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Rant alert - wedding snob
ellay864
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Ok I’ll start with an apology…just needed to get this rant off my chest. Actually it’s 2 rants as I typed this and somehow either MSE or my PC lost my post so that’s annoyed me too!
Anyway…I have just had an encounter with the most obnoxious bride-to-be down at my local gym. She came into the gym as another lady who knows me was leaving. I don’t see this other lady that often as it’s rare for me to be at the gym on a weekday during the daytime, and as she left she wished me all the best for the wedding if she didn’t see me before. The new arrival at the gym was on one of the bikes near me and obviously overheard and asked me if I was here to get fit for my wedding day, as that’s what she was doing. Now that annoyed me right away as while I was all sweaty in my baggy Scooby Doo t-shirt, she was there in her nice fitting Nike racer back top and shorts, all tanned size 6 of her – you know the sort!
She asked where I was having my wedding, and thought the zoo sounded ‘sweet’, and asked if it was my second time. When I said yes she said she thought it probably was with me being older. Thanks love!! :mad: She then launched into a full thing all about her wedding – she told me the hotel she’s having it at and I know the place, it is lovely and with a pretty hefty price tag attached to it. She went through everything she was having and said how much everything cost like she was really proud of spending a fortune on everything. Then at one point she mentioned how fun it is looking round for ideas and she had found the recommendation for her string quartet from a wedding forum.
At that point I chipped in (oh and believe me I’m never short of things to say but even I was having trouble getting anything in!) and said I’d found a forum by accident as it was looking for Chester Zoo weddings that brought up this MSE one. She told me that while some forums are good I should steer clear of ‘places like that’ as they’re ‘full of chavvy teenage brides looking for cheap registry office dos with curled up sandwiches in a pub with sticky carpets’. :eek: I was gobsmacked at that and trying to figure out if she was joking, as I really couldn’t believe anybody would just say that sort of stuff, but by then she’d launched onto her next topic which was her dress. She’s getting it from a shop down in Berkshire that her sister is the manager of, and it’s a vintage style by some wonderful designer (don’t ask me, foreign sounding, never heard of!) After she’d told me everything bar what colour knickers she’ll be wearing I had to say how ‘the lady that’s doing my dress has just launched a vintage collection’ – this is where it got fun as she’s seen Linda’s collection in one of the magazines and liked the dresses.
Of course she asked what I meant by ‘doing my dress’, was Linda altering one I’d bought. I took great delight in saying no, I was having a totally bespoke dress, how I’d sat with Linda to come up with a design, chosen my fabric, and how it would be a great fit regardless of my diet efforts as it was being made specifically for me. I enjoyed watching her turn a little green and tried not to laugh as she did say how lovely it sounded (I think it killed her saying that!) and then dropped in how I’d found her on this forum. I went on to say it wasn’t at all chavvy here, how my fellow brides-to-be are a lovely friendly bunch and it’s great to share ideas for getting lovely ideas at bargain prices where we can. I also said that we were proud of the fact we weren’t being ripped off by people who prey on the insecurities of people who feel they have to spend thousands to have a good wedding day. She got very defensive then and said if she could afford it, there was nothing wrong with spending money on her special day; I said I totally agreed but that my issue was with her being so judgemental and that all of us will have special days whether we spend £40K or not. I then got really childish and said I was surprised to see her in this gym (it’s a council leisure centre one and our town doesn’t have the greatest reputation in some respects) and surely she could afford to go to somewhere less chavvy. I then walked out.
I did slightly ruin things at this point as I dropped my water bottle, almost fell over picking it up and kind of lost that ‘superior final word’ moment. :rotfl:
Sorry…am calm now but why do some people have to be SOOOO bloody horrible
Anyway…I have just had an encounter with the most obnoxious bride-to-be down at my local gym. She came into the gym as another lady who knows me was leaving. I don’t see this other lady that often as it’s rare for me to be at the gym on a weekday during the daytime, and as she left she wished me all the best for the wedding if she didn’t see me before. The new arrival at the gym was on one of the bikes near me and obviously overheard and asked me if I was here to get fit for my wedding day, as that’s what she was doing. Now that annoyed me right away as while I was all sweaty in my baggy Scooby Doo t-shirt, she was there in her nice fitting Nike racer back top and shorts, all tanned size 6 of her – you know the sort!
She asked where I was having my wedding, and thought the zoo sounded ‘sweet’, and asked if it was my second time. When I said yes she said she thought it probably was with me being older. Thanks love!! :mad: She then launched into a full thing all about her wedding – she told me the hotel she’s having it at and I know the place, it is lovely and with a pretty hefty price tag attached to it. She went through everything she was having and said how much everything cost like she was really proud of spending a fortune on everything. Then at one point she mentioned how fun it is looking round for ideas and she had found the recommendation for her string quartet from a wedding forum.
At that point I chipped in (oh and believe me I’m never short of things to say but even I was having trouble getting anything in!) and said I’d found a forum by accident as it was looking for Chester Zoo weddings that brought up this MSE one. She told me that while some forums are good I should steer clear of ‘places like that’ as they’re ‘full of chavvy teenage brides looking for cheap registry office dos with curled up sandwiches in a pub with sticky carpets’. :eek: I was gobsmacked at that and trying to figure out if she was joking, as I really couldn’t believe anybody would just say that sort of stuff, but by then she’d launched onto her next topic which was her dress. She’s getting it from a shop down in Berkshire that her sister is the manager of, and it’s a vintage style by some wonderful designer (don’t ask me, foreign sounding, never heard of!) After she’d told me everything bar what colour knickers she’ll be wearing I had to say how ‘the lady that’s doing my dress has just launched a vintage collection’ – this is where it got fun as she’s seen Linda’s collection in one of the magazines and liked the dresses.
Of course she asked what I meant by ‘doing my dress’, was Linda altering one I’d bought. I took great delight in saying no, I was having a totally bespoke dress, how I’d sat with Linda to come up with a design, chosen my fabric, and how it would be a great fit regardless of my diet efforts as it was being made specifically for me. I enjoyed watching her turn a little green and tried not to laugh as she did say how lovely it sounded (I think it killed her saying that!) and then dropped in how I’d found her on this forum. I went on to say it wasn’t at all chavvy here, how my fellow brides-to-be are a lovely friendly bunch and it’s great to share ideas for getting lovely ideas at bargain prices where we can. I also said that we were proud of the fact we weren’t being ripped off by people who prey on the insecurities of people who feel they have to spend thousands to have a good wedding day. She got very defensive then and said if she could afford it, there was nothing wrong with spending money on her special day; I said I totally agreed but that my issue was with her being so judgemental and that all of us will have special days whether we spend £40K or not. I then got really childish and said I was surprised to see her in this gym (it’s a council leisure centre one and our town doesn’t have the greatest reputation in some respects) and surely she could afford to go to somewhere less chavvy. I then walked out.
I did slightly ruin things at this point as I dropped my water bottle, almost fell over picking it up and kind of lost that ‘superior final word’ moment. :rotfl:
Sorry…am calm now but why do some people have to be SOOOO bloody horrible
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LOL, that's made me laugh.:j0
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HAHAHA :rotfl:that made me giggle
snobby b i t c h !!!!!! Cant stand people like that! :T Became Mrs Allison on 23rd April 2011 :T
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LMAO! I'd rather have a chavvy, curled-up sandwiches wedding than have people like her at ours anyday! Wow, what a piece of work.
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It's ok, she'll probably be on the DFW board this time next year when the credit card bills from her wedding catch up with her.
People who can genuinely afford expensive weddings are usually far too polite to boast about their spending. Unless she's a gold-digger who's found herself a rich man.0 -
In the red corner we have...Bridezilla 1, in the blue corner we have...Bridezilla 2. Now, fight!0
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NOOOO!!!!! Please don't call me a Bridezilla - I pride myself on not being one nearly all the time!!0
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pinkteapot wrote: »It's ok, she'll probably be on the DFW board this time next year when the credit card bills from her wedding catch up with her.
People who can genuinely afford expensive weddings are usually far too polite to boast about their spending. Unless she's a gold-digger who's found herself a rich man.
Part of me wishes that was true (the DFW bit I mean) - mean but poetic justice! But I got the feeling mummy and daddy would buy her anything she wanted (I bet she was the first girl at school to get a pony!!)0 -
Ahh the spoilt brat bride... Pity her poor husband who'll be expected to come home with a bunch of roses and something diamond every Friday.0
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well done Ellay
I do love how some people assume MSE forum is for chavvy teenage brides! I joined as it seems to be the only none judgemental wedding forum and ppl actually tell you the truth about your ideas rather than boasting about the £3000 photographer they have who also photographed such and such from Hollyoaks... Ha ha
Well done :beer::DStolen the OH's account so it's Jenna - not Neil:D0 -
Oh brilliant ellay. Best laugh I've had today. Chavvy teenage brides with curled up sandwiches!!
Hopefully you gave her something to think about.Eu não sou uma tartaruga. Eu sou um codigopombo.0
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