Spending quality time together as a couple

Lotus-eater

danielley wrote: »

What about a Jigsaw? I personally love doing these, but I can't do them with my OH is he is colour blind and therefore a hindrance rather than a help.

I steer clear of board games as we are both competitive and it causes rows

I don't think I've got the patience for jigsaws I haven't got the patience for very much tbh

We both like completely different things, mostly anyway. I suspect a DVD and a snuggle on the uncomfortable sofa may be in order. We also like completely different sorts of films....

Lotus-eater

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I don't really understand why you'd want to do anything other than talk over a leisurely meal.

I'd think you'd have enough of board games with the children.

We eat with the kids as a family. So already eaten.
There are board games they can't play yet and chess against the kids isn't the same as against an adult.

lostinrates

Lotus-eater wrote: »

We also like completely different sorts of films....

This is solvable. Happens to us often. |When dh wants to watch a film I don't like I nestle into him with a book/laptop

Oldernotwiser

Lotus-eater wrote: »

We eat with the kids as a family. So already eaten.
There are board games they can't play yet and chess against the kids isn't the same as against an adult.

Can't you have a proper grown up dinner sometimes though ; I wasn't suggesting every night.

peachyprice

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Can't you have a proper grown up dinner sometimes though ; I wasn't suggesting every night.

This would be my suggestion too.

Feed the children separately, then have a proper, grown-up, wine, candles & pudding meal together once they've gone to bed.

For me, a 'quality time' evening would mean turning the TV off altogether and talking, watching a DVD wouldn't count.

lostinrates

peachyprice wrote: »

For me, a 'quality time' evening would mean turning the TV off altogether and talking, watching a DVD wouldn't count.

I think in most situations I agree. ATM for us we're just to shattered at the end of a weekend day atm (we spend the whole weekends together working on the house or land) Its time we can just ''be'', for dh in particular to relax, but not in bed....with the animals enjoying our time but not demanding attention....for us its ideal once a week.

Lotus-eater

peachyprice wrote: »

This would be my suggestion too.

Feed the children separately, then have a proper, grown-up, wine, candles & pudding meal together once they've gone to bed.

For me, a 'quality time' evening would mean turning the TV off altogether and talking, watching a DVD wouldn't count.

I think we might have to change this to a weekend night, neither of use has enough energy left to sort that lot out, after everything else has been done lol.
You're right though, I think this is what we should be aiming for.

hayleythedaisy

We used to have a bath together every Sunday night until we moved and didn't have a bath, it took me a long while to adjust to not having that uninterupted talk and be close time with no phones/tele/cleaning/etc! Not found anything to replace that as we tend to get distracted or fall asleep lol. Luckily we're getting a bath next week!

We like to play Scrabble.

Carpet picnics are nice too.

SandC

Have date nights where you make an effort to dress up as if you are going out. Either cook or get a takeaway in.

On those nights, give the kids a treat as well by letting them eat on their own (or with you there if they are very young of course) - whatever you know they will love as a treat.

With us as kids it was a great treat if dad was away with work (which wasn't that regular a thing), we'd be allowed to maybe eat in front of the telly or even have just a plate of chips for tea! Imagine!

Also makes them very pliable and more likely to shove off to bed when asked.

While they are eating you are preping the dinner for the two of you.

Listen to music if you'd normally watch the telly. Watch a film if you'd normal have soaps or sport on. Or just chat.

Mumto2

I'd suggest board games, it's great having a game of Scrabble with an adult after playing with 8 year olds!

We also enjoy Rummikub.

I'd also vote for the grown up tea option.

Enjoy!