How to make new friends, with so little time?

LegalBlonde

ha ha dehanni oh why oh why am i feeding you, you are having a laugh now. If you really expect me to believe that for example, the ONE voluntary activity someone suggested i.e. walking dogs from a dog home is something you not only tried but got turned down for due to bulging filing cabinets of potential volunteers....well I will eat my hat! lol so that's where I will be now, off eating my hat. Going to stop feeding you now and go back to the safety of other boards!!!

Emmzi

meetup.com (for any other readers looking to meet people)

skyvicky123

Can I suggest that you seem quite "clinical" in your approach to this which suggests that no matter what you try you will probably always come across as a little awkward in social situations. (don't worry I am the same!)

Personally I find it much easier on a more one to one basis and when there are things in common to talk about. The idea of striking up a random conversation with a stranger brings me out in a cold sweat!

There are other people out there that find it as hard as you to make friends. You need to find some other hobby type classes that fit in around your work.

I have learned that friends won't just land on your doormat and it isn't an instant thing. You have to work to build an acquaintance into a friendship and maintain contact for long enough so that you can relax in their company and they can get to know the real you (now who sounds clinical!!??) Once you're past that awkward shy bit you can really start to feel the benefits of a friendship and the whole thing becomes much less like hard work!!

foreign_correspondent

ZCC72 wrote: »

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I can sympathise with the OP - I work a lot from home, and the hours often creep into evenings & weekends, plus I have moved so much lately it's difficult starting up again with joining groups. I know I should, and will make a concerted effort - all my other friends are out of the area, and while I stay in touch, it would be nice to see an actual person everyonce in a while.

I work from home too - and it is driving me crazy at the moment... I am a sociable person by nature, and the isolation drives me mad!

My two oldest friends live miles away, and many of the others are at a different stages in their lives to me (they have young familes etc) - I became single again last year, and find myself short on friends who arent tied down...

It does become harder to meet new friends I think... school and university are full of people of the same age and with similar lifestyles... once you get older you no longer find yourself in that sort of situation!

dehaani

LegalBlonde wrote: »

ha ha dehanni oh why oh why am i feeding you, you are having a laugh now. If you really expect me to believe that for example, the ONE voluntary activity someone suggested i.e. walking dogs from a dog home is something you not only tried but got turned down for due to bulging filing cabinets of potential volunteers....well I will eat my hat! lol so that's where I will be now, off eating my hat. Going to stop feeding you now and go back to the safety of other boards!!!

I didn't even think of volunteering to walk dogs. I went there almost a year ago mostly expecting to volunteer at weekends to gain experience working with animals, in an attempt to find similar paid employment.

Lady_S

Now I can completely understand the OP in this situation.

For reasons ourside my control most of my friends went to uni and I didn't. This set me apart from them, and gradually over time we all grew apart.

These days I am married and love my husband to bits, but I feel damn lonely.

Up until I was married I had a very close on and off relationship with one friend from school. However, we had a massive row not long after my marriage and we haven't really spoken since. I did try and build bridges, but she wasn't interested and after 5 years I have sat and looked and thought !!!!!! her, I would prefer to be lonely than try and beg for her friendship.

When people at work go out together I am dead jealous, but I just don't know how to get myself into that kind of situation. Over the years I have lost all my confidence and beleive that I am just someone who people don't want around much.

A few weeks ago I went to go and fill my car with Petrol on a Saturday night and saw a girl all dressed up to go out on the town and it made me so jealous I could have cried.

Make-it-3

Dehaani, don't you have friends on here?

Come now volunteers, who wants to be Dehaani's friend?

pigpen

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Dehaani, don't you have friends on here?

Come now volunteers, who wants to be Dehaani's friend?

ME ME !!!! OOOh pick me!!!!!

He's a scream!

make_me_wise

dehaani wrote: »

Hi people. Where do you meet new friends? Ones that don't drink alcohol too much or too often because I really dislike "pub culture".

I was making loads of friends at work but now nobody there talks to me because of a misunderstanding.

Has this got anything to do with what you accidently your debit card? What did you do? Is it now safe? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

dehaani

make_me_wise wrote: »

Has this got anything to do with what you accidently your debit card? What did you do? Is it now safe? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Nothing to do with the debit card. This is a new topic.