Eldery Neighbour keeps knocking on our door - help please.

belfastgirl23

Yeah I didn't find the humour funny at all either - I really feel for the poor lady at the centre of this and feel quite upset and worried about her. OP look at it this way, at least you're nice to her, I'd worry that someone else might be a lot less nice - she's very vulnerable. I personally am glad she's coming to your door, although I can really see how it's difficult for you as well.

I wonder if calling the police would be an option? They're the detectives after all and they're no longer a force but a service.

Please do help her OP - some day this could be you or someone belonging to you...do as you would be done by. You won't regret it.

dontone

Thanks everybody so far (apart from strap on person)
A bit of update.
I told DH about the incident earlier and described the old lady in question. Just as I was talking, she walked past with a young lady and DH went outside to ask if she was ok.
He mentioned "audrey" to the young lady, but couldn't get anything out of her because the old lady kept butting in saying "I knocked - she goes there" etc etc. The young lady (presuming it's her granddaughter) did apologise, but couldn't say much because grandma kept talking. Anyway at least someone is aware of it, and this lady isn't by herself. And we now know where she lives because we looked out at the right time and saw them walking up a path to her house.
Fast forward an hour later and the old lady was by herself outside our front window staring in like she's looking for someone, it's very spooky tbh, but I feel a little more comfortable knowing where she lives and she's not alone.
My OP earlier was when I was seriously freaked out and I'm just a bit worried about my dog, who is entitled to go in the garden and is a little boisterious around strangers and has absoutely no road sense hence my gate concern. Nothing to do with not caring or anything like that, I realise that these situations have to be dealt with sympathetically and I do feel sorry and have a lot of empathy towards this lady, I just wanted to help her but wasn't sure how.
I'm sure that others would be concerned about not only this lady, but about making sure anything/anybody they hold dear to be ok as well.

meritaten

hun, this lady is probably living in her head back in the past when Audrey lived in your house. The kindest thing you can do is gently say that Audrey isnt there right now and escort her home. Please dont let her wander off - ask her to come in and sit her down while you get your shoes etc. Now that you know the young lady by sight, could you stop her and tell her what is happening? she may have no idea that the old lady is getting out! she may even be a carer rather than a granddaughter.
This is so sad - I realise you dont know this lady and dont have any responsibility for her - but in my nans wandering days (and nights) there were so many kind strangers who took her back home (she was like ruddy Houdini - how she got out is often a mystery), not to mention the local cops who got used to giving her rides home in the police car. and to make my aunt feel better used to joke about being 'Phylls taxi service'!

pigpen

well if the younger lady has any sense she will come see you without the older lady!

relic

meritaten wrote: »

Well it didnt make me laugh! my nan used to wander off (Alzhiemers) and for a while was convinced my grandad was still alive and her daughters in school and didnt recognise the grown-up versions. When you have had to deal with this and the even worse symptoms later on - it isnt funny and I honestly considered reporting the post. Its NOT how people normally post here on marraiges (more like down in the Arms), and if it ever becomes the norm up here where sane people post - then I would be finding another forum.

Oh god, get over yourself.

It was a light hearted post, my grandparents both ended up having alzheimers. Fair enough if it isn't your type of humour, I apologise, but don't go on a rant like you're the only person to ever be affected by such a disease.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

VfM4meplse wrote: »

You would need a diagnosis of AD before the AD society could help. Confusion may not necessarily be caused by AD, there may be a number of medical reasons for this. Social services is a much better bet at this stage, they can at least note this lady's vulnerability and route to her GP.

My first thought was Alzheimer's as my mother had it before she died and was similar to this lady.

Reading your post then reminded me that dehydration can do this as can hormone problems, I'm sure there are quite a few others.

Does she have family that visit her? Or does anyone of your neighbours know how to contact family in case of an emergency.

The other side as well is that her family may know and still be burying their heads in the sand and not wanting to acknowledge that mum/aunt etc is developing the disease.

dreavi

relic wrote: »

Oh god, get over yourself.

It was a light hearted post, my grandparents both ended up having alzheimers. Fair enough if it isn't your type of humour, I apologise, but don't go on a rant like you're the only person to ever be affected by such a disease.

Dont worry yourself Relic, Your original post was the first time I have ever genuinely laughed out loud on this site.

OT yeah maybe a call to the Council or a Mental Health Charity is your best bet

jess1974

Don't answer the door without checking who it is first, i do this so i don't have to put up with annoying salesmen, if it is the old lady just pretend your not in.....

scooby088

This just goes to highlight that our society is failing older people as well as everybody else, we deserve better this old lady deserves better.

VfM4meplse

Errata wrote: »

The Alzheimers Society does not need a diagnosis of AD, it helps many people who have the many different types of dementia, and also helps their relatives.

But how do you know that the patient even has a diagnosis of dementia, other than a lay diagnosis through this thread?