Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

chicacherrycola

I've popped in and out of this thread for a little while now and ladies I feel your pain.


I will have been with my boyfriend for 9 years this Christmas.


I am 27 and have watched my closest friends first get married and now start to have babies.


I just want it to be my turn (that sounds pathetic).


I know what it is like at every birthday or Christmas or holiday to wait and wait and then realise that it wont be happening this time either.


I don't want a big gesture or hell even a big wedding but I would like wedding! Preferably before I'm 30.

newthrift

prettykittykat Oooo it will be lovely Even though you don't get to wake up together Christmas morning, it will soon go and you get the rest of the day then
jojo-baby I know that feeling. You just never know It will come when you least expect it.
chicacherrycola It doesn't sound pathetic at all, hugs!!! Fingers crossed it happens soon, have you spoke about it to see if he has marriage on the mind?

I have some happy news, it was late night shopping Friday 5th at our local town and we went for a look and OH mentioned we would look in the jewelers (which is a local, town grown one) and we found the ring and he purchased :j I get to pick it up on Saturday but then have to hand it over to OH for whenever he decides to pop the question. It is a palladium ring (always wanted platinum but a bit of research shows this is quite equal but cheaper) with three stones in a row all the same size officially will be a nervous wreck whenever he bends down

sazpot

How exciting newthrift! Have you told any friends? It is soooo hard to keep it a secret.

My OH fessed up in March that he had taken time off to shop and really struggled to fine one. He then took time off without telling me in August to shop again and failed miserably.

We went shopping together later in August and ordered one which took 10 weeks to be ready! He picked it up, trying not to let on and this time failing miserably.

The following week we went to Dubai for 5 nights for a holiday and I saw it on the scanner in his backpack at the airport and on the last morning he STILL hadn't given it to me. Cue a grumpy me and a few tears as I was so disappointed that he hadn't bothered to create a time for a proposal, he seemed to think the perfect time would have just appeared!

Since getting home we haven't had much time on our own, he suggested a spa night on Saturday but I have a cold so we didn't book in the end

He has now had the ring for over FIVE weeks and it is driving me mad. This weekend is the first weekend I have mentioned it since Dubai. I was so sad not to get my spa night and FINALLY be officially engaged and tell my friends and family!

newthrift

No we haven't told any friends although our parents do know we have got the ring. Can't wait for Saturday to pick it up, although I am thinking that he might take ages doing it in which case I will be feeling frustrated much like yourself!! I hope he does it soon for you though sazpot, maybe he will do it at random just on an evening at home or something?!

chicacherrycola

ooh newthift that sounds exciting!


It came up a couple of weeks ago as we have various weddings and renewals and whatnot to go to in 2015. He threw a strop and pulled out the 'I love you isn't that enough' card.

PrettyKittyKat

chicacherrycola: Don't worry this is one place you won't be judgedfor feeling that way! We all know how you feel *hugs*. The ladies on here are all lovely

newthrift: oh my to know he has the ring (and you love it) must be killing you! Bet you can't wait to have it sparkling on your finger.

sazpot: Ah how frustrating he didn't do it in Dubai! I always think that it must be horribly daunting to do for a guy though, especially when they know how much it means to you! Fingers crossed the proposal comes soon, and I am sure you will think it is perfect when it happens

I hope when you do get your bling ladies you pop a picture of it on here for us to see! hehe

hieveryone

Don't have the words to say what I want to say, so I'll just say...

"Aaaaarrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!"

cloverfan

hieveryone wrote: »

Don't have the words to say what I want to say, so I'll just say...

"Aaaaarrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Aww hope your ok. Congratulations to everyone who has become engaged since I have last been on here.

newthrift

hugs to you hieveryone

heartbreak_star

I suspect that there is no ring for me this Christmas, but I am being made to feel very special anyway

Hope some of you get the sparkly you want!

HBS x