I need a bit of help; I'm completely stuck

pebbles88

lostandworried wrote: »

I'm in debt as it is from my student loan - and I really, really want to learn to drive after I leave uni so I can help my mum a bit, so being in debt wont help.

lostandworried wrote: »

Well - dyspraxia wise, I have over sensory issues. I struggle shopping in supermarkets and rely on online shopping. I can't balance well and struggle to walk on uneven ground, uphill, at night and in areas of poor visibility, on snow and on ice. I can't cook very well without cutting or burning myself, and have trouble gaging the temperature of things so I quite often eat things that are too hot or too cold. I also have difficulty paying attention to things and have am likely to burn what I do cook. I struggle with hygiene - I can't brush my teeth well, brush my hair well, straighten or blow dry it very well. I forget my medication and struggle to take liquid medication. I have trouble bathing without soaking the floor because can't aim water to my head. I have major trouble sleeping - I can either sleep for hours and hours on end, or can't sleep at all. Also need a heavy duvet, a certain room temperature and can't cope with noise/complete darkness very well, rely on a nightlight. I struggle to use both hands at once, I struggle to follow instructions. I forget things a lot - day to day I have a rubbish memory but have a weirdly good long term memory. I get sore muscles, I have floppy muscles, I fall a lot and due to my joints/muscles I am more liable to serious injuries - I broke my leg simply by tripping up. I am oversensitive to pain as well, but am not good at treating injuries. I struggle to use small things, like buttons, zips, and buckles. I have difficulty using most kitchen equipment and utensils and need adapted things like special cultery and rubber mats to stop my plate from sliding. I struggle using stairs, being at a height etc.I need someone with me most of the time. I can't, for instance, stay in a house completely on my own. I cut myself when I shave myself a lot. Forget I have left water running, or the cooker on, or the straightners on.. Drop hot water on myself if I make tea, drop glasses, cutlery etc. Need a handrail on the stairs, non slip mats everywhere, handle bars in the bath so I don't fall. If I try to exercise, I am good at injuring myself.

this is not an attack on you at all, but with all the symptoms above, would you be able to even get a drivers licence due to your conditions?

If you are such a risk to yourself with day to day tasks, and struggle with co-ordination, and other motor skills, i am really doubtful that the DVLA would allow you to drive? Given that if anything happended whilst you were driving, its potentially a tonne of metal moving at speed posing a huge risk to other around you? l

Driving takes a huge amount of motor skills, co-ordination and skill in order to operate a car. its not just the mechanics of driving, but also having to be ultra aware of what happening around you at all times, and control several parts of the car, as well as knowing where you need to be/follow directions.There have been people on various threads over the years on here that have been refused licences, or had them revoked for a lot less severe conditions.


I have a younger sibling with Dyspraxia, symptoms identical to yours, her Dr's have forbade her getting any kind of licence for vehicles as she would cause an accident.

If driving is something you are setting your heart on, might t be worth speaking to our GP to see what her thoughts are on you driving? granted I can only go from what you have wrote on her, she knows you a lot better. x

Ambiss

I havent read all the replies so dont know if this has been posted already

Some Ideas

- Do you have a student account? - You can get accounts with up to £3k+ interest free overdraft which means you can buy food etc while studying. Pay rent etc. Most carry on until 3 yrs after you finish study also

I understand you dont want to get into debt but this wont cost you anything and being in some form of debt is a necessity for many students. - There is no way they could be students without.

- Your rent is very high. Most people at my Uni were not paying more then £320 after all bills - a room was typically £250. However if you have already signed a contract then dont worry about things you cant change - or would be complicated to change

- Look for work near your university. You stated that you live in a rural town. Aberdeen? is bigger and will have more jobs. Many student/freshers fairs have agencies come round also looking for people to work. (Apologies if you are not medically capable of work, I just skimmed OP) Obviously if you are living there then transportation to work is alot easier.

Good Luck

System

Also if you are dissqualified for driving you might be able to get a travel pass from your local council

Oldernotwiser

According to the Aberdeen University website there are Halls available from £70 a week. According to the Rightmove website there are 2 bed flats available for less than £600 pcm.

