wedding invite, sort of.

jojitsui

I think it is really odd. I am getting married away so I don't have the whole family wedding stress thing but I wouldn't dream of inviting only one part of a couple (unless I had never meet them and the relationship wasn't serious)
I would get your OH to phone just to check. I would try not to take it too personally (I would though)
If your not invitedn get your glad rags on and have a good night out while your OH is at the wedding wishing they weren't

betti911

A similar thing happened to my husband, then fiance, and I. It was a friends wedding and I was invited to the evening part of the wedding on my own. I didn't know anyone who was going except the bridal party. I sent them a gift, wished them all the best but stayed home that evening.

Its a strange thing to do to a friend never mind a member of your family.

Tebheag

My Mum had something similar where she was invited along with my Grandfarther to a family weddening we know they where keeping numbers down as had such a large family so had doubled my mum and grandfather togeather as they where meant to be each others partner. does not sound like you are invited sorry to say.
I know my mum never went partly due to invite as she would have to travel on her own my grandfarther lived in scotland on the islands near my cousin where as my mum was down in England !

euronorris

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Since when have your aunt and uncle become distant relatives though. It seems very strange to invite one and not the other.

I have quite a lot of aunts and uncles (on my Dad's side) who I've only ever seen on a handful of occasions due to a) they were living in the North of the UK and we were in the South and b) neither families seemed to make a huge effort to stay in contact.

So, I barely know some of my aunts and uncles (and neither does my sister), but that didn't stop my Dad wanting all of them invited. It just wasn't financially feasible to have them all there, and so she said no in favour of choosing relatives she IS close to (some cousins, and some aunts and uncles on my Mum's side).

Plus, my Dad had this habit of saying so and so needs to be invited, oh but you can't invite them without inviting these people too etc etc. Which is all very nice, but if he had his way, my sister would've had to accomodate about another 50 people! :eek:

euronorris

You know what it could be. It could be that the bride's mother insisted that auntie A and auntie B were BOTH invited, and so the bride said 'fine, I'll invite them both, but then I can't invite their OH's'. And then decided to simplify things by sending one invitation to just one of the aunts.

Not the best way to do it, I agree, but for all we know the bride's mother may have said that she would call the aunts ahead of the invites to explain, and it simply slipped her mind.

euronorris

Also, maybe the bride only had the address for one auntie and not the other?

soup

.....they don't like you.

Olokia

My fiance was invited to his cousin's wedding and I wasn't. I know it wasn't anything to do with money or space as they had plenty of both. I think I was just forgotten.

He went anyway but I wish I had been invited because I have never met most of his family. I have to invite all his family to my wedding (MIL's orders) so was a little bit annoyed that I would end up not knowing about 25 people out of 50 at my own wedding. Turns out that I will be meeting them at a memorial in a few months so although I wish it had been a better occasion at least I will see them first.

I really really want to only invite the cousin and not his new wife but I'm not allowed

brians_daughter

at my wedding i only invited 'blood' aunt and uncles.

We had a 'small' wedding but my mum has 7 sisters and my dad has 4 bros/sisters...if we included aunts, unlces and the younger children we would then have to invite the older children and 11 aunts/uncles actually became invites for 40 people on myside.

Then my oh had 3 aunts, add uncles and cousins to this and we were reaching almost 65 people (not inc parents, grandparents and our own children plus a handful very close friends . The church only held 55!!

We felt we couldnt invite aunt/and uncles as well as partners as they all were at different stages ie some had beem married 40 years whilst others had been with their oh's 6 months. I felt it rude to ask Uncle Gordon just cause he'd been married into the family 43 years then not invite Aunty Trishas oh who we sawa lot more of and were actually closer to even tho they had only been together 12 months!

HOWEVER! We did go and visit every aunt and uncle and expalin the reasons why and all relatives were invited to the evening reception. They were all absolutely fine when we showed them how we had arrived at our decision... if we had simply sent invites omitting uncles/cousins etc all hell would have broken loose!!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: