Wedding ruined, what are our rights

globetraveller

In your first post you said you had just been to Mexico and then in your next post you are still in Mexico?
Your "worst nightmare ensued"? I think the wrong music and the microphone( which you could have sorted there and then) is not your main worry. If your wife was so upset that she cried all night and is still so upset days later that you can't go to the beach- I think you may have someone who has second thoughts. Even if its not the case then god help you in the future when there are real worst nightmares.
I do agree that being rushed through photos is not good at all and some form of compensation is due.
Its such a shame that you both have chosen to let a few hiccups ruin everything. Surely the upgrade was a good thing?
Weddings abroad tend to be a bit of a conveyor belt. this can happen at home too of course but usually they don't take place in busy hotel grounds. If you wanted intimate then you chose the wrong type of wedding.
I do like watching weddings and the vows that were heard probably got a lot of "ahhhhs" from the people around you. They would have thought them lovely.
By the way- it was gale force winds for our wedding and a lot of photos were wasted; my OH forgot to buy cufflinks; we actually had music played in the evening which had specifically said not to play; we were invited up for the first dance by the wrong surname. The wedding video was never given to us( long story which I won't go into) What do we do- we just laughed it all off.

fluffnutter

The first few months after a wedding are precious, a really beautiful time to revel in your newly wed status. If you don't let go the disappointments of your wedding day, JPS, you'll spoil this time and you'll never get it back. As the years go on, the letdowns of your day will fade into perspective but you'll have lost those rare few months after your wedding. Don't build this up into something it's not and lose sight of what you do have - a wonderful wife and a new life to enjoy together.

ThumbRemote

Consider it this way. A wedding and marriage are like going on holiday. The wedding is the journey and the marriage is the holiday itself. The purpose of the wedding is to become married, it is not an end in itself. Fair enough, your journey wasn't what you hoped, but now you've reached the destination.

The fact you're talking about the marriage being annulled suggests you're more concerned about the wedding itself than actually being married. You've spent years preparing a wedding and it sounds like no time at all preparing for being married. Get your priorities in order and concentrate on building a strong marriage now. If your new wife is upset then be a decent husband, go on a walk together or do something else that you'll both enjoy, that will cheer you up and help you both move on.

You're married. Presumably that's what you wanted. Celebrate that fact and be happy!

Nara

This thread reminds me that why after 12 years together me and my partner still haven't got married ;-) Altho tbh 2 weeks in Mexico would be nice!

nervousftb_3

If I got married and spent all night crying over a song then I think my groom would want the marriage annulled too - the difference being I don't think he'd want to remarry me again!

Just to echo what others have already said - I think you need to get things in perspective a little. By all means ask for a small amount of compensation for the few minor things that went wrong, but then get over it and get on with enjoying yourselves!

In a few years time you're going to look back and seriously regret the fact that you spent your honeymoon on the internet moaning about a couple of flowers and a few strangers overhearing your vows. Get off the computer and go to the beach with your new wife!!!

Flyboy152

globetraveller wrote: »

In your first post you said you had just been to Mexico and then in your next post you are still in Mexico?
Your "worst nightmare ensued"? I think the wrong music and the microphone( which you could have sorted there and then) is not your main worry. If your wife was so upset that she cried all night and is still so upset days later that you can't go to the beach- I think you may have someone who has second thoughts. Even if its not the case then god help you in the future when there are real worst nightmares.
I do agree that being rushed through photos is not good at all and some form of compensation is due.
Its such a shame that you both have chosen to let a few hiccups ruin everything. Surely the upgrade was a good thing?
Weddings abroad tend to be a bit of a conveyor belt. this can happen at home too of course but usually they don't take place in busy hotel grounds. If you wanted intimate then you chose the wrong type of wedding.
I do like watching weddings and the vows that were heard probably got a lot of "ahhhhs" from the people around you. They would have thought them lovely.
By the way- it was gale force winds for our wedding and a lot of photos were wasted; my OH forgot to buy cufflinks; we actually had music played in the evening which had specifically said not to play; we were invited up for the first dance by the wrong surname. The wedding video was never given to us( long story which I won't go into) What do we do- we just laughed it all off.

I must have missed that, when did the OP state they were still in Mexico?

Flyboy152

Nara wrote: »

This thread reminds me that why after 12 years together me and my partner still haven't got married ;-) Altho tbh 2 weeks in Mexico would be nice!

That would depend on where in Mexico.

globetraveller

Flyboy152 wrote: »

I must have missed that, when did the OP state they were still in Mexico?

Haven't worked out how to multi quote but its on post 3

shellsuit

My Dad had a panic attack in the wedding car on the way and was feeling that crap afterwards he never drank all day and night.

Our son (who was 17 months old) fell asleep so is only on 3 photographs.

Our guests were all meant to be sitting together, but they didn't, so we had 6 on one side and about 35 on the other.

My Nan choked on her meal, went grey, was shaking and we seriously thought we were going to lose here there and then.

Our DJ didn't turn up, and instead we were sent a cheesy DJ who was fine, but late.

We couldn't get the knife through the cake when we 'cut it' in front of ALL our guests.

We had 3 non shows in the day for the wedding breakfast and had to run around rearranging the tables in our wedding outfits.



I'm sure there were more things that happened which weren't in the original plans, BUT, we had a fantastic day and none of those 'blips' bothered us (well apart from my Dad and Nan of course, but they were fine in the end) at all!

I even walked through a big muddy puddle and got crap all over my dress, but I just shrugged my shoulders and laughed because I really didn't give a fig.

We'd set out to do what we wanted to do, and it was only after the ceremony that I realised that the only things we needed were each other, 2 rings and 2 witnesses.

Everything else was just bells and whistles and really doesn't matter!



To want the marriage annulled is just crazy.

You sound like perfectionists and seem like you wanted every little detail go to plan, but this is real life, not a fairy tale, so of course there will be some hiccups along the way.

What's going to happen if there are blips in the marriage? Divorce?

Seriously, it doesn't matter. You are now husband and wife, surely that's all that matters??

Flyboy152

globetraveller wrote: »

Haven't worked out how to multi quote but its on post 3

Aah yes, sorry, I missed that.