Rant alert - wedding snob

Mupette

She'll be the one forever in debt, dump the husband for a richer model, spend a lifetime having 'lifts' here a tuck there, all nasty and plastic.


My cousin just had her wedding 20k or was it 22k, had UB40 playing at her do...

I'm sure it was nice, but i can't help snigger when in less than a week she is on facebook asking if there are any part time jobs going..

Ok that may not sound that bad, but bragging about how much the wedding costs, the dress was way to big for her, (facebook pictures, you got to love em) but too small in other places.

Now she is grumbling about needing to work. (a couple of toddlers at home too)

I've never had that much money ever, and to spend on a wedding seems obscene.

ellay864

Dave101t wrote: »

but...were you looking at a zoo venue? if so all she said was technically correct?

Sorry Dave - you've lost me! I'm having a zoo venue but not sure how that makes any of what she said correct?

RainbowDrops

Mupette wrote: »

She'll be the one forever in debt, dump the husband for a richer model, spend a lifetime having 'lifts' here a tuck there, all nasty and plastic.

That's a bit of a bold statement!
The bride sounds a bit crass, but as the OP said, she said she could afford it.
I think this is the inverse snobbery someone else mentioned.
Yes, you don't *need* to spend thousands to have a nice wedding, but it doesn't mean that someone should be shot down if they choose to spend more as they have the budget.

LittlePrincessAnge

Good for you!!
We attended a wedding at the house at Chester Zoo a couple of years ago, it included a VIP trip round the zoo after the zoo had closed & to be honest it was a lovely day & everyone throughly enjoyed themselves, it was something very unusual & a good day was had by all.
Hope you have a wonderful day. xxx

Mupette

RainbowDrops wrote: »

That's a bit of a bold statement!
The bride sounds a bit crass, but as the OP said, she said she could afford it.
I think this is the inverse snobbery someone else mentioned.
Yes, you don't *need* to spend thousands to have a nice wedding, but it doesn't mean that someone should be shot down if they choose to spend more as they have the budget.

no ofc not, sorry with M.S. i don't quite say what i mean, or it comes across as harsh.

I think it was the way this bride bragged, maybe it's the bridezilla in her, i think we all have that, i am definately desperate to hold the inner bridzilla in me at bay.. but i think she slipped out there a little (sorry)

Some people just love to brag, oh i'm having this it cost £thousands etc etc, as if looking down upon us who can't manage or afford it.

ellay864

You're right Rainbowdrops - one of my oldest friends had wealthy parents who had very traditional views on paying for their only daughter's wedding. They had to have a central London venue as groom's family were all coming over on the Eurostart from their home in Belgium, and they wanted to reflect the theme of travel that bride and groom loved so they had ceremony and reception at the Royal Geographic Society. The flowers alone must have cost a few thousand and they had a full free bar all day and evening. But I remember the wedding for being a really relaxed and fun occasion, very moving personal vows, a chance to catch up with a few old school friends I'd not seen in 15 years. It was a lovely wedding but not primarily for the money spent on it, and there was absolutely no 'side' to the family and no feeling of showing off. Fine to spend the money how you want, but there's no need to judge people for how they do things, whether posh or budget

Idiophreak

codemonkey wrote: »

You seem to have a bit of a drum to beat Idio.

Yes, sorry for rather ranting on a different subject -but it's a bugbear of mine that people always go on about how wonderful and inclusive these forums are, when really they're quite hostile to "commoners" with normal spending habits.

codemonkey wrote: »

Is it wrong that I think the cave wedding arriving on a cow would be quite cool?

No. It would be cool. Very cool.

ellay864

LittlePrincessAnge wrote: »

Good for you!!
We attended a wedding at the house at Chester Zoo a couple of years ago, it included a VIP trip round the zoo after the zoo had closed & to be honest it was a lovely day & everyone throughly enjoyed themselves, it was something very unusual & a good day was had by all.
Hope you have a wonderful day. xxx

Thanks Ange, sadly my budget doesn't run to the evening VIP safari thing, we're just having the daytime there. It was a compromise as the zoo means a lot to us, but worth it for me just to have at least part of ourspecial day in our special place

RainbowDrops

Mupette wrote: »

I think it was the way this bride bragged, maybe it's the bridezilla in her, i think we all have that, i am definately desperate to hold the inner bridzilla in me at bay.. but i think she slipped out there a little (sorry)

I agree, like I said, she did sound a bit crass, and it's easy to jump to conclusions.
Fair enough on the mini BZ moment

zcrat41

Pootlefrump - good point about the free booze. We're having an open bar all evening plus a champagne reception. The Champagne we got from Mr T for less that £10 a bottle for pretty good stuff. We're serving the Mr S's version of Pimms and some mighty fine wine found in France for less that £5 a bottle.

I was brought up to believe its the height of rudeness to talk money. I've been highly surprised by the number of friends willing to share their costs and ask me mine. I wouldn't dream of it; it was embaress some friends, make others feel inadaqate/jealous or smug depending on their own!

Story make me laugh tho; loved your comeback to her!