Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Just want to second this suggestion. I have two now and have half and hour in the morning downstairs and half an hour in the evening in bed. They really do help me :T

I have one but at the moment, I cannot find what I did with the charger! idiot that I am.! Must look for it harder. As feeling pretty dysmal and i know that it helped me last year.

I shall go and have my shower in a minute before the day is too far gone and then try and get my motivation back.! one step at a time.:o

bratz81

sorry to hear about your breakuo mooloo, and your back LL but hoping you feel better soon.
Hugs to anyone else feeling down in the dumps.

I think the family crisis is over - well it's been brushed under the carpet and everyone is moving on. It was my fiance's family and they are big into presenting that perfect happy family front and ignoring issues. Which in my opinion is totally the wrong way to go about things - how can you ever sort an issue if you ignore it? They're bound to explode one day. However it's not my family so all I can do is quietly fume and support OH when he needs me.

Fabwise, decluttered my house a good bit which has made me feel a bit better, as well as sorted out my toiletries chest...omg I have so much left yet and will probably get more for my birthday so I won't have to buy any for ages! Next step is sorting the clothes out - I've a few bits I want to stick on eBay so need to get that sorted out and get all the stuff that doesn't fit or suit me up on there.

Savvy_sewing

Well I do feel somewhat better after having my shower, and I actually managed to dry my hair. (Thats not so easy with my arm!). Havent gone as far as doing anything else yet. But I will dig out my moisuriser etc now and start there.! Used to do it every day, but slipped of late! Thats a start anyway.

maman

Molly41 wrote: »

Please can this thread continue after the winter solstice (in a different guise as the winter solstice will have passed) as I have personally got such a lot from it, as others have, and dont want to lose my new "Fabby" on-line friends xx

Oooh yes, please! I'm definitely voting for that.

:wave: to you all.

Hope your back's bit easier today LL but don't try and do too much too soon.

Thank's for your lovely post betony and congratulations on your shiney! I've become a big SW fan because it doesn't feel like a diet at all. You get to eat loads of healthy food and learn to have 'bad' things in moderation. After my over indulgence at the weekend, I feel much better for going back to the plan. We'll see the damage on Thursday:o

Sorry to hear about your troubles mooloo but it is good to have you back.

I'm glad to hear the family issues have blown over bratz. As you say, it's not really your problem and some things can't be resolved once and for all but at least it's died down. I know how you feel about toiletries. Mine never seem to get less and I try so hard not to buy any more. When's your birthday?

Strangely, DH told me I look tired this morning. That's probably because I am!! My theory is that he's got so used to me fabbing that he's noticing when I haven't got eye make up on. Of course, being a man he doesn't realise that:rotfl:

Having worked towards the wedding, I'm ready for a new challenge. I've got to get proper cleansing into a habit and not neglect my feet so that's two things. Plus I want to start some knitting/sewing project (inspired by molly, so glad you enjoyed the course). That's a start.

Delighted to say that birds have started to reappear in our garden after a strange absence of some months. DH and I rarely shop together but we are off to Aldi later to get some bird food and I'm going with him to get a few bits that I like from there. We really know how to live!:rotfl:

lessonlearned

Hello Ladies

Pleased to say that my back is a little easier today. Still taking it very easy though - slowly, slowly catchee monkey.

Fabwise - well I managed to get in and out of the bath ok and also to wash my hair. Didn't style it just let it dry naturally so it's looking rather strange, flat against my head. Still no-one's here to see.

Yesterday I took a good look in the mirror and I'm afraid what stared back at me was not a vision of loveliness. I swear I've aged a good 10 to 15 years this year. Yesterday I looked particularly bad, ashen faced, lines of stress and worry and etched with pain.

Thankfully I slept really well last night - only one night sweat and that was after 7-00am, so I think the HRT is kicking in now. My face looked a lot better this morning.

It's strange but any residual guilt I've been feeling about OH going into care is slipping away. I just feel a huge sense of relief. I haven't been able to visit yet, can't walk much. So I rang the matron and she said he has settled in really quickly - chatting to everyone as if he'd never been away. I think he's ready now to make the move and I feel confident that everything is going to be ok.

The home is slightly shabby (undergoing some refurbishment at the moment) but it has a lovely atmosphere and the staff seem very caring. The matron has been there for over 20 years and most of the staff do seem to be long serving too. I think that says a lot.

