Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

lilmiss

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mollytrundle wrote:

hiya, i have been reading this thread and it is amazing what other people are going through. it makes me feel not so alone with my own thoughts.
eighteen months ago i met a wonderful man. he is 49 and with 2 young children and had full custody and was bringing them up alone.
everything was going so well, i got on well with his kids and visa versa.
he went into hospital for a minor op but never made it home.
he had a massive stroke shortly after surgery.
to cut a long story short he cant talk or walk, is fed via a tube in his tummy, and no control over his bodily functions. but he is still all there. he is now in a nursing home over 40 miles away but i go and visit him each week, and i am still in touch with his children.
i love him so much and some days i find it so hard to cope with.
but after reading this thread i don`t feel quite so alone today.
so many many thanks
molly
xx

nursemolly

in some ways it is positive, in the fact i had the chance to meet someone so lovely even if was only for a year that i had him in a `normal` way. some people don`t even get that chance.
but it is painful after i have visited him
but i have also made some wonderful new friends throguh this journey, one who is infact coming over for some lunch today!!!!!!
so i will keep smiling and know i am not the only one in a sad situation.
thanks
molly
xx

Dumyat

that is so nice you are able to count your blessings in such an awful situation.
enjoy your lunch. my fridge is empty and I cant be bothered going to shops...I will later though.

babyangel10

lilmiss wrote:

Me??. I just said she didn't sound American. Now i know it's probably because she just lived there. Hmm, i didn't mean to sound horrible
Sowwie *jumps down a hole*

Hey no probs Lilmiss - you are forgiven

I was just a bit shocked at your post TBH, and I may have jumped in with my reply a bit hasty too.

I'm sure there are many fakes on here but I was just a bit concerned that as a newbie, Emma may be scared off if she thought that people didn't believe her. I know that if I had been in that terrible situation and I'd seen your post, I'd have been really upset not to be believed.

However, with Emma's situation it is so unbelievable that so many awful things can happen to one person, it seems hard to comprehend as being true I suppose.

So, apology very much accepted!

Big hugs

T x

lilmiss

Hey

To loose a baby must be totally terrible, and if i had a baby and lost it, i'd just never stop crying my eyes out

I guess i just have trouble trusting people. I didn't mean any harm

emma~~_7

i dont know why do u all think that way,i m not lying and i dont even have the power and energy to do so,it feels my backbone is broken...what worse can happen to me in life when u cant conceive anymore??..
i never want to include people to share my sadness as i know its not worth,cant i get my family back?can i get my baby back?????
i m sorry as i told u i did not want to tell you also,but a few members told me to share my sadness with them,cuz i know maybe people curse me?so i m better of alone atleast i have a short life i want to live, i want nothing just a life full of peace.
i have no complains to any member,i wouldnt post anything if u dont like it and feel i m a liar and nor do i need to prove something and no pressure to anyone as everyone has their opinion and life,but pls.dont ever think bad abt me because i have nothing to lose now.

babyangel10

Hey Emma, We don't all think you are lying whatsoever - I for one believe you, and as you can now see from the posts above, Lilmiss has apologised for her comment and is perhaps just a little mistrusting of people.

I think sometimes some people express their opinions (as they are perfectly entitled to do) but, in the wrong way, or with the wrong wording, without perhaps thinking of the implications of what they are saying.

Please please post on here again - you will be most welcome and I'm sure anyone who posts negative comments in the future will be just as berated by the others as Lilmiss was by me (but I have forgiven her for that now! )

Please feel free to PM me if you like Emma. I haven't been through anything like your bereavements, but am always happy to read and reply to anyone and offer words of comfort if they are needed.

Please come and post again, and be sure that there are a huge amount of lovely people on here who will give any advice they can in the kindest way.

Lotsa love n hugs

T x

babyangel10

Hey Emma, We don't all think you are lying whatsoever - I for one believe you, and as you can now see from the posts above, Lilmiss has apologised for her comment and is perhaps just a little mistrusting of people.

I think sometimes some people express their opinions (as they are perfectly entitled to do) but, in the wrong way, or with the wrong wording, without perhaps thinking of the implications of what they are saying.

Please please post on here again - you will be most welcome and I'm sure anyone who posts negative comments in the future will be just as berated by the others as Lilmiss was by me (but I have forgiven her for that now! )

Please feel free to PM me if you like Emma. I haven't been through anything like your bereavements, but am always happy to read and reply to anyone and offer words of comfort if they are needed.

Please come and post again, and be sure that there are a huge amount of lovely people on here who will give any advice they can in the kindest way.

Lotsa love n hugs

T x

mandymoo

AnW`sMum hope the hard drive arrived ok and Stormy I hope the call last night went ok and when do pick up your new car ?

I`m sure if emma wishes to post on here she will and as with everyone who has posted will get a warm welcome and comfort from others.

Ds 2 has got a trip coming up in september to germany but has been told that he is able to go if his behaviour improves (by us and the school) he`s a great boy with a heart of gold, sensitive and thoughtful but he just never knows when to stop (he has to have the last word) we have been working with the school and slowly we are getting there he`s 13. He was diagnosed with epilepsy just after dad died and was put on medication( I think a combination of dad dying and the medicine has not helped,) but thankfully he has been seizure free for 18 months. I`m hoping the trip is a focus for him to aim for , he misses my dad so much and he often ask`s to go to the Hospice where dad died to light a candle or he will put on one of dads old t-shirts for bed, out of the three ( I have 3 children ds 18,dd 16,ds 13) he is the one that will talk about grandad a lot.

Well where did all that come from I only came on to see if everyone was ok and started to "ramble" on I must go and sort dinner out, I will look back later

love and hugs to you all

mandymoo xxxx

AnW'sMum

HI everyone, just a quick post before dinner. Thanks mandy the hard drive arrived early this afternoon, so after a morning spent waiting this afternoon has been a busy one.

Collected the car, all nice and shiny and scratch free again Called at the wholesalers on the way home and got some ebay supplies and starclen then collected DD and DS on the way home. Spaghetti Bolognese if anyone wants some will be served in 5 mins, get here quick.

Emma you are welcome here, there is no pressure either way from any of us. Just hope you feel you can post if you want to.

Catch you all later.

xxxx