Sparkerly's SOA

NeverAgain_2

Sparkerly,

Well done for resisting the chocolate.

I reckon the compulsion to have something naughty but nice can be just as strong as the compulsion to spend money when you know you shouldn't.

I'm speaking from personal experience about the chocolate.

Having managed to resist both compulsions today, you may find it a little easier to resist the next time you are tempted.

That's what I found.

binnie

You are doing well. Wish I could get myself motivated.
I'm a slob at the moment. I seem to be doing nothing but sleeping, need some more energy :rotfl:
I wish you well in your future plans.
xx

Sparkerly

rdchick wrote: »

Hi Sparkerly,

Just read the whole thread - wow you're doing super, we both have just had our lightbulb moments and I think although are debts are different we are still in the same boat, how about we do it together? Always feels better when you have someone to cling on to when things get a bit scary! I have been having little worries today over money, I am scared that I have paid too much too soon, however I have pretty much paid all my expenses so it's now the straight and narrow for me. Going to sell as much as I can this week again, how about doing the same, free listings on eBay this weekend, start putting piccys on the pooter now and it won't seem so dull over the weekend.

We can get through this, we are in the right place, it may take some time but we will learn along the way, lessons that we can take through the rest of our lives

Love and Hugs

Stephie xxx

Thanks Stephie, that sounds like a good plan. A problem shared is a problem halved as they say. Trying to get everything together for a car boot on saturday, spent far too much time lounging around today instead of getting organised With OH haveing a day off tomorrow to spend with me and the kids doesn't seem right to spend the day organising everything.

But I do have some stuff for e-bay so I will get them photographed and loaded then let OH do the rest.

I'm really worried that I have made all the big changes I need to, but the day to day stuff will break me. I have never been very good at resisting temptation, which is probably the reason I am so overweight! But hopefully the next time I feel the temptation I can think back to how I stuck to it today and that will help me resist again. I am hoping I wake up in the morning feeling really proud that I didn't give in and will be back feeling confident again.

Thanks for the pep talk

Sparkerly

binnie wrote: »

You are doing well. Wish I could get myself motivated.
I'm a slob at the moment. I seem to be doing nothing but sleeping, need some more energy :rotfl:
I wish you well in your future plans.
xx

Thats a bit how I feel. The sofa is a great place to sit and think about all the things I need to do without actually doing anything. But my husband gives me a kick up the behind to get me doing stuff - it either I do it or get into an argument.

I see you're also looking for a job - not easy is it. I've started looking and applying, half the time they don't even bother responding :mad: The really depressing job I went for and couldn't even get was as a cleaner! I'm that desperate to work that I will go for anything, but the rejecting gets you down after a while.

Never mind onwards and upwards, and keep going - you'll get there.:)

CH27

The road to being debtfree is very strange.
Sometimes we feel confident. Sometimes we feel low.
We just have to keep plodding on with our eyes focused on the end goal.

paidinchickens

wow, well done and keep on going xxx

binnie

Thanks Sparkerly. yes it does get you down keep applying and applying. I must have applied for well over 60-70 jobs now and only had about four interviews.
I had one on Tuesday so still waiting to see if I have got the job.
I'm doing Ebay, I have a proper little business on there, but it's not always reliable. I do some agency work too, but only get a couple of days a week, and sometimes only one. So yes, it is tough.
I now wish we had never had all those holidays and spent so much on our loans/credit card etc, as now we are having to do without any holidays because we are still paying them back. Somedays I just can't think straight. I want to spend to cheer myself up, but then that lasts a few hours and I get bored again. Then when I get my bills in and can't afford them because of the treats I bought myself, then it's back to square one.
I know in 4 years we shall be mortgage free, so that will be a massive relief.
Take care, and all the best. x

Sparkerly

Just back from the car boot sale and we made £261:eek: Really pleased that we managed to get rid of so much stuff, especially the rings I had sitting in the drawer not being used. Out of that some is being paid into the bank to pay off some of our OD, we have paid the kids for their help, been out for lunch - not very DFW but was exhausted and felt we deserved a treat, and have kept some back for a meal out that has been planned for fathers day, which also co-insides with my dads birthday. We did spend some at the car boot, but I managed to get some birthday/xmas presents. Some of the things left over will go on e-bay this weekend so hopefully that will bring in a bit more money.

Oh is DJ-ing tonight and will be paid for tonight and a job he did at the end of last month so that money will be paid to the OD as well.

I have a couple of bills I need to pay that I forgot to budget for, so I don't think we will make much inroads into the OD this month, but on a positive note we should not have to put anything on our credit card for the first time in months.

Its been a long day, but worth all the effort.

CH27

Go Sparkerly:T

bumble-bee_3

Well done sparkey thats really impressive, well worth a days work :T

I don't know if it helps on the job front and you couldn't do it for all jobs, but I had to find a second job a couple of years ago. I've worked in retail for 24 years so thought I would find something easily, but I didn't even get an interview in our corner shop. It really does knock your confidence, but someone told the next time I put my application in if I didn't hear anything in a couple of days, go in, introduce myself to the manager, sell myself and make sure they can put a face to your application. I'm shy, but desperate I did it, had a friendly chat and told them my experience, how reliable and flexible I would be as I needed the job etc and I got it.

Did I read you were in some sort of financial work, could you set up privately doing something that relates to your experience? Or even advertise yourself that you are available to do cleaning or ironing. I have enough problems keeping on top of my own though, never mind doing someone elses, saying that I may be more keen for £10 a hour

Hope you find something soon and well done for all you have done so far.