2nd baby - age gaps

threemuttleys

Oh and I have been discussing having a second baby. DS is now 8.5 months, and doing very very well, and we love being parents/a family.

Our thinking is, that we can get the "baby" bit out of the way, and then we can watch them grow (rather than get the eldest to school, and then have to go all the way back and start again!)

Also (and this is pure selfishness on my part) I am thinking that once I am done with the baby part, I can concentrate on my career/get a better job for the sake of the family (and me!)

We can afford a second baby, but just wondered what gaps people here have between their children? and whether our thinking is just silly, and we should wait till DS is older?

keelykat

Hey My son is 3 in sepember and we are expecting baby no 2 in december I personaly felt ready because my son will be starting nursery in january (hopefully) and won't rely on being a pushchair all the time. I didn't want a massive gap, this just feels right for us now.

keely.

DueMarch11

My daughter will be 3 in August and I had my son back in March, roughly a 2.5 year gap.

emsywoo123

Well I have a little over 7 years between my 2...........I think there is pros and cons for both, i.e. I do not have to worry about potty training 2 at similar times, DD is independent enough to get what she needs (drink etc) even if I am busy with DS, I was able to devote my self fully to DD through her formative years........

BUT!! I had forgotten the sleep deprivation (only about 4 months, but felt like forever!) and DD will just be finishing her school when DS starts........so that is 16 years of driving to the same school :eek: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

If you both feel ready, I say go for it

1more?

hi three
i dont think theres any right time just what is right for you,
i have 3, dd 14, ds 9 & dd2 is 1 in 2 wks, i do big age gaps :eek:
5yrs between the first 2 & then 8yrs im tying with the idea of 4 even i cant believe i am because dd2 seems like an only child, on the other hand she has 4 of us at her beck & call all the time

Lucy1973

My son is almost 17 and am 6 weeks preg with my second. I was 21 with first and 38 with second.

mummyroysof3

i had a 2 year gap then another 2 year gap which has left us with all three birthdays in april and may which can be annoying and very busy.

i guess evreyone is different but i think im glad and had them close together and now the youngest is 2 and its becoming a little easier i know i dont want any more...but not sure if ill still think that when they all grown up and ive forgotten how hard having a baby is lol

jcr16

i perfer smaller gaps. but the bigger the gap the easier it is however i love the hustle and bustle of family life and i don't feel like i had that with bigger gaps.

i found out i was 5 weeks preg when on our daughters 1st birthday. i loved the age gap. it was perfect. we started trying for baby 3 when our second was a yr old but it didn't happen until our son had just turned 2. so 3rd son was born just before baby 2 was 3. so i had 3 children 4 and under and i loved it, however it did feel a little bit like the gap was too big.

but now i have a huge gap.our 3rd child turned 3 in april and baby 4 isn't due until aug. It does feel like were starting all over again as all 3 odler children will be at nursery of school come sep. so it will be just me and baby at home. Having said that i am looking forward to having baby all to myself.

both hubby and i have said we woulnd't be upset tho if i fell preg within a few months of baby 4 being born. but i'm having a few probs in this pregnancy so it may be our last ( which i'm finding hard coming to terms with).

my mum had a huge gap with me and my bro. 15 years !!!!!!. she was 25 when had me ( dad was 34) and 40 when had my bro ( dad was 49) but she said she had the energy with me , but with my bro she found she had more paitence and alot more wisdom. it worked out fab for them, but certainly not somethign i'd entertain. well consdiering by time i'm 40 my dd will be 18 i can imagien she'd be horrified also,lol :rotfl:

Mrs_Arcanum

Another 3 year & 1 week gap here. The only issue may be if your 3 year old is recently dry (day & night) when the baby comes along they may revert (to get the attention).

Molly41

Mine are 20, 18, 16 and 14 now....obviously hard work but lots of fun having them closer together. I always got pregnant as the weaning kicked in after exclusive breast feeding. Only you can know what is right for you and yours x

Nara

My DD is 5 years old, am now just thinking of having another one, so by the time i do she will be at least 6 years old.

2 reasons for this i guess, we decided to only have one child although I think i would like another but convincing my OH is another matter :P

Also my DD was very ill from 5 weeks old until about 2 years, when you have less then 2 hours sleep in a row for over a year, constant screaming, feeding issues, trips ot the hospital, medication, a mini breakdown, no support from family etc it kinda puts you off having any more for a loooooooooooooooong time!:eek: