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wedding invite, sort of.

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  • robert2012
    robert2012 Posts: 37 Forumite
    edited 24 May 2011 at 2:24PM
    I guess it depends how she was when you married her aunt

    Her mother hadn't even been born yet.
  • robert2012
    robert2012 Posts: 37 Forumite
    was her partner invited?

    No, as stated in my OP
  • I think Idiophreak has a point- how well do you actually know the bride? If she doesn't actually know you and you only know her through living with her aunt then that may well be why.

    I know I may sound horrible but I didn't even invite my mother in laws OH to our wedding, purely because it was a fairly new relationship and MIL had a history of being quite unsettled, I didn't want the pressure of having to meet someone entirely new on my wedding day.

    I would check via brides mother but I'd also make it plain you're not pressuring for an invite, just checking you'd not been added into the headcount assuming you'd attend only to not turn up and cost them extra.

    Just editting because I've read you've been in their family quite a while! I'd definitely check with the brides mother then as it does seem odd.
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  • Torry_Quine
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    it does seem a very strange way to invite someone and it looks like you aren't invited but I think a call is needed to clarify. Would your wife want to go without you or is she happy to go on her own? In my case I wouldn't be going without my husband and would be shocked that he wasn't asked.
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  • relic
    relic Posts: 2,153 Forumite
    They just phoned.

    They don't like you i'm afraid!

    Sorry!
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  • leos-mummy
    leos-mummy Posts: 398 Forumite
    robert2012 wrote: »
    No, as stated in my OP


    then i wouldnt worry too much. probably a money thing
  • jetta_wales
    jetta_wales Posts: 2,168 Forumite
    I wouldn't be going without my partner in that situation.
    "Life is what you make of it, whoever got anywhere without some passion and ambition?
  • January20
    January20 Posts: 3,769 Forumite
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    I wouldn't be going without my partner in that situation.

    I would be the same! Especially if the niece has known the OP all her life! I wouldn't dream of inviting my uncle to my wedding or any other family celebration but leave out his wife! Blood relative or not, they are married so she is my aunt! I have to say I would be quite offended!
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  • melancholly
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    January20 wrote: »
    I would be the same! Especially if the niece has known the OP all her life! I wouldn't dream of inviting my uncle to my wedding or any other family celebration but leave out his wife! Blood relative or not, they are married so she is my aunt! I have to say I would be quite offended!
    quite. if money is a huge issue, then have an immediate family only wedding - far better than inviting half of a couple like this. people are also very understanding (or they should be!) if things are explained politely. this is nothing like that!
    :happyhear
  • mrcow
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    It could be a money thing.

    But it's far more likely to be that they don't like you or aren't that close to you and so don't particuarly want you there.
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