Botanical blunderings on a budget - good life starts here.

Pippilongstocking

Yeah dont get me wrong, I'm happy enough to do it temporary Uni, happy to scrub floors or weed gravel like I'm doing at the moment, but with the family however, shop hours early and in the evening might not work we'll see I'll apply anyway, OK to juggle like that whilst OH is here (which isn't much), but I'm not one for leaving them unattended too much - hopefully it might work around us all though ................I can't wait until the other job is advertised

Family before money, always. Which is probably why I'm so broke!

YAY for you giving your gran a discount card you're a lovely gal hope the soup went OK.

Uniscots97

I'd feel pretty carp if I didn't give my Gran the card Pippi. Her and my Papa worked hard throughout their lives to make sure they were comfortable in retirement. They spent a lot of savings on their health (ops, hearing aids etc) as they believed that came first. So if I can do anything to make life a little easier for her I will.

The soup? That's tonight tea (need to get some fresh coriander to add to it) along with chicken and mustard mayo sandwiches (cooked chicken the other night, had roast chicken last night and plan to strip the carcass tonight and then boil up the bones for chicken soup.... yum).

MrsMoo2U

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

Dusts off passport......

Morning all, rank here! its like mid winter here. howling gales and sideways rain at the moment. Cold hands as I type but I refuse to put the storage heaters on yet

Ducks to avoid flying baking.

MrsM what about cordial for the extra juice or set it with veggie jelly stuff for a pud or as jelly?
I did think cordial but have no idea how to make that. Veggie jelly - good idea. Will I be able to freeze the juice until I come hom. Sorry being a bit dim
Uni have a hug

Cuppa and the plan for the day

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

Yeah dont get me wrong, I'm happy enough to do it temporary Uni, happy to scrub floors or weed gravel like I'm doing at the moment, but with the family however, shop hours early and in the evening might not work we'll see I'll apply anyway, OK to juggle like that whilst OH is here (which isn't much), but I'm not one for leaving them unattended too much - hopefully it might work around us all though ................I can't wait until the other job is advertised

Family before money, always. Which is probably why I'm so broke!

YAY for you giving your gran a discount card you're a lovely gal hope the soup went OK.

My friends daughter used to work the coop and she often brought home bags of food for free (the 10p stuff that didnt sell) Helped her Mum no end. I hear what you are saying about the big little longstockings being left but (ahem about to put deep serious voice on) they are a little older now and might actually appreciate a bit of space! Sorry if that sounds harsh but as an aunty to a 25 year old and 2 17 year old lads I used to get visits from them to moan that their parents (my brother for 1 and sister for 2) "never treated them like adults and how could they learn how to look after themselves if their Mum/Dad didn't allow them some responsibility" (takes serious voice off). Maybe have a think about how far away you are in an emergency should they need you, how many mornings/evenings are you prepared to do and then build that into a discussion should you get an interview.Besiides they might only want mid day people. Sorry if I sound harsh but as my Nana and Mum always said, if you love somebody you have to give them wings to fly and be there to catch them if they need it. You will work out whats best for all of you I am sure.

Cheery_Daff

((((((pippi)))))))))))) have a hug. Cheri's got a serious point there! Your young'uns are pretty grown up and sensible - I certainly don't think you'd have a charred house or a trashed garden to come back to! You've brought them up well

And good point about the food bargains at the co-op - might double your wages!

Pippilongstocking

Hey up chaps

I know, feel wierd about it all that's all. I know they're grown up enough, can't put it into words really - they've alot of space already, I know they won't burn down the house - but its worth considering what the hours are and seeing if it suits. I promise to do that

The isolation of our house and them being alone really bothers me, as does the responsibility that brings for us all. I can't put it into proper words, but missing meals etc and evenings isn't something I feel worth sacrificing for money, we already sacrifice enough to have this type of life - and I miss out on all the holidays/christmas's too - I don't mind a bit of work encroaching, but I think I've my line in the sand for that one drawn maybe closer than it should be for various reasons. Our spare time together is precious - I know I don't make any sense, we're all very close, and independant. See told you I don't make sense!

Called scary tax office - some outstanding stuff there, having called them, doesn't seem very onerous (famous last words........)

