Problem with father!!!!

Crazychik

The only thing is - is too be there for your dad, its not an ideal situation to be in, but you never know, it may work! Finger's crossed for him.

My brother left his wife of 16yrs of marriage after he met a girl on the internet, she was from Florida, he's 42 and she's 40. They married nearly 2yrs ago, I first thought it was a visa thing, for her to stay here, but they have proven to be besotted with each other, they are now planning to move to Florida next year.

My mum left her long term partner this time last yr, she moved into a private block of flats around April this yr, after a couple of months she met one of her neighbours, he was single. They have just announced their engagement, I'm totally not thrilled to bits about the situation, but if she's happy, who am I to judge and put in my "penny's worth?" She's old enough to know what she's doing. Leave her be is my motto. Harsh I know, but she's made her bed saying (sorry I know its not an ideal thing to say)

Like it was said, what will happen after once the 4weeks are up? If she's besotted with your dad, then surely she must be making an effort to contribute to the relationship. What has she done to "woo" your father over?

vippymini

Crazychik wrote:

What has she done to "woo" your father over?

Shes cooked his meals and lays down in the evenings:rotfl: :rotfl: something hes missed for the last year:o

Savvy_Sue

May I commend A short history of tractors in Ukrainian?

NAR

vippymini wrote:

Shes cooked his meals and lays down in the evenings:rotfl: :rotfl: something hes missed for the last year:o

:rotfl: I will cease from comment!!
You say he doesn't know how she "found" him. Just tell him you are happy for him to "move on" (which I assume you are) but tell him to be wary of her motives. Nothing more , nothing less. But also tell him you are available for advice if he has any concerns about the lady and her motives. Might be innocent, might not - time will tell.

Mics_chick

The fact that she 'lost' her money on the train in Russia rings alarm bells in my head.

If it was my dad I would have to say something but I would try to be very 'softly softly' about it. Point out my fears, encourage him to find out more by trying to get to know other people she knows in this country and saying that if he ever needs to talk then please come to you or someone else he can trust rather than let it get too far - if he is being taken for a ride but doesn't want to be seen as 'no fool like an old fool' then better sooner rather than later.

I couldn't stand by and say/do nothing - Yes he is an adult and get on with his own life but I would want to show I care but not interfere or judge - hopefully

I hope it does work out for your dad and his new love

Crazychik

vippymini wrote:

Shes cooked his meals and lays down in the evenings:rotfl: :rotfl: something hes missed for the last year:o

:rotfl: sorry - I should have thought first before asking that one!

bltchef

i know a male only 43 meet a nice russian lady he went to russia to meet then he brought her back to england sorryto say this she robbed him blind he is now hartbroken and skint please be aware for dad sake but to be carefull you mite get the back lash

culpepper

A month is long enough for Dad to do something daft re her financial situation (even marriage).
So she lost her money on the train in Russia and presumably managed to get on the Plane and transport herself to England and his doorstep for free(sorry to sound cynical).
She leaves her mother and son in Russia but if she became a UK citizen they would be legally allowed to come and live here so it is not much of a sacrifice for the long term gains.
Ofcourse she may be a really lovely person and honest as the day is long!

vippymini

Thanks all, im happy to sit back and see what goes as he is a grown adult, but will keep a eye on the progression. Apparently hes talking to the english chap today who married her best friend 3 years ago!

Crazychik

vippymini wrote:

Thanks all, im happy to sit back and see what goes as he is a grown adult, but will keep a eye on the progression. Apparently hes talking to the english chap today who married her best friend 3 years ago!

Lets hope he gets some sound advise.
Please let us know ow he gets on.