Upset after hen night

Tiara_2

That is a really good idea White_Sapphire. I think you've done the right think by asking them not to come to your wedding, but in your shoes I would still feel really hurt by their actions, and it really spoilt your hen night. A fun girly night in with your real friends may be just the tonic you need to get the excitement back in the run up to your big day

White_Sapphire wrote: »

Another thought for you deef - how about having a girlie night in with dvds, wine and pampering? It could be a 2nd hen night and celebration of your true friends party, and you could ask people to bring their favourite film, a bottle of wine, and/or some pampering goodies. If you had it at your house (or whoever's place is bigger/most convenient for people to get to) and everyone contributed a little you could probably do it on a budget of about £10 each.

It would be like drawing a line and starting afresh with just the people you know are your true friends.

x

dawnebabe

Well done for sending the email. I hope you begin to feel better about it soon, & your 'friends' finally realise how they have treated you. I think White sapphire's idea about getting someone else to read any email reply's is a good idea, don't let them upset anymore than they already have, they aren't worth it x

skypie123_2

Deef how are you feeling today?

Has there been any comeback from your email?

Remember you don't have to respond to them. I myself had a clearout of the 'dead wood' in my life too and you will feel so much better for it.

Thinking of you
xx

White_Sapphire

I definitely wouldn't reply to any emails you get back, if I were you. Even if they realise they're in the wrong you've given them plenty of chances before.

x

Scotsbride

True friends are there through the good and the bad and don't make you feel bad about yourself don't worry about it cut them loose and just delete any contact you have from them.

Abbafan1972

How did it go Deef?

deef

Hi all,

Thanks for the messages everyone, I really appreciate your support.

An update:
One of them replied and apologised and seemed very sad that I was so upset. I'm not sure yet how to respond and whether to give her another chance.
The other two have not replied - definitely the right decision made there.

katerinasol

deef wrote: »

Hi all,

Thanks for the messages everyone, I really appreciate your support.

An update:
One of them replied and apologised and seemed very sad that I was so upset. I'm not sure yet how to respond and whether to give her another chance.
The other two have not replied - definitely the right decision made there.

At least she realised that she upset you and didn't try to justify her actions. Has she asked for another chance?

I personally think you should stick to your decision and not seem like a pushover. If she wants to repair the relationship, she should be prepared to do it gradually and put in a lot of effort.

mountainofdebt

I wouldn't - these people have had years of making you feel like poo.

Personally if they had realised that they were bang out of order and apologised first then I might have said let them come but as it took you to call time on the friendship then no I wouldn't and I wouldn't give them another moment's thought.

RainbowDrops

I think doing a U-turn now would be even worse as it would be hanging over your head even more on the day.

Stick to your guns. You don't have to reply straight away.