Did one hour paid work, fathoming a plan for other stuff too

Thanks for all the lovely comments I appreciate them and the stern talking too's, even if I'm stubborn, I really appreciate them

Cheri freeze the juice it will be fine - then do something with it - thank you for the aunty-like talk and the reduced food heads up

Uniscots97

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

Hey up chaps

I know, feel wierd about it all that's all. I know they're grown up enough, can't put it into words really - they've alot of space already, I know they won't burn down the house - but its worth considering what the hours are and seeing if it suits. I promise to do that

The isolation of our house and them being alone really bothers me, as does the responsibility that brings for us all. I can't put it into proper words, but missing meals etc and evenings isn't something I feel worth sacrificing for money, we already sacrifice enough to have this type of life - and I miss out on all the holidays/christmas's too - I don't mind a bit of work encroaching, but I think I've my line in the sand for that one drawn maybe closer than it should be for various reasons. Our spare time together is precious - I know I don't make any sense, we're all very close, and independant. See told you I don't make sense!

Called scary tax office - some outstanding stuff there, having called them, doesn't seem very onerous (famous last words........)

Did one hour paid work, fathoming a plan for other stuff too

Thanks for all the lovely comments I appreciate them and the stern talking too's, even if I'm stubborn, I really appreciate them

Cheri freeze the juice it will be fine - then do something with it - thank you for the aunty-like talk and the reduced food heads up

Pippi I think I told you this before (when we met up in queensferry), at the age of 10 my parents moved to live in the middle of nowhere. The nearest people were 3 miles away and my friends 6 miles away. Mum and Dad were out a lot due to extra work to make ends meet (1980's and the high interest rates). Mum used to set me tasks, potting seeds, recording songs from the radio, cleaning out cupboards, hoovering, cleaning the insides of the windows, collecting firewood. I realise now it was to prepare me for life ahead, I was also grateful for that time to read in peace and quiet (something I still love doing..... in fact I love the fact I get peace to read my book during the week so much as OH is on nightshift, but I do feel guilty about it), but Mum and Dad had a few rules (in fact one of them I stick by even now) which was if I was in the house myself the door was locked and the key taken out. Meant they knew I was safe. The long hours job is only temp isn't it? Could you not try it and see if you like it?

MrsMoo2U

Pippi, you make perfect sense and you have obviously thought it through. Sorry for the stern talking to but I read it as being a bit erm Mumlike I often have to have little chats with my brothers and sisters. As an Aunty I can see the bigger picture and as much as I love my nieces and nephews I can be objective about things because I am not their Mum. That was kinda what I was doing with you but you are being objective anyway. I completely understand where you are coming from and if being at home is important to you for those reasons then you do what is in your heart. Money is not everything (although it helps) and compromising should be done only when it doesnt hurt too much. ( a little hurt is good for soul though)

Thanks for the tip on the juice it is now frozzened.

Karmacat

Some good points there, unix, but Pippi, yes, I can *hear* your line in the sand being drawn. You do sound like you've taken the points on board and have decided to disagree still which doesn't awfully surprise me :D:D

Its not crime you're worried about, is it? It goes much deeper than anything that can be explained with such a present day label, it sounds like it, anyway. You can only do as much as you can do. And in the words of the great Marge Piercy, in Woman On The Edge Of Time (the best, most thoroughly thought through feminist future history) "Person must not do what person cannot do".

:kisses3:

MrsMoo2U

Pah I just posted a long post and it is lost. PAH.

Anyways what I said in short
Thanks for tip re freezer.

As an Aunty I often have to have little talks on behalf of nieces and nephews as I can be objective without the Mummy bit creeping in. I thought that was what you were doing being Mumlike Reading your response I realise that it was not that at all and you are being very true to yourself. That is important. I completely understand what you are saying. Life is so short and you shouldn't have to compromise and put money first if it means missing out on lovely life with the kids. You are so right. Not stubborn just know what is and isnt right for your family and that is very very important. I am very proud to know somebody who will compromise but not to the detriment of their morals or principles. Go You.

Cheery_Daff

Makes perfect sense pippi! xxx Quite right too. I get stupidly jittery in our house on my own, and that's surrounded by other houses :rotfl: You do what you need to do, and ignore us all telling you to do something else