younger sister just attacked my mother..

princeofpounds

Social services is where I would start too. Other options are GP (for info on medical side of the situation and possible referral to other support services), one of several mental health and asperger's charities helplines (yes I know that aspergers is not mental illness but it's not entirely clear what the diagnosis is) and certainly police if there is any actualy violence (it will not be compulsory to press charges or anything like that)

scooby088

There is no excuse for putting your hands on another person, assault is assault and no matter what condition they have the police need to be informed. Speaking personally i would defend myself and have the daughter out of the house, with the police involved you can also get social services involved and get something sorted out for your sister.

the_cat

The number one priority must be the safety of your mum and other members of the family.

You need IMMEDIATE help for the sake of all concerned. If she does this again and properly hurts your mum, then what happens? At the end of the day, this girl needs her mother physically and emotionally in one piece, if for no other reason than to get her the help and support she obviously needs, so it is in her interests too to get the authorities involved.

Phone social service. Explain it is an emergency. Don't take no for an answer

pimento

My son has Asperger's Syndrome and has never attacked me.

MichaelCR

gorgeouslatinrose wrote: »

this is not the first time. but the first time i have seen it.
she has just turned 16. I am actually scared of her.
My mother is distraught. They were already seeking help for her- they think she could have aspergers.
Can we call anyone? Is there anyone that can help them? I am really scared for my mother...

Call the police if she was assaulted, Maybe this immature sister of yours might not think its so funny attacking the one person who has supported her since she was born, Fed her, looked after her, paid for her clothes, And brought her up.

Why people are so rude to there parents annoys me. These people brought you up......Show a little respect.

Other services are...Social Services, Contact your GP ?

It will get worse as time goes by if its pushed under the carpet.

gorgeouslatinrose

Thankyou everyone for your advice- if im honest we are all still in shock . luckily my father has come home - in a way im happier about this as if she tries it again then at least i know hes strong enough to stop her..
gp, child services, school, everyone was notified - we are in the middle of getting her assesed, the doctors and everyone have been brilliant. problem is she was at a school where no help was given - she was moved to another one which has been amazing but it means we are still trying to sort thiings out.
we thought she had calmed down - however she has just tried it again, not as bad but threw something to hurt her and now have had enough and are calling social services as i type, and i think the police are about to be notified. the ridiculous thing is, while i know it should be something to provoke her - we did nothing , a friend gave her an invite, she didnt go because the message came her late, they had gone - so she lost it with us...

just got off the phone - social services apparently can do nothing as we are not beating her up.....not really sure where to go now ....

Allegra

gorgeouslatinrose wrote: »

the ridiculous thing is, while i know it should be something to provoke her - we did nothing , a friend gave her an invite, she didnt go because the message came her late, they had gone - so she lost it with us...

That does sound very much like autism, hun. And "lost it" is just what it is, if autism is in question - you (your mum) got it in the neck simply because you were there.

In the short term, try simply removing yourselves from her vicinity when she starts building up a head of steam, then talking to her once she's calmed down. Be warned though that talking can be hit and miss for a long time until you learn what sets her off.

just got off the phone - social services apparently can do nothing as we are not beating her up.....not really sure where to go now ....

Really not sure if this is going to be any help, but it's the only think I could think of as the next step: http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/

Also, any support group or charity supporting people with ASDs - you are not the only people ever to have had to deal with the same situation, and someone somewhere will know the answer.

Try also asking the question on these fora:

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/
http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

gorgeouslatinrose

Pee wrote: »

What does your mother want to do? I would have thought social services the best place to start. Would it be appropriate for your sister to be rehomed? Would she be able to manage on her own and would your mother want this?

Sadly we do not have much family around for her to be rehomed, my aunt could help but she has problems , it could be worse for her. She cannot manage on her own, shes 16 but acts more like 13/14 years old. She struggles a lot, and sadly is not the most independant person. I wish we could, but sadly thnk this is not an option.

Allegra

MichaelCR wrote: »

Call the police if she was assaulted, Maybe this immature sister of yours might not think its so funny attacking the one person who has supported her since she was born, Fed her, looked after her, paid for her clothes, And brought her up.

Why people are so rude to there parents annoys me. These people brought you up......Show a little respect.

Other services are...Social Services, Contact your GP ?

It will get worse as time goes by if its pushed under the carpet.

Do you actually know what Asperger's Syndrome is ?

gorgeouslatinrose

Allegra wrote: »

That does sound very much like autism, hun. And "lost it" is just what it is, if autism is in question - you (your mum) got it in the neck simply because you were there.

In the short term, try simply removing yourselves from her vicinity when she starts building up a head of steam, then talking to her once she's calmed down. Be warned though that talking can be hit and miss for a long time until you learn what sets her off.




Really not sure if this is going to be any help, but it's the only think I could think of as the next step: http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/

Also, any support group or charity supporting people with ASDs - you are not the only people ever to have had to deal with the same situation, and someone somewhere will know the answer.

Try also asking the question on these fora:

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/
http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

Thankyou so much- that is really helpfull, im looking through it all now.
My parents are in shock , my mother looks like shes about to give up - I really feel for her as i think she did hurt her this morning....social services were no help so she thinks she at a loss. the problem is social services are saying we are doing everything right so they are just saying go to another appointment with the place wewere going to and wait from there...
I almost want her to try again so can call the police......just so lost and in shock now...thankyou so much for all your help..