Wedding ruined, what are our rights

pelirocco

JPS29 wrote: »

Wrong, it's all about the perfect day. If they would have offered us a postponement or reschedule then I guarantee you that would hav been the end of it,
Equally too if they will marry us back in the Uk and annull the first marriage we will be happy with that, they can pay all the bills direct and we will not make a single penny. How can that be all about the money.
Dmg, honestly we cant see the funny side of it. My wife up all night crying when we should have been "consumating" was not funny, nor having to phone the doctor when she was having a panic attack.

People may think we are overreacting and thats fine. We are not serial complainers, never been on this part of the forum before so its not alla bout the money, but if they dont offer a remarriage as above what else are we supposed to have in compensation if not money?

There is no such thing as a perfect day , and tbh it should really be about a marriage

If you think that day was bad , try the next 20 odd years :rotfl:

shop-to-drop

I really can't understand why it was so important that every detail was so specific as it was only the 2 of you and your daughter is that correct?

Agree with the others the details of the ceremony are unimportant being married, especially newly married is what's special.

fluffnutter

Seriously, annulment? For a start annulment's a religion concept and I thought you said you weren't religious! That aside the church recognises a number of reasons why a marriage can be declared void. This include that you're related; you're mad; you never intended to be faithful when you married; you bumped off your missus's ex husband so that you could marry her; you tricked someone into it; you abducted someone and forced them to marry you; you were hammered when you got married.

I've tried my best but nowhere can I find 'didn't like the music, had to speak vows into a mike'.

NeilF3485

What I don't get is why when you were handed a microphone you just didn't put it on the floor, not speak into it, refuse to take it etc. anyone would think they glued one to your face or held a gun to your back to make you speak into it!

Out of interest, if they had said "let's postpone it because we can't get the MP3 player working" would you have been happy about that, or complaining that your big day was ruined over a TINY detail?

This is the most epic overreaction I can remember reading.

hayley11

I know what it's like wanting your wedding day to be perfect, but the little things that went wrong at our wedding made us laugh, the cd player actually broke and it took them ages to fix it, while we were sat waiting to walk out of the room, we didn't mind at all! We were just so happy that we were married.

As others have said, you could've put the mic down, so that is your fault, you had free will, you chose not to use it. So you can't really pin that one on the planner, I suspect that was just a case of miscommunication.

I find it amazing that you've been planning this wedding (and by planning, I assume you mean saving?) for two years, you're now finally married and all you and your new wife are doing is getting upset over absolutely daft things. It's a shame, you should be on cloud 9!

fluffnutter

I've been thinking about this thread a fair bit. How have we, as a nation, as a species? got to the point where we can't cope with the slightest bit of adversity or disappointment? We're seemingly brain-washed into this notion of entitlement; that our wedding day must be 'perfect', that we're 'disgusted' if it's not or we have panic attacks because we can't cope. It reminds me of that bizarre Sweet Sixteen programme where young (usually) girls have these extravagant parties. They're monstrous, they truly are. They seem to think that provided enough money's flung at something it insulates against chance or coincidence or just plain bad luck, and they feel their lives are simply ruined if something (minor) goes wrong. Are people really that unable to cope with a little adversity? Are we that unable to keep things in perspective? What happened to a bit of stoicism? It's crazy, it really is. The only explanation I can think of is money. Honestly. It's this idea that you can buy everything - even good luck.

NeilF3485

fluffnutter - I had the misfortune of seeing a couple of those "My Super Sweet Sixteen" shows on MTV - one which sticks in my mind is a girl going absolutely mental about how her Mum had "ruined my life" "ruined my party" etc. for giving her her birthday present the day before her party.............it was a brand spanking new BMW. Truly ridiculous.

Cat2011

I went to my best friends wedding last weekend. The preist called the groom "Duncan" 3 times. The groom's name is Brendan. God knows who Duncan is! Everyone - including the bride and groom - thought it was hilarous.

globetraveller

I just think it is so sad that the whole holiday is ruined by this. What sort of a life will they have together if they can't actually enjoy being married in the first few days?
If it wasn't for the fact that it is an established poster I would have thought this was a windup.
I remember seeing a woman on holiday who, every time we saw her, seemed to be crying. I wondered how long that marriage would last.
So sad to look back at a wedding and honeymoon and only remember bad things.
Perhaps the bride was close to a nervous breakdown beforehand. Is she perhaps depressed? It really can't all be down to the things that have been spoken about. God help you if it is.
Once you get home( and I still don't get how you could be home and yet still posting from Mexico?) it might be a good idea to talk it through and find out if perhaps an annulment might actually be the best thing you can both do.
If things can be worked out, what about taking some more photos with your wedding outfits on? Saying your vows again( it could be that the disgust you talked about was evident in the video footage and the photographer thought it kind to cut that part out)
I really do feel sorry for you.

rumdiddlyum

my wedding was the perfect day:j and loads of things didnt exactly go to plan but we got married. i would have loved to say my wedding vows on a microphone could have done a song too:dance: :dance::dance:
really its your faulty you should have said NO to the things they were doing instead of just going along with it. id have been we've paid you will sort something but you just went along with it which to me says im fine with it.
if your not willing to open your mouth until afterwards its your own fault

crying all night too i mean come on make the best of life you only have one and if anyone ruined it it was you two