wedding invite, sort of.

robert2012

what do posters think of this?

My OH's niece is getting married.

An invite was sent to my OH's widowed sister, who does not live with us, inviting auntie Jean and auntie Helen, my OH, to the wedding.

No mention of me.

Is this normal now, invite the auntie but not the uncle?

onlyroz

Perhaps your invite is implied - i.e. you would be attending as a guest of your partner.

CL

I would assume from the wording that you aren't invited. It may just be that they have very limited numbers and are only inviting aunts/uncles who are blood relations. Odd, but I would get your OH to ask the bride's mother to clarify. If it's only your OH, enjoy a day to yourself and don't get cross. It's probably just about money.

My OH would be over the moon if he didn't have to attend a family function of mine (or his TBH!)

*Louise*

Re post #2 - I didn't think that it sounds implied, else why not just send 'Auntie Helen' her own invite (which would state a partner)

I would be wondering whether it is a very small wedding and this is perhaps a way of keeping numbers to the minimum.

Are you close to your OH's neice? If not, then I could see why she wouldn't invite you if she just wanted her closest family there.

If it's a bigger wedding...then it just seems rude imo.

leos-mummy

perhaps its because your wifes sister is widowed and doesnt have a partner? The neice might not want her to feel lonely at a wedding were everyone seems to be in couples and just invited her and your wife so she would have company?

spadoosh

CL wrote: »

I would assume from the wording that you aren't invited. It may just be that they have very limited numbers and are only inviting aunts/uncles who are blood relations. Odd, but I would get your OH to ask the bride's mother to clarify. If it's only your OH, enjoy a day to yourself and don't get cross. It's probably just about money.

My OH would be over the moon if he didn't have to attend a family function of mine (or his TBH!)

Me too, i could kill zombies all day!!

jetta_wales

It sounds like it was purposeful so I agree that your OH should ask the Mum about it.

melancholly

it can happen due to money - but in that situation, most couples (or a parent) would get in touch to explain the situation to avoid anyone being upset. the general rule is that married couples both get invited and if it's a girlfriend/boyfriend then you invite them if you've met them or if it's long term. there's something a little odd about sending an invite to your OH to another relative though.... it's a bit odd to send it via someone else. (if it is about not wanting a widow to be on her own, i can't imagine just sending out the invite cold; someone should have rung to explain as this isn't what most people would do!)

i agree that your OH needs to make a phonecall. whether you're invited or not, this is a bizarre way to send out invitations.

robert2012

perhaps its because your wife's sister is widowed and doesnt have a partner?

She has a partner she could drag along.

this is a bizarre way to send out invitations

Both sisters agree to that.

leos-mummy

was her partner invited? if not then this may answer your question... it may purely be a money thing and bride is only inviting blood relatives

Idiophreak

robert2012 wrote: »

Is this normal now, invite the auntie but not the uncle?

Put bluntly, do you think she identifies you as her uncle?

I guess it depends how she was when you married her aunt. Often those that she grows up with are thought of as "auntie Helen and uncle Robert" whereas those that marry when she's older are "auntie Helen and her husband, Robert"...