My teenage son feels the need to lie about his xmas presents to his mate...

victory

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jackieb

Even if money was no object I wouldn't go overboard like that. I have seen it with my 16yo nephew. He has got everything and taken care of nothing and he's very unappreciative. I sound like my grandma but they really are making a rod for their own back. I think your son also realises that what his friend gets is far from normal.

victory

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scheming_gypsy

let him play it by ear, unless he only has the one mate it's unlikely all his other mates are going to get the same amount as the other one.

victory

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kathyd_2

victory wrote:

My son said to me yesterday- 'mum, I feel like I should lie to my friend about my presents because I know I will not get all that he gets, he will be showing off and telling me over and over what he has got and I think if you let me I should lie to him to shut him up'
I have said to him that he can if he wants 'big up' his presents but not necessarily lie about what he got.

victory, I think the very fact that your son has asked you if it would be ok to lie to his friend speaks volumes for the way you have raised him. How many teenage lads would have just gone ahead and lied anyway?

You have a great lad there....one white lie would be ok.

Have a good Christmas x

victory

merry xmas kathyd thanks you for your kind words, yes he is a good lad, thanks xxxxxxx

culpepper

His mate is probably quite jealous of some of his friends lovely mums and dads,more simple lifestyle,the way they treat their kids etc.
That's far more valuable than a few flashy things that will seem so mundane in about a months time.
How sad that this other boy feels the need to tell everybody what he is 'getting'.

victory

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morganlefay

Of course, not that a teenage boy would see it that way but really you have to feel sorry for the friend who, in the end, just has 'stuff' while your son has a loving, kindly and thoughtful Mum who is going to some lengths to get things just right for him within realistic limits. That's somehting we all have to learn about money and material things, and his friend seems never to be likely to learn it. And anyway what sort of a nice person boasts like that when he must know others aren't so indulged ? I hope your boy loves the things you bought him with thought and care, rather than throwing money at him. Happy Christmas !

fwhorn

Hi Victory,

must agree with another poster you have a great son, and you must be a good parent and friend to him.

The one thing his friend hasnt got and cant get, no matter what kind of money he has, is our respect and to be talked about by people he will never know. I also must say that he given a warm feeling in a cold world, when some kids is age are quite vile and repulsive.

So to you and your son I wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Great New Year.

FW.