Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

AllyS

jtr2803 wrote: »

Had to come on and post this from my phone as its quite unbelievable, sorry to all those hoping its a post to say he's proposed, its not that great....

OH was going through YouTube playing loads of motown tracks and we were bobbing away, then he said he was.saving them all in a folder for our wedding! I then said o wasn't keen on getting married over here so he said ok, we will take my parents, your mum away for it. I said I doubt his parents would travel as they've never been abroad and he said next time he goes round he will ask them as it needs to be fairly soon, while they are still able to travel :eek:

Omg Omg Omg surely that must mean the p word is soon? Trying not to get your hopes up but wow! Lucky girl

verandi

:rotfl:Oh my, this is so exciting! I can't cope with the suspense so go and ask him for all our sakes! Haha

AllyS

verandi wrote: »

:rotfl:Oh my, this is so exciting! I can't cope with the suspense so go and ask him for all our sakes! Haha

How sad are we? Haha :rotfl:

Alibear

I've been 'lurking' around this thread for ages - mainly waiting for good news about people's proposals!

JTR, you HAVE to ask what he meant! Just keep it light-hearted and 'jokey', something like 'was that a proposal, Mr?' It's not like he'll be scared off if he's clearly been thinking about it... Ooh, I'm so excited!

Stephb1986_2

JTR How exciting love! I hope it's soon only another 20 days till christmas yay!!!

Steph xx

jtr2803

OMG ladies so many posts that I can't quote you all in my reply! Just been sweating it out at Zumba and was posting on my phone earlier so I couldn't quite type out the whole conversation :rotfl:.

I did miss a few bits out when I posted, he said it would have to be in Europe somewhere (so his parents can travel I assume) and I suggested Italy or Cyprus and he 'hmmmed'. I was a bit taken aback in all honesty, I certainly wasn't expecting to have a conversation along those lines so I wasn't prepared with any 'is that a proposal' type lines! It was discussed way back in the thread that my OH may already consider us engaged in some way as there was no need for him to actually 'ask', he already knew how I felt and as I said earlier, it isn't the first time he has mentioned it. A while back he told me he still wanted to marry me, when I showed him an expensive island in the Maldives he said we could go there on honeymoon so it isn't like it has never been talked about. Because of that, I'm not holding out any hope really, he has a habit of saying things along these lines and then not acting on them or 'forgetting', although this is possibly one of the most serious conversations we have had on the subject, certainly as far as where/when.

You are all absolutely right, I should probably ask him if he meant it, was it a proposal etc etc but I really feel like I can't , I hope someone understands that? Now the conversation has ended with him saying he would ask his parents if they would travel I feel like I should just wait and see if he says anything more about it in the next few weeks or I will feel like I am pushing the issue and I don't want to force him into it. Arghhhhh I know, I am going round in circles, I should just man up and get him to explain himself and agree to set a date or something! Part of me thinks he will actually say something to his parents, especially as he knows how keen I am on going away to do it and yes, if he really wants them to come then we will need to plan accordingly but then I know what he is like.........


Ps....perhaps he read this thread?!?!! :rotfl:

squ1rrel5

jtr2803 wrote: »

A while back he told me he still wanted to marry me, when I showed him an expensive island in the Maldives he said we could go there on honeymoon so it isn't like it has never been talked about.

Youre going to the Maldives next year right? So do you think he will be treating this as your honeymoon? So perhaps your wedding will be in the next 6 months!!!!!

jtr2803 wrote: »

Now the conversation has ended with him saying he would ask his parents if they would travel I feel like I should just wait and see if he says anything more about it in the next few weeks

He wouldnt mention asking his parents if it wasnt going to be soon would he? Because as soon as he mentions it, its all going to be out in the open and then they will have their hopes up just as much as you!!

jtr2803 wrote: »

You are all absolutely right, I should probably ask him if he meant it, was it a proposal etc etc but I really feel like I can't , I hope someone understands that?

I understand as this is how I felt the other week after the 'non-proposal' but reading your message, it seems to be like the thing you were worried about is true, that he already sees you as engaged and that the next step is (slowly) discussing plans for the wedding.... I would get Christmas and New Year out of the way first just in case he is planning something around this time of year as if he is you dont want to spoil the surprise by blatantly asking him. Perhaps by mentioning the wedding music he was trying to gage your reaction - although I dont normally think men are quite as subtle as this!!!! :rotfl:

If no official proposal has come by January, then casually start a conversation up again - start talking about holidays or perhaps go on you tube and 'accidentally' find one of those songs that he saved. Then just ask him about getting married - I know its not the most romantic thing ever but it would put your mind at rest and you can save all the actual romance for the wedding day!!!!! :j

jtr2803

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Youre going to the Maldives next year right? So do you think he will be treating this as your honeymoon? So perhaps your wedding will be in the next 6 months!!!!!

I don't think so as we booked this one last month and we already have Kenya booked in March so I think it would have to be the year after. The Island I was looking at was £2k each per week so I need to do some serious saving first :rotfl:


He wouldnt mention asking his parents if it wasnt going to be soon would he? Because as soon as he mentions it, its all going to be out in the open and then they will have their hopes up just as much as you!!

I don't think they ever thought he would get married so I guess it will be a surprise for them, like you say, once he has actually said it I guess it kinda becomes official which is why I want to wait and see if he does say anything. Especially as I am pretty sure once he even mentioned it to his mum, she would tell his brothers and his sister.



I understand as this is how I felt the other week after the 'non-proposal' but reading your message, it seems to be like the thing you were worried about is true, that he already sees you as engaged and that the next step is (slowly) discussing plans for the wedding.... I would get Christmas and New Year out of the way first just in case he is planning something around this time of year as if he is you dont want to spoil the surprise by blatantly asking him. Perhaps by mentioning the wedding music he was trying to gage your reaction - although I dont normally think men are quite as subtle as this!!!! :rotfl:

If no official proposal has come by January, then casually start a conversation up again - start talking about holidays or perhaps go on you tube and 'accidentally' find one of those songs that he saved. Then just ask him about getting married - I know its not the most romantic thing ever but it would put your mind at rest and you can save all the actual romance for the wedding day!!!!! :j

To be honest, if this is another one of his saying but not doing moments then I am going to be pretty peeved. That's why I will give it a few weeks at least and then just ask if he ever said anything to them.......

verandi

When will he be seeing his parents next? If it was me there's no way I could not ask him afterwards whether or not he mentioned it to them. I'd just be all casual and say "did you get chance to speak to them about travelling abroad?".

Orrr be evil and go see his parents together, and just drop it in there, "how would you feel about going to...?". And when they look shocked and say "you're engaged?!" then say "well that's what I'd like to know!". :rotfl:

To be honest, I don't know how you're managing to be so cool and calm about it. If my fella had said that to me I think I'd have to ask him, were you serious or not and are we engaged or not? I'd just say I'm sorry but you're really confusing me and I need to know what's happening!

So nice to have some more potentially good news on this thread

jtr2803

verandi wrote: »

When will he be seeing his parents next?

I am sure he said he was going round today to finish off some work in their bathroom, not sure if he would say anything just yet?!

To be honest, I don't know how you're managing to be so cool and calm about it. If my fella had said that to me I think I'd have to ask him, were you serious or not and are we engaged or not? I'd just say I'm sorry but you're really confusing me and I need to know what's happening!

I don't know how I am staying so calm either, trust me it's blinking hard. I would love to be able to think about planning - where/when/who etc but I'm also trying to be realistic and I don't want to set myself up for disappointment!

I will have to bring it up but probably in the new year!

So nice to have some more potentially good news on this thread

I am keeping my fingers crossed!!!