo spoil your memories of a truly happy and special day.
You honestly look so beautiful in those pics. If I look half as good as you did on my wedding day then I will be a very happy bunny.

winterbride_2012

i've looked at your pics and you are not fat - you look lovely! Honest xx

p.s size 16 is national average, you do not need a gastric band!!

Miss2MrsC

I agree, you look great, and maybe just having some post-wedding blues. You're really pretty, and your figure is lovely. Don't worry about some shots with bad angles, I am preparing myself for some, as I look terrible in unposed photos (my posture is bad so unless I see the camera and sit/stand up straight, I always look dumpy!)

RuthnJasper

Seriously OP - I echo what everyone else has said. I am sure you were - and are - absolutely beautiful. I got up to a size 28 when I was ill - shrinking back now, currently size 24 - but I will be stopping when I get to size 14/16. That's an ideal, healthy weight and I know from past history that to be any thinner would be ridiculous (I have an hourglass figure normally - large (too large! ) bust, wide hips, etc., and it'd just look DAFT.

I bet your hubby is SOOO proud to have such a beautiful, shapely wife. Most men, from what I've been told, would rather have a curvy woman. All of my male friends have said exactly the same, which is: "Who the h*ll wants to make love to a bony rake anyway?!"

Please don't torture yourself about the way you looked. NO-ONE will have been sneering or laughing at you - they were there to share your special day and, if they said you looked gorgeous then that was probably because you DID look gorgeous.

My cousin recently got married and his new wife hovers around the size-30 mark. She looked positively radiant at their wedding and is an extremely pretty girl in general. No-one even mentioned her size, just about what a lucky chap my cousin was in finding such a lovely wife.

Keep smiling sweetie - you are NOT fat; you're gorgeous. x