Advice - cannot keep friends!

Louise22

Lifesaver wrote: »

I could have also written this. I have been let down so many times it's just unbelievable.

My 'friend's' husband lost his job, they were in dire straights, then son involved in an accident, all money was spent in fuel costs to the hospital. Muggins here decided it would be nice to get a load of shopping delivered to help out, which was well received at the time.

My birthday - no card or present, which was fine as I knew they had no spare money.

Then lo and behold on facebook she's written she's so excited cos she's bought another friend Rock Concert tickets as a thank you and birthday present.

These were £90 each......not the cheap seats!

I'm absolutely furious, I wasnt that flush, but went out of my way to ensure they had food on their table, that was just a smack in the face!

If that's the way friends treat me - then I'd rather be on my own!

I think that sometimes but who really wants to be alone? Not me thats for sure!

I appreciate a lot of the comments on here even the ones where people tell me straight but some are unjustified given that you don't know all of the facts, just the rather rubbish way I have been explaining them.

Thanks (most of you :P)

pigpen

I have maybe 2 people I count as friends.. 1 lives miles away and I see her maybe 2 or 3 times a year... but I know if I needed her, she is there and I could call on her for anything and she would help me if she could.

I have a friend who I was at school with who I see every couple of weeks, we go for lunch, beer and man-pulling (I pull.. she takes home ).. but I know in a crisis she would listen but be absolutely useless for anything practical.

I have a few other people I call friends but I don't know them well or see them often.. we chat on FB and that is about it now.. I am busy, they are busy etc..

Friends are totally over-rated.. they are demanding and needy and let you down when you need them most. In some ways I make a fabulous friend, I listen, I am practical, if I don't know an answer I will do my best to find out and help, I will support people in their decisions and they do tend to blab their life histories at me.. I don't tell them anything much.. the day-to-day waffle I share with anyone.. but the serious 'my stuff' is mine.. I have some pretty horrific stuff going on at the moment and I haven't told anyone.. I don't ask for anything, I won't get offended if they don't contact me .. so in other ways I am not so good... I will give and give and give but I won't accept anything back.

I always think sooner or later they will rip you off, pi$$ you off, fob you off or just take offence at some imagined flaw .. I lived many years without these people, I can live without them again..

My advice.. get a cat!

lizzie157

pigpen- could have written much of this myself except I'd rather have a dog!

diggle

Ditto the above,especially dogs we own 5 and also foster for a rescue,the one thing you can guarantee is that they will never let you down or talk about you behind your back.:D

Louise22

I would love a cat but my boyfriend has allergies so we can't. Selfish :P

scooby088

I have always said you can count real friends on one hand, but then again i have always preferred my own company as then i know i can count on myself, I dont really maintain relationships with friends as i know they are married and have families of their own and i do too and we understand. I see my best mate about once a month, thats when we need time away from our families just for the change of scenery.