younger sister just attacked my mother..

gorgeouslatinrose

this is not the first time. but the first time i have seen it.
she has just turned 16. I am actually scared of her.
My mother is distraught. They were already seeking help for her- they think she could have aspergers.
Can we call anyone? Is there anyone that can help them? I am really scared for my mother...

scooby088

Yes call the police for a start, get the assault logged first.

gorgeouslatinrose

thanks - i think they are scared to do that. i mean it wasnt with a kniife or anything - but i think they just dont know where to turn...

Caroline_a

gorgeouslatinrose wrote: »

thanks - i think they are scared to do that. i mean it wasnt with a kniife or anything - but i think they just dont know where to turn...

..but it might be next time!

melancholly

well they need help and possibly time to think without your sister being there.... can your sister stay with anyone else (or is she violent full stop, or just towards your mother?)? i don't know who the best people are to contact, but the police will be able to help direct your family to other services..... it may seem an extreme reaction but right now, keeping everyone safe is the most important priority - even if that means your sister spends time in custody (which may not even happen)

Pee

What does your mother want to do? I would have thought social services the best place to start. Would it be appropriate for your sister to be rehomed? Would she be able to manage on her own and would your mother want this?

gorgeouslatinrose

thankyou for all your help - my mum wants to wait as they were meant to have a meeting with someone to get help, but the people cancelled the meeting but she has called them for assistance. we are definatly doing social services next - but whether we will get any help is another thing. i would take her away for a few days, but she has now got to the point where i think she could start on me too so i may not be the best person. i hope my other sister or someone will take her - but whther she would go is another thing...

Elle7

Call social services and they will have an on call duty worker. If you explain what's happened, they should send someone out to see you and talk about options.

They will talk to her and possibly arrange for her to stay with friends for a few days. You will find that it will benefit you in the future if you report it to the police, however - its then a proper marker to show that your sister is violent and needs help.

Good luck, I've been there and it's a difficult place.

littlestar1981

Has your mum spoken to her GP about it all? Can they not refer you to Child and Family Service or something?

Ha, Jeremy Kyle's Graham is a legend, but airing your laundry for all to see isn't for everyone.

Allegra

If your sister does have Asperger's, then calling the police is really likely to help about as much as a poke in the eye with a sharp stick would. Unless, of course, it is in the middle of an attack when she is completely out of control and a danger to herself and others, when a call to emergency services IS appropriate, although ambulance would probably be of more use even then.

I would suggest social services, GP, and if she is still at school, asking the school for a referral to the ASD team.

In the meantime, read (and Mum should read) everything you can about autism and Asperger's as this will be invaluable in unravelling why she is behaving that way. An Aspie, generally speaking, will not attack anyone out of malice - they usually lash out because they are genuinely unable to cope. If you can work out her stressors - and it can be something as inocuous to the rest of us as chafing clothing or noise she has no control over (barking dogs, people snoring, people eating, even breathing) - then you can work on reducing them in order to help her cope.

And best of luck to all of you - it can be sheer hell at times, but remember that understading is the key, and that things can get better

blue_monkey_2

Little_Leita wrote: »

Maybe you should have explained that in your original post? It appeared to be a wisecrack - and I suspect I'm not the only person to think that?

Check the other posts they have made, I guess that poster is building up to start spamming the boards sooner or later.