You seem to be making things more difficult for yourself by choosing to live in more expensive accommodation.

Emmzi

YWCA also has cheap accomodation in Aberdeen. And try spareroom.com

bunny999

clemmatis wrote: »

I assume you decided not to claim benefits -- such as DLA, which is payable whether people work or not. That's your decision. And yes. many people with diabetes and high blood pressure work full time. My brother did till he retired (at 65). But sometimes people have to give up working, even if they could work, because their employers won't make reasonable and non-costly accommodations. As to why there are more people on disability benefits now: the government of the day, thirty or so years ago, pushed people on to IB so they weren't on the unemployment register.

I didn't claim benefits because I have always supported myself. I shouldn't be entitled to DLA (which I have never claimed) as I don't have any care needs.

lostandworried

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

According to the Aberdeen University website there are Halls available from £70 a week. According to the Rightmove website there are 2 bed flats available for less than £600 pcm.

You seem to be making things more difficult for yourself by choosing to live in more expensive accommodation.

I've not really got the option of staying in halls again. I did it in 1st year, was bullied all year, the ceiling had a crack in it, the pipework was exposed in the bathroom and I had dried vomit stuck to my wall. Trust me, I would not ever stay there again. Not in a million years - I would rather drop out.

Plus, they will only offer certain rooms to people who aren't in first year - I'm away into my third. It would also be taking a step backward independence wise as my doctor, mum and pyschiatrist would like me to try living with friends as opposed to living in a halls/supported accomodation style situation.

It's not much of a choice to stay where I am - I need a) to be with someone I know so they can support me, and b) to be within my doctor's boundary - she's asked me to do that so they can carry on helping me sort my mental health out. Hence why I am staying where I am next year.

And I know about the driving, I probably need to ask my GP that too - have never tried it though so not sure. More than likely won't be able to though

Emmzi

you seem a bit intransigent on your living arrangements. How important IS finishing your degree, and how much is it about living with your mate?

Oldernotwiser

lostandworried wrote: »

I've not really got the option of staying in halls again. I did it in 1st year, was bullied all year, the ceiling had a crack in it, the pipework was exposed in the bathroom and I had dried vomit stuck to my wall. Trust me, I would not ever stay there again. Not in a million years - I would rather drop out.

Plus, they will only offer certain rooms to people who aren't in first year - I'm away into my third. It would also be taking a step backward independence wise as my doctor, mum and pyschiatrist would like me to try living with friends as opposed to living in a halls/supported accomodation style situation.

It's not much of a choice to stay where I am - I need a) to be with someone I know so they can support me, and b) to be within my doctor's boundary - she's asked me to do that so they can carry on helping me sort my mental health out. Hence why I am staying where I am next year.

And I know about the driving, I probably need to ask my GP that too - have never tried it though so not sure. More than likely won't be able to though

You really are just making excuses now and I for one have lost sympathy for you.

kezzygirl

lostandworried wrote: »

I've not really got the option of staying in halls again. I did it in 1st year, was bullied all year, the ceiling had a crack in it, the pipework was exposed in the bathroom and I had dried vomit stuck to my wall. Trust me, I would not ever stay there again. Not in a million years - I would rather drop out.

Plus, they will only offer certain rooms to people who aren't in first year - I'm away into my third. It would also be taking a step backward independence wise as my doctor, mum and pyschiatrist would like me to try living with friends as opposed to living in a halls/supported accomodation style situation.

It's not much of a choice to stay where I am - I need a) to be with someone I know so they can support me, and b) to be within my doctor's boundary - she's asked me to do that so they can carry on helping me sort my mental health out. Hence why I am staying where I am next year.

And I know about the driving, I probably need to ask my GP that too - have never tried it though so not sure. More than likely won't be able to though

at the start of your post u said you couldnt afford to live in halls as u would be unable to buy food-so which is it?cant afford it?or dont want to because of dried vomit and a cracked ceiling?