Rant alert - wedding snob

Dekazer

Well done for standing up to her!

I don't think this place is inversely snobby - there was a good thread a while back about how much everyone was spending and it really varies - it's just that this is a forum where we are concerned about the cost and financial implications of weddings, so that's what we discuss.

I've come across wedding competitiveness and it does irk me a little, until I think back over the (maybe 20) weddings I've attended and think about what I've enjoyed most and least... The best weddings stand out becuase of the happiness of the couple, the craic at the party, the friendliness of the other guests etc etc. I can't think that I really noticed the budget each time! The weddings I've not enjoyed have included some really expensive lavish ones.

I just hope I enjoy our wedding because of the things money can't buy, and don't even notice the things we budgeted or compromised on!

Impet_Limpet

I don't think it's the total amount you spend that's important - it's making sure you are not paying over the odds for what you get.

goodgirl80

Why did she have to tell you all the minute details...I would have just said 'skip to the end...'

Idiophreak

Dekazer wrote: »

I don't think this place is inversely snobby - there was a good thread a while back about how much everyone was spending and it really varies - it's just that this is a forum where we are concerned about the cost and financial implications of weddings, so that's what we discuss.

Yeah, sadly it's discussing the "financial implications" where the snobbery starts.

Try, for example, starting a thread using the words "loan" and "wedding" together.

I understand why so many people on this forum are down on the idea of borrowing, for any reason, but it really flushes out the snobbery...it goes something like this:

"I can't believe you're thinking about borrowing money for a wedding...when I got married, it was me and my OH in a cave, we had gruel for cake and we got there riding a cow...it didn't matter to us, it was the happiest day of our lives and we've been married 94 years. We are super-holy and a shining light of dignity - if you want to borrow money to get married you're crass, a fool and generally a horrible human being."

For a lot of "normal" people, having "normal" weddings, using "normal" loans to help their cashflow, this place can be hugely unwelcoming.

neilcrook

Idiophreak wrote: »

"it was me and my OH in a cave, we had gruel for cake and we got there riding a cow...it didn't matter to us,"

My uncle would love it if i travelled by cow - especially if it was his cow

I haven't came across any snobbery but then again i'm the kind of person who ignores it (Very snobby aunt!). I don't necessarily think the budget matters massively, i have been to low and high budget weddings and unfortunately can't remember the detail in either.

Ah well, i won't judge you either way

Idiophreak

neilcrook wrote: »

i have been to low and high budget weddings and unfortunately can't remember the detail in either.

Quite, indeed the high budget ones with open bars seem to be the ones I recall least about

Dekazer

Idiophreak wrote: »

Quite, indeed the high budget ones with open bars seem to be the ones I recall least about

And, oddly, the high budget ones with a cash bar are the ones where I've had least fun. Recently, a very posh hotel charging £7 for a single gin and tonic! :eek: None of us were terribly merry that night I can tell you!

MrsDrink

Love it!! :T

ellay864

I don't have any problem with people spending money on a posh wedding...it's when people think that a posh one is obviously better than a budget one that I get mad. If I had more money I'd spend more and have the whole day at the zoo, but I'm still going to have a great day and I'll be just as married as her ladyship will be

PinkPrincess83

Good on you for sticking up for yourself and the rest of us on here.
I guess shes just one of those people that likes to brag just to make herself feel better than everyone else.

I so hope she decided to venture on here and reads this!!