Last night it was wonderful for DS2 and I just to relax and have the house to ourselves without carers coming in. Likewise this morning, I even managed to have a little lie in.

I find the constant to-ing and fro-ing of carers and endless streams of strangers wandering through my house very tiring and also very disruptive.

I know it sounds as if I'm very ungrateful and truly, I'm not because I couldn't have managed this last year without them all. It's just that I relish a bit of peace and quiet and value my privacy. I think DS2 feels the same, he seemed a lot more relaxed last evening too.

Oh dear I've just realised this is all about me, me, me and mine. Sorry. I guess losing that 10 ton weight off my shoulders has rather gone to my head - if you catch my drift.

Back in a mo

lessonlearned

Well ladies I'm liking the sound of the light - I think that's an idea for Santa.:D

Had a look at that site Molly - where you stayed. Looks lovely. It's got me thinking.

I haven't had a proper holiday for a long time and I'm determined to do something about that. I have been looking at a few companies which specialise in singles holidays (no not 18-30, naughty, naughty girls).

I like the idea of a "craft break" - fancy the stone carving.:)

Maman - I totally agree with the idea of "doing" something to stretch our minds/lives. Think it's a great idea.

Recently, I've been giving this a lot of thought. Once OH is nicely settled and I've put the house back to rights I will need to build myself a life. I intend to do a few courses, travel a bit, take up some new and interesting hobbies.

I'm not complaining about being housebound and being OH's carer for all these years but I am looking forward to rejoining the human race, making new friends, renewing old friendships etc. Maybe get a little job (jobette) and perhaps start a little business.

I'm only 60, fit and healthy (or at least I think I will be once I've had time to rest and recuperate). I'm not ready to give up on life just yet.

So yes Maman - come the New Year we'll set ourselves some fresh challenges.:D

Anyway the sofa is calling - time for a nap and a chance to recline and stretch my back out again.

Bye for now x

vasseur

What a lovely positive and upbeat couple of posts LL. I'm so glad that your overall feeling is one of relief. The home sounds lovely and no way should you feel guilty, you have worked so hard.

Hope your back is feeling much better today

maman

Just a quick post (I only came upstairs to scrub hands after chopping chillies). Oh and cream them of course:rotfl:

A couple of instant comments on your posts LL (my father always said bossiness was a trait amongst the women in our family:o)

• DON'T wait until the house is all sorted before you have a holiday, start new hobbies, get out and about etc. Have a plan for the house and work through it gradually but LIVE at the same time!
• as an observation, I could tell from the 'outside' that you and DH were getting used to the idea of residential care. Is it too soon to start making arrangements for the new year?

Savvy_sewing

LL, I think that you must make the most of your life too. Enjoy it. Caring is very, very draining. It doesnt take away from the love.
I find caring for DGD draining, and without the nursery days I think I would not have coped. I am alas already looking foreward to September! when she will go to school everyday.! But its still a long way off yet. If I was fit enough, I would make my sewing into a business,but I am not reliable at the moment. Something to aim for.
I did manage to make another christmas tree decoration today. A silver one. Wrapped ribbon. Intricate but looks good I think.
I will get some batteries for the camera tomorrow and post.
I managed to moisturise and rub some body cream into my knees. (get psoriosis). Have been neglecting things of late, what with permanantly in my jeans. Tomorrow I am aiming to put on a dress. I am not actually going anywhere. At least I havent planned to. But I just want to feel better.

fedupandskint

Hope we all feel better about our selves

I certainly do, this thread has really helped me stay on track with fabbiness - eg regular skincare of exfoliation and face mask, hair mask and treatments. Even regular nail filing, biffing and oiling (using up the bottles of nail oil in my drawer bought last year in the sale). Have used up 1 downstairs, moved upstairs one downstairs and only a quarter left to go and opened a new one upstairs

Anyway my big news today is a further 2lb lost which means I now only have 2lbs left to go and have reached my final target weight. I wanted to say thank you for this thread, it has kept me on track and aiming to get to a point in weight loss I never really thought I would get too. Boy am I happy about this! Can't stop smiling about it for now!

Went for a run after work which I enjoyed so much. Legs felt much stronger after a bit of time off with a cold. I might even go for another one tomorrow - will see!