Eldery Neighbour keeps knocking on our door - help please.

dontone

Hi there.
I know that this probably doesn't belong in this part of the forum, but this section always comes up with sensible, helpful advice so that's why I'm posting here - Here goes.
I'm getting a little freaked out at a eldery neighbour over the road who keeps coming to our house. She keeps knocking on the door and asking for "Audrey". Obviously Audrey (and I don't know a Audrey) doesn't live here and I have tried to explain it to her, but today she got rather annoyed and said "well Jill said she was here"
Then she reckoned that Jill was next door to me and she was going to tell her off, but there is no Jill. When I explained that to her she got a bit sweary and huffy.
Whats worrying is that I also have a dog and I'm having to tie the gate up because the garden is a corner plot and all she has to do is open the gate and if he's around he can easily get out and onto the road. It's not fair for anybody like the postman who probably have to faff about trying to untie the string. This lady also turned up with a dog and mine was at the back door going nuts (where she was), so she told mine to be quiet.
I'm just getting a bit concerned especially after today because I could see she was getting frustrated and I don't want her getting to the point of lashing out IYSWIM.
Can anybody help with any suggestions as to how to deal with it please?

relic

Answer the door wearing a strap on.

euronorris

Maybe Social Services can help? If she is getting confused about her neighbours, she could end up wandering the streets lost and confused, as a previous neighbour of mine used to

goodgirl80

Please call:
Barnsley Office

Alzheimer's Society

Tel: 01226 296301

melancholly

i think the worry is that there is an elderly lady on her own who seems to be getting very confused. the priority isn't how can i avoid her lashing out at me, but how can i get her some help that she clearly needs - isn't it

do you know anyone else on the street who knows her at all and who might be able to contact family/friends? the suggestions above seem absolutely spot on. this is more than her being an inconvenience to you.... it's someone who, on the face of it, needs help and support. have some sympathy/empathy and try to get some authorities involved.

moomoomama27

Definatley call social services. Tell them what you have typed here, and give her details to them. It sounds like she's very confused and probably needs someone to care for her at home, or go somewhere where she can be cared for properly. Don't leave it, because if she has no friends or relatives then she won't have anyone checking on her, which could make her worse.

goodgirl80

yep, if you know her name and address social services will be able to find out if she has a CPN and perhaps ask them to attend

VfM4meplse

goodgirl80 wrote: »

Please call:
Barnsley Office

Alzheimer's Society

Tel: 01226 296301

You would need a diagnosis of AD before the AD society could help. Confusion may not necessarily be caused by AD, there may be a number of medical reasons for this. Social services is a much better bet at this stage, they can at least note this lady's vulnerability and route to her GP.

goodgirl80

VfM4meplse wrote: »

You would need a diagnosis of AD before the AD society could help. Confusion may not necessarily be caused by AD, there may be a number of medical reasons for this. Social services is a much better bet at this stage, they can at least note this lady's vulnerability and route to her GP.

that's true but if she already has links with the local office they might know about her

pinkmami

Have you asked neighbours about her family? Maybe you could be in touch with them. Otherwise give SS a call.

Poor girl.

Relic - I did LOL when I saw your post!!

dontone

melancholly wrote: »

i think the worry is that there is an elderly lady on her own who seems to be getting very confused. the priority isn't how can i avoid her lashing out at me, but how can i get her some help that she clearly needs - isn't it

do you know anyone else on the street who knows her at all and who might be able to contact family/friends? the suggestions above seem absolutely spot on. this is more than her being an inconvenience to you.... it's someone who, on the face of it, needs help and support. have some sympathy/empathy and try to get some authorities involved.

Whoa hang on. I do have some sympathy for the lady, and I do appericate some of the advice on here (strap on post unnessecary). But what I forgot to mention is that although I have a rough idea, I don't exactly know where she lives (I know it's over the way), and I have seen her once walking with somebody but that was before this started, so I don't know if she lives alone etc.
I don't want to turn my house and garden into a place where I have to lock my doors and tie up my gate all the time.
I have seen how some poor old people can turn very nasty and aggressive through confusion which is no fault of there own, through my last job. It's just that it has never affected me personally until now, that's why I got a little freaked out and a bit scared because anytime she's turned up I've been on my own.
So it's not a case of inconvience, I just wanted some advice because it is a main road where I live and I don't want her getting upset and causing anybody or herself harm.
I'll have to follow her I suppose next time I see her, then call SS.