Uni's going to try and change her life for the better.....

Lemon_Tree

you sound like my sister she's always getting roped into things. I do still make cards and sometimes make a load when i've got the bug. If we get the house we're looking at then i'll have a craft room so i should be making more as i won't have to keep putting everything away.

my sister has made lots of folding cards for big anniversaries with photo of the couple that she's been given, people have always liked them

Uniscots97

Morning All, I'm in shock ....... stepson paid his dig money first thing this morning! :eek: Ok, only £20 but at the moment every single penny counts. Can't believe I didn't have to chase him for it. Told him it had to be paid today and that friday will be dig money day for him.

Ok, hampers update. I'm getting paid to do it , not a lot but I'm sure I'll enjoy it. Am going to go to Home Bargains tomorrow and get the stuff, they've given me a list of her favourites. Have to get it ready by Tuesday as off on wednesday. Panicked that I didn't have cellophane but its ordered now and it looks like I may get a second order for a nappy cake (and get paid for that too). Ok, I'll only make about £7-£8 on each but its better than nothing.

They've also asked me to start up a website as there's quite a few wanting hampers now for presents and christmas.


I hope you get the house LT, you deserve it. When do you find out?

Uniscots97

Ok, I've been naughty. Put this week's food shopping and some petrol on my credit card. The other car is a fortune in petrol but we don't have any choice at the moment. Am doing Vivatic as quick as I can, was hoping to get to a payout last night but was too tired. I'm sitting at £8 at the moment. My paypal refund for the item I never received went towards the cellophane. The balance for the cellophane again went to my cc. Bad I know!

I'll try and get some tarot done this weekend. Will be going to see my Gran on Sunday. Not sure where we're taking her. Have refused to take money from her (she keeps trying to pay for petrol etc and with everything that gone on and her pension getting reduced we keep saying no).

Have also started my winter preparation. Bought 5 bags of salt, 2 will go to Gran as I have a feeling they will come and dismantle the ramp (even though Gran needs it). They turned up the day before, the day of and the day after the funeral to pick up Papa's stuff he got to help him get about etc (including hand rails etc!)! I mean a little sensitivity doesn't cost anything. I was pretty angry about that one.

Lemon_Tree

that's quite mean isn't it turning up like that.

well done for making a little money on doing something you enjoy, the nappy cakes, it's always good when you can do that.
Just spotted that ebay has a free listing weekend.... i wonder if someone is telling me i should be listing things? guess i should start by sorting out my paypal account where the linked card has expired. i wonder how easy that will be.

re the house - agreed for the flat to go on the market tonight so just got to wait for a buyer and then hope that the house we like hasn't sold by that stage.

Uniscots97

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you LT.

OH being stupid and getting sucked in by stepdaughter and her 'mess'. He thinks stepson is being moody due to not being able to see his sister and others. We've told him we're not stopping him, just to be careful and that we want peace away from his sister and everything to do with her. Told him in no uncertain terms she and the rest are not welcome in my house. He's tried to say that stepson would be nervous about seeing them elsewhere, told him that was carp and no way are they EVER welcome, any of them. I've been through a few weeks of hell and I don't need anything to do with them at all.

Lemon_Tree

you stick to your guns Uni, you have to for the sake of your sanity. You don't need the hassle at the moment with everything which is going on.

Uniscots97

Had tough weekend. Got anniversary card signed just from Gran. I burst into tears. OH getting sucked in again and insisting on dropping off a present next sunday to you know who. Was not happy as I know he will get it chucked back in his face and I'll have to deal with his mood after it. I wish he would just forget they all exist. Bad I know but I know there will be some smart comment made about my family and if I let them know what's happened I know for fact they'll say something nasty. There's no reasoning with people like that. Ok this is probably my emotions talking but why are scum like that allowed to breath, breed and waste our tax money and my Papa and other like him had to suffer?

Ok, sorry counted to ten. No tarot done, was helping sis in law yesterday and took Gran to see film set of world war Z today. Hamper stuff bought, just need to put it together and make the cards.

chevalier

unixgirluk wrote: »

Had tough weekend. Got anniversary card signed just from Gran. I burst into tears. OH getting sucked in again and insisting on dropping off a present next sunday to you know who.

Maybe you need to tell him seriously that it is your or her? If he can't see how unhappy and stressed his continuing involvement is with this person, then maybe you need to think about whether you have a future together. At the very least you need to sit him down AGAIN and tell him how you feel.
Was not happy as I know he will get it chucked back in his face and I'll have to deal with his mood after it. I wish he would just forget they all exist. And you have to wonder why he doesn't, does he feel guilty in some way for how she has turned out? Where is her actual mother in all this? I am not sure you have said or did I miss it?

Bad I know but I know there will be some smart comment made about my family and if I let them know what's happened I know for fact they'll say something nasty. There's no reasoning with people like that. Ok this is probably my emotions talking but why are scum like that allowed to breath, breed and waste our tax money and my Papa and other like him had to suffer?

Partly emotions, but not all. They are not being very nice (understatement) and they are going to put your OH in an early grave if he doesn't stop getting hooked by her especially.

Ok, sorry counted to ten. No tarot done, was helping sis in law yesterday and took Gran to see film set of world war Z today. Hamper stuff bought, just need to put it together and make the cards.

Really sorry to hear about the car, that is a pile of poo for sure. And there is no comeback from the other garage? Glad to see stepson paying his dig money. Good luck with keeping that on track.

Have you thought about going on a DMP to sort out the debts?
chev

Uniscots97

Hi Chev, DMP wuldn't be an option would affect the work I do badly.


The kids real mother is re-married and has just had a baby. Step-daughter is talking to her but its more like accquaintances than mother and daughter. Step-daughter won't be happy until she has her mother to herself and that means the baby has to go. She's selfish and wants to be the sole focus of attention from everyone. I can see (from what we've heard) the cracks appearing in her real mother's marriage and the girl is insisting she gets to spend more and more time with her real Mum by herself (no baby in tow), when she doens't get her way she kicks off. I recognise the signs as she did similar to us. If I took her out somewhere she was fine with me, but if one of my friends came she'd play up something chronic.

Told OH its them or me,so he knows this. After the last few weeks I've had life's too short to muck about so if he doesn't see that she and the rest of the mess needs cut out of his life permanently then I guess I'm probably better off on my own. If he keeps any contact they'll just use him and wear him down. He's lost so much weight with the stress of it. I'm not a parent but how can anyone (in this case your own child/family) put a person through so much torture? The person on the receiving end shouldn't have to put up with that, emotional torture isn't as far as I know part of the deal in unconditional love for a child (or in this case a grown up one)? Surely that has to be a deal breaker?

I wish it were different but they are making it absolutely impossible. He does feel guilty but told him not to, their real mother has and dumps kids (she's done it 3 times), told OH that he did the best he could and hindsight is a wonderful thing (his family told him to avoid her like the plague and definitely do not have kids with her as she's dumped kids alread). I think step-daughter is trying to force her real Mum to abandon the new baby (ironic if you knew the full story belive me) so she can feel better about herself.

OH is tearing himself apart and he says it looks like its wearing me down too (it is big style), worst case I've been through the worst pain already (losing my Grandpa) so if I was to lose OH (if he doesn't keep that lot permanently out of his life) I don't think it would affect me that badly. I know that probably sounds bad, but not sure how much carp I can take anymore. I have a choice to disconnect from that pain. I didn't with my Grandpa.

Lemon_Tree

sending you more hugs Uni, wish i was nearer to take you for a coffee and to give you a shoulder.