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Living away from home for a job
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Have a look on spareroom for a Mon-fri let, its often much cheaper than letting a place of your own. The place I have in London costs me about a 5th of what it would cost for the whole place, and the best thing is I dont see my flatmate all week as she works away mon-fri.0
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Thanks everyone.
Its really nice of you to give up some time to advise. I think I knew a lot of what you've all been saying already but sometimes you need someone to say it to you
It need only be temporary living apart afterall.
Having a proper talk with OH later and I think I will ask to start around the end of next month. That way I've got loads of time to sort stuff out and it leaves a chance for the very unlikely situation of something better coming up.
I think I'd rent somewhere shared or lodge but I've not found a monday -friday one yet. But even full time the prices look very reasonable. I've seen double rooms offered with all bills & council tax included for under £350 a month. Looking for places to look at the momentI've tried gumtree and spareroom and found some options.
I've got my 43 applications in for jobs nearby (plus 10-20 rejections earlier in the year) so I really do feel like I have made a reasonable effort to not have to move. I've sacrificed a couple of days having a !!!! time applying for jobs I don't even want. DKLS, I ate a whole bag of percy pigs doing it yesterday0 -
Just the one bag! lightweight
Moving for work isnt all bad by any means in a way it has brought my wife and myself much closer as we really appreciate our weekends together and make the most of our time.
Good luck with it all0 -
I think you need to do it for both of your sakes, even if only because of the "if only..." worries that would hit you if you turned down the chance. They could be pretty corrosive to the relationship.
And remember this situation needn't be long-term.There is no honour to be had in not knowing a thing that can be known - Danny Baker0 -
In circumstances like this, where one of you might be considering making sacrifices to help the other, there are a number of factors to take into account:
- How serious the relationship is - do you both view it as a permanent long-term thing?
- Who gets paid the most?
- Who has the most earning potential? (E.g. you might be in a low paid position now but with prospects to get big money later after gaining experience or extra qualifications)
- What are the prospects in both of your jobs for promotions or future career openings (e.g. are your current jobs a stepping-stone onto bigger and better things?)
- What are your future plans regarding marriage, kids etc, and if kids are planned for the future which one of you will be doing most of the childcare?
In any case, as you're at the beginning of your career, I don't see the harm in trying out this job and seeing how it goes. Give it 6-months to a year and then re-assess the situation. Nothing has to be forever, after all.0
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