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Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things
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IME alcoe, its a true enough perception of girls at school -I have never been a boy so can't say about that!- but also applies to girls in a co ed and dayschool situation (environments I have also been in)....and not tempered by the things it does teach. I really think learning to share space and not be too precious is soething that has helped me a lot since. I would not feel compelled to send a child of mine to boarding, but I would be open to it depending on the child. fwiw school rooms can be quite plush now. Fro the pics I've seen I'd happily accept either of the neice's bedrooms.
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um...Alcoe abve was meant to read Malcolm but its funny so I'll leave it0
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lostinrates wrote: »IME alcoe, its a true enough perception of girls at school -I have never been a boy so can't say about that!- but also applies to girls in a co ed and dayschool situation (environments I have also been in)....and not tempered by the things it does teach. I really think learning to share space and not be too precious is soething that has helped me a lot since. I would not feel compelled to send a child of mine to boarding, but I would be open to it depending on the child. fwiw school rooms can be quite plush now. Fro the pics I've seen I'd happily accept either of the neice's bedrooms.
Compared to my school, I think boarding school would have been beneficial, but I'd have missed my family, who I'm very very close to. I recall one time taking upon myself to sit at the teachers desk to prevent my book being bunsen burned during a chemistry lesson, and that was in top set. Luckily I have natural ability with the sciences, and despite the school I turned out ok. Many didn't.
I think learning to share space is very important, I think it also helps relationships. Helps familiarise people with compromise, and gets them used to having to share the bathroom. 0 -
Sometimes I think your keyboard knows what you are trying to say even when you don't
lostinrates wrote: »...her as someone ho ...I think....0 -
Does anyone mind me venting on this thread? I only ask because although the boys have an ASD, I don't really feel comfortable on the ASD thread (I don't really know the people and haven't the energy to explain all the ins and outs).
Having problems with middle son and reaching the end of my tether basically and just wanted to let it all out.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
I think learning to share space is very important, I think it also helps relationships. Helps familiarise people with compromise, and gets them used to having to share the bathroom.
Had loads of ex boarding school types in the Forces and it certainly helped them. They never seemed to have any problems with shared/austere accommodation, discipline or teamwork, and didn't suffer from any sort of homesickness in basic training.
Mind you, I don't think anyone can get used to sharing the bathroom with 50 other blokes....especially the morning after the night before.....Nothing is foolproof, as fools are so ingenious!
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Does anyone mind me venting on this thread? I only ask because although the boys have an ASD, I don't really feel comfortable on the ASD thread (I don't really know the people and haven't the energy to explain all the ins and outs).
Having problems with middle son and reaching the end of my tether basically and just wanted to let it all out.
We had a shedload of issues with one of our sons - special school, the works! He's now aged 22, and he's mellowed a lot. He holds down a responsible job, to which he is pretty well suited, and he is pretty happy with life. I would not have bet on that 10 years ago. So, I can only hold out the hope that things will improve, Sue.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
Does anyone mind me venting on this thread? I only ask because although the boys have an ASD, I don't really feel comfortable on the ASD thread (I don't really know the people and haven't the energy to explain all the ins and outs).
Having problems with middle son and reaching the end of my tether basically and just wanted to let it all out.
Sue, of course you can vent - you don't have to ask first. We are your friends. We've known you for years. We all think you're amazing, and have the utmost admiration for what you manage to achieve with your boys despite their challenges.
Go ahead and tell us as much as you want to say. Those of us who know you and care about you will read carefully and do our best to be supportive through a screen, and any lurkers or newcomers who don't feel inclined to read can skim over those posts.lostinrates wrote: »IME alcoe, its a true enough perception of girls at school -I have never been a boy so can't say about that!- but also applies to girls in a co ed and dayschool situation (environments I have also been in)....and not tempered by the things it does teach. I really think learning to share space and not be too precious is soething that has helped me a lot since. I would not feel compelled to send a child of mine to boarding, but I would be open to it depending on the child. fwiw school rooms can be quite plush now. Fro the pics I've seen I'd happily accept either of the neice's bedrooms.
I wasn't at a boarding school myself, and I never set out to be a boarding school teacher, but as it's turned out, I've spent my entire teaching career in schools that are mixed boarding/day, ranging from 70% boarding to 10% boarding. I've never been able to tell the difference in the classroom - without looking to see which house they're in, I can't tell who are the boarders and who are the day-students. I'm more and more convinced that kids are just kids, really. The ones with more money may have different expectations and aspirations in life, different hobbies, and sometimes better manners, but underneath they're just adolescents with much the same feelings as other adolescents. Of course, at fee-paying schools you pretty much only get kids whose parents value education, but they don't seem to me to be any different from the kids at the comprehensive my kids will be going to - in a "nice" area where parents mostly value education too.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Does anyone mind me venting on this thread? I only ask because although the boys have an ASD, I don't really feel comfortable on the ASD thread (I don't really know the people and haven't the energy to explain all the ins and outs).
Having problems with middle son and reaching the end of my tether basically and just wanted to let it all out.
Vent away, Sue. Hope you're OK....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Sometimes I think your keyboard knows what you are trying to say even when you don't
I was once having some problems with a very rude and stubborn broker. In investment banking parlance, a broker can also be known as a 'counterparty'. In an email to the head of the prop trading desk I missed the 'o' out of the word. I never was sure whether my brain made me do it or if it was a genuine mistake.
There is a part of psychology that studies little mistakes that people make. Apparently, on average one in every 40 things we do is a mistake of some sort. I once went an entire week, every day taking the wrapper off a Mars Bar and throwing away the chocolate bar and standing with the wrapper in my hand feeling very stupid.